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I'm sure some of you will think I'm cruel and callous, but I need to know if anyone has ever felt the same way. Im 21 years old and recently found out I am pregnant by my bf of 5 years. We just bought a 3bdrm house and everything seemed great until this news. He's sooo excited!! Already kissing my tummy and stuff, but I'm devistated. He knew that I was incredib;y pro-choice, but he wants to have it. He says it's my body, but he just lost his mom, and I know that he'd be so hurt if I had an abortion. I pray everynight that I'll miscarry, and I don't want to lose my body! I have no attachment to whatever's inside of me and I tell it I want it to die, which makes me feel even more guilty. I'm miserable...I haven't even graduated from college yet, and now this..Any advice ↓
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| Name: Sarah D. | Date: Apr 28th, 2006 1:27 AM |
| all i got to say is every mom i know has had the same thoughts you have even i did when i had my twins i didnt want them or anythingto do with them,but you will grow more attached as the baby grows,how far along are you? dont decide anything yet or you may regret it later. ↑ |
| Name: Sarah D. | Date: Apr 28th, 2006 1:28 AM |
| and by the way im 21 and have twins (1 years old) and am pregnant again (9 wks.) and im in college i promise its possible to do it. ↑ |
| Name: Vicki | Date: Apr 28th, 2006 1:32 AM |
| Hey Kassie have you ever thought about adoption? ↑ |
| Name: Rox | Date: Apr 28th, 2006 4:16 AM |
| I agree with Sarah. I myself am going to miss my freedom and I already miss my body (8 months now) but I have grown attached to her. I worry about my marriage too and I had just started going back to school when I found out. Sometimes abortion can cause you to never be able to have children. Overtime I have seen her as a gift and fallen in love. I agree with Vicki too. At the end of it all if you still feel the same look into abortion. Anyway, you are not alone in your feelings. ↑ |
| Name: Rox | Date: Apr 28th, 2006 4:17 AM |
| Sorry I meant adoption. ↑ |
| Name: Kassie | Date: May 3rd, 2006 7:32 PM |
| Thank you CHastity! It's refreshing to hear words of encouragement. I'm so sorry to hear that you can't conceive. I think it's cruel that people like me, and so many other unprepared girls can get pregnant, but the deserving couples always struggle. Don't count yourself out yet. The same thing happened to my fiance's mother. They tried for 12 years, and you know what? She gave birth to healthy boy at 42 years old. Never get discouraged...that's what everyone keeps telling me. ↑ |
| Name: denise | Date: May 3rd, 2006 8:06 PM |
| to the person that wrote "to chasity", you need to go back and read what Chasity said, how dare you call her a bitch, she does know what it is like she has had 3 miscarriages, one at 5 months along and she is no longer able to concieve. This is a place for encouragement, not judgement. ↑ |
| Name: TO DENISE | Date: May 3rd, 2006 8:41 PM |
Name: chasity • Date: 05/03/2006 15:15:22
Kassie,
]]Don't listen to the "YOU BITCH" person..... You will go through so many different feelings. That person isn't worth your time.
To the person who sent "YOU BITCH". I think that was uncalled for. This girl has enough bad feelings and thoughts in her head. She doesn't need more negative thoughts. She needs your help and prayers......[[
SHOW ME WHERE IN THIS RESPONSE DOES IT SAY CHASITY MISCARRIED? It does not say that. ↑ |
| Name: Kassie | Date: May 3rd, 2006 9:56 PM |
| I have never heard such bitter one-sided persons in all of my life. "Keep my legs closed" Wow...I have been w/ my boyfriend for 5 years and I am a National Dean's List student. I don't party nor do I drink. How can you stereotype me b/c I am dealing w/ an unwanted pregnancy? Obviously, you have had some trying times in your life, and for that I offer my deepest sympathy. How does degrating someone lessen your pain? ↑ |
| Name: Kassie | Date: May 4th, 2006 1:39 AM |
Denise, why are you taking the fact that I'm not attached to my child yet so personally? I have not abused my body nor have I done anything to harm it. I found out I was pregnant less than 2 weeks ago. There seem to be other women who are not automatically attached to their fetus. You seem like an incredibly critical woman who would not teach your children open-mindedness.
