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| Name: Christina | Date: Feb 19th, 2006 5:26 PM |
| How did you get pregnant? I actually know quite a few gay women and the thought of having sex with a man discust them! As far as you being pregnant, I don't know you so I can't make a decision whether or not it was a good or bad idea. However, I wouldn't base it on you being a lesbian. Alot of people are close minded about this subject and have alot of hatred for others that are different from them. I know a lesbian couple though who would very much make a loving home for a child, even more so than some man/women couples that I know. Now that you got pregnant, it's up to you to make this a good idea. ↑ |
| Name: elle | Date: Feb 19th, 2006 5:30 PM |
| Does your partner know you're pregnant? Usually things work out better when both parents are on the same page...but whether she knows or she doesn't, you're going to be a mommy! Best wishes, and check out the "Alternative Family" forum. There might be people in your situation who can give you advice. ↑ |
| Name: Tia | Date: Feb 19th, 2006 5:31 PM |
| We tried that sperm bank. The results were actually very well. I'm just a little nervous being my first time pregnant. And the fact, is my baby going to be confused? ↑ |
| Name: Tia | Date: Feb 19th, 2006 5:38 PM |
| Thanks for the advice Elle. And support! ↑ |
| Name: Christina | Date: Feb 19th, 2006 5:39 PM |
| Well, I can't give you advice on that one. I'm pregnant for the first time, but I'm with the babies father. I'm sure they have good books on that subject that you could read. Just look them up on the internet or something. I'm sure there's gotta be, there's a book for everything nowadays. Or yeah, go to the "alternative family" forum and see if they have any advice for you. Not that I'm pushing you away, I just don't really know what to say. I'm sure there is a proper way to go about it and a certain time to tell her that she just has two mommies. Good luck, and congratulations! ↑ |
| Name: elle | Date: Feb 19th, 2006 5:39 PM |
| Babies need love. They don't care if it's from a man and woman, two women, two men, or a single parent, or any other combination. If you can give your baby love, that's all he or she will need. ↑ |
| Name: Tia | Date: Feb 19th, 2006 5:46 PM |
| Well thanks you guys, and I will try that outher forum you two mentionted. Thanks and good luck to you as well. Bye ↑ |
| Name: amy | Date: Feb 19th, 2006 6:46 PM |
| my comment is da same is elle. my auntie is gay and dey have both brought up my cousin from he was a young baby n he is now 15 n he loves dem both. he is a happy child and is doing really well. so dnt u worry as long as u love ur baby he/she willalso love you and ignore any1 who tells u different. hope i made u feel better. ↑ |
| Name: Maria | Date: Feb 19th, 2006 8:14 PM |
| No offense Tia, but it is too late for you to ask whether it's a good idea or not (since you're already pregnant). ↑ |
| Name: jo | Date: Feb 19th, 2006 9:13 PM |
| you can't believe this post. it sounds made up by a troll. ↑ |
| Name: to jo | Date: Feb 20th, 2006 5:48 PM |
| y does it sound made up? ↑ |
| Name: preggy with #2!!! | Date: Feb 20th, 2006 6:00 PM |
| to tia I know several gay people guys and girls they are the some of the best people I know hope it works out. what are you going to call eachother who is just going to be mom? I know gay people that did that and they both are mom they have 3 kids now all girls. the drs were worried them being gay likeing other women with girls but they realized that they weren't going to harm those kids and they were fine with it. Good luck ↑ |
| Name: Gill | Date: Feb 21st, 2006 10:06 AM |
| Maria. I assume Tia is looking for reassurance, not for us to tell her what to do. ↑ |
| Name: jo | Date: Feb 21st, 2006 2:21 PM |
| "y does it sound made up? " Yes it does sound made up! ↑ |
| Name: Nora | Date: Feb 21st, 2006 3:46 PM |
| CONGRATS TIA!! and who cares what people think about you and your gf having a baby.. if you 2 are happy and stable, then that's all that matters... It shouldnt matter if the baby has to have a mommy and a daddy to give it all the love he or she needs. and Hey Jo... if you think it's made up then ignore the post/topic and go some place else... ↑ |
| Name: tay | Date: Mar 17th, 2006 10:29 AM |
| look fay its me tay another gay! ↑ |
| Name: Use logic | Date: Mar 17th, 2006 10:02 PM |
| I think that men have a unique contribution to a child they live with, as do women. Each unique. I think it is wrong for us to underestimate either parties contribution. I know this is not a 'popular' belief in today's world, but let's look at today's world without our rose colored glasses. We are not in the best of shape. Our teenagers and young adults are struggling with a multitude of issues that are a result of not having healthy male and female relationships in their lives, but we deny this because our men don't want to grow up and our women do not want to be selfless enough to develop healthy marriages. So instead of recognizing their difficulties, we tell them that they are 'just fine', but looking at the whole of society, we see that this is not the case. If we were 'just fine' divorce would be rare, abortion rare, children would not be shipped off for others to raise, we would be responsible for our own actions and our own children. 2/3 of us would not be taking anti-depressants. When our marriages suffer, our children suffer, and eliminating either a daddy or a mommy from the picture is only going to hurt our problem more. Underestimating the role of father and mother can only harm us. But Tia, now that it is done. I would strongly recommend you get stong male figures to be active daily in your child's life. Yes, with some men, it would be better if there were no men in the child's life if that was the only option. But with men who are the way men are supposed to be, responsible and mature, then a child is far better off with such men in their daily life. And suffers when they are not. Mom Nature knew best when she designed a child to have both a man and a woman to make a child. Screwing up the equation is not a good idea. ↑ |
| Name: Tina | Date: Mar 18th, 2006 4:15 AM |
| the babies first word will be MAMA, 2nd word MAMA, only problem is, you wont know he/she is meaning it for! ↑ |
| Name: Fay | Date: Mar 18th, 2006 4:18 AM |
| Lmao, Tay, lmao, your right, there is another gay, how are you today tay, its me Fay! by the way, im not gay, and tia i think your pretty silly to get pregnate with your patner being a female, think think girl, what good are you doing for this child later on, anyway i had my say, so tay, how are you today? ↑ |
| Name: tay | Date: Mar 18th, 2006 7:02 AM |
| hi fay, me tay, nice 2 c u hay! i say, i no your not gay ,because your in a pregnant way, unless your gay, like tia i say, r u due in may, this is a fun game we play, dont u say? ↑ |
| Name: Fay | Date: Mar 18th, 2006 9:56 AM |
| No tay, Im not due in May, i had to say may to rhyme with Fay, Lol Tay, I feel goofy today, this is all too funny isant it tay! I like you tay, You make my day, im glad i met you Tay, Im fay! Im due in sept but thats okay, cause september is just after May! okay, ive lost the plot, i feel it Tay, How do you feel Tay today! Ok I really want to meet you and have a real convo soon, this is just toooo funny LMAO, isant Tay, ok Tay Ill be on my way, Bye from me your Nutty friend Fay! ↑ |
| Name: tay | Date: Mar 19th, 2006 5:07 AM |
| hi fay its tay this site is fun reading hey no need to watch soaps i say with leesa and jasmine m hay! i wonder what they will come up with in may? hope u got to wash off the clay you know u really make my day! lol this is heaps of fun have a great weekend where are you from? ↑ |
| Name: Fay, | Date: Mar 19th, 2006 8:53 AM |
| how are you today, Im from Australia, how about you Tay? I know what you mean about leesa ans jasmine, alot of them around i say, this is so much fun this game we play, I know you agree with me, oh tay, we are so alike lol tay lol yay, anyway im also glad i got off the clay, but today i also fell in hay, but thats okay cause im not gay!~ ↑ |
| Name: My opnion | Date: Mar 19th, 2006 4:03 PM |
| I personally think its a TERRIBLE idea.I'm sorry but I think its just not moral.a baby Should NOT be raised in a gay family.What are you going to teach that baby that having 2 mommies is okie. That poor child is going to grow up having so many issues. I just don't think its fair on the babies part.I just don't think 2 gay people should have babies.In my opinion. ↑ |
| Name: Nora -- To my opinion | Date: Mar 19th, 2006 4:53 PM |
| I have a couple straight as a stick friends that grew up in gay families, and they turned out to be the most open-minded and understanding people i know...they are no way confused about anything.. they understand the relationship their parents have.. and they DO NOT JUDGE people until they get to know them.... Hell... One of my best friends grew up in a gay father household.. and he's getting married in 2 months to a WOMAN.. What's so messed up about that? I met his dad's and they are typical 40-something gotta watch football and nascar while drinking beer guys... one of the guys has his own kids from a previous marriage, and all of them accept their father's new partner.. Dont be a close-minded person who is conformed to society standards...It's not morally right to tell someone how they should live their life, just because the rest of society condemns it.. would you like if someone told you how to raise your child? Or would you like it if someone told you that if you had your kid out of wed-lock, no one is going to help you??? I doubt it. ↑ |
| Name: Time will prove us stupid | Date: Mar 19th, 2006 8:52 PM |
| "It's not morally right to tell someone how they should live their life, just because the rest of society condemns it.. " au contraire Nora, It is not only morally right, but our moral obligation, when the way they are choosing to live their lives harms us as a society. Our children are our future, and we as a society are obligated to protect our future, aka our children. All studies done on the subject that support such families have not been done with the proper numbers to make such studies valid. A certain amount of participants are needed and a certain amount of years are needed, and no studies done have these numbers, so therefore their results are not accurate enough to be considered valid studies, though they are 'quoted' well enough. The one study, which was done in Europe and only available in the Spanish language, which has been done with the proper numbers, is now giving birth to other studies using proper numbers. Since this is such a hot topic in the United States, you would think that this very valid study would be translated and made public, now wouldn't you? But the only problem is, is that this very valid study, the only valid study, done on how being raised by a homosexual couple affects children, is that it shows very strongly that it harms the child. For more info, do a search with the words: "HazteOir Spain", “Report on Infantile Development in Same-Sex Couples” Let us wake up, have we not harmed our children enough? If two people want to have a homosexual relationship, that is one thing. But it is entirely another to force a child who has not yet developed proper coping skills into living the results of such a lifestyle. ↑ |
| Name: alyssa | Date: Mar 19th, 2006 9:06 PM |
| I think it was ↑ |
| Name: P.C. | Date: Mar