Where do you get off judging me? It's not like I'm abusing my baby. There are a lot worse people out there than me. And if I'm so horrible, then why do people give their children up for adoption everyday. You are simply ridiculous, and the fact that I don't use drugs or drink is my way of trying to reinforce the fact that the reason I don't want this baby has nothing to do with me wanting to be young and party.
WHy do you think I'm so crazy? So every woman is supposed to feel like you do? What about post-partum depression, and women feeling like they don';t want their baby's after they were born. I've had friends and family like that. You want to talk about a b***h!! ↑ |
| Name: Sarah S | Date: May 4th, 2006 2:09 AM |
Kassie,
I am 23, my husband is 21. We always planned on having kids..lots of kids. His best friend went to Iraq..we moved up the wedding...I got pregnant on my wedding night. It sounds romatic, but now I am just about 6 months pregnant and dealing with a brand new marriage. I guess...things don't always happen the way you want, or more so, in the time frame you expect. In the begining I was so scared. We are young, in so much debt from the wedding...was having this baby the best for both of us?
Then I thought about it, I have been with my husband for three years. I could have gotten pregnant hundreds of different times. As you could have in your five year relationship. There was any given time you "could have" gotten pregnant. But just like me, now is the time. I am not a hugely religious person, but since this happened, I am leaning towards the fact that things happen for a reason.
If you are not in the right position in life to care for a baby, maybe now is not your time--maybe the baby growning in you right now is the perfect match for a couple that has been trying for years.
I read through everything on here, and seriously, it seems like someone is looking for sound advise, and all that comes back is a bunch of high school bickering. This is an on-line forum, not bitch-fest 2006. Grow up.
Kassie, if you really think that you can not handle being a parent, please consider those who want and have to adopt. I know families that would sell all they had for a chance to look at a baby and call it their own. I can understand that now is not your time....but try and understand that your baby may be ment for someone if not you.... ↑ |
| Name: chasity | Date: May 4th, 2006 2:14 AM |
| Thank You, Denise..... This goes out to the person that sent TO DENISE and TO CHASITY..... This is the post that I sent eariler.(6th one from the top) You will see that I had 3 miscarriages and I lost a baby boy at 5 months and buried him..... SO, HERE IS THE RESPONSE THAT SAYS THAT I MISCARRIED..... Look better next time, before you make an ass out of yourselves.... I am not an ungrateful B**** and I do know what it is like to lose a child mid-pregnancy and I know what it is like to bury him and to visit his grave all the time. (To take a christmas tree and stuff animals to his grave.) I know how to treat people and how to pray for people.... Do either of you???? ↑ |
| Name: denise1 | Date: May 4th, 2006 2:21 AM |
| Again to the person who keep writing to.. you are making a fool of yourself go back and read the posts, so sorry for your lost Chasity and that you have to defend yourself to stupid people who can't read ↑ |
| Name: sue | Date: May 10th, 2006 8:30 PM |
| You wouldn't be here if your mom aborted you -- abortion is stopping a beating heart -- a life -- a child! ↑ |
| Name: To Sue... | Date: May 10th, 2006 8:35 PM |
Don't you think Kassie knows what abortion is??? She just posted stating the following!!
Kassie • Date: 05/03/2006 15:12:44
I am trying to accept my situation, and if it wasn't for God, I would have already had an abortion. ↑ |
| Name: peaches | Date: May 11th, 2006 3:06 PM |
| i honestly felt like that at first because i was worried about my education. i havent even graduated from high school yet. plus i wanna go to college and make somethin of myself. but later on i realized how much i love my boyfriend and how many good moments we will have 2gether especially with a baby. then i realized that i'm just gonna have to start workin harder and live for me and my baby. i'm only 4 months and already inlove wit my baby. i cant wait til i see her., i hope she look just like her sexy daddy. lol but you'll get used it gurl. dont worry bout that. ↑ |
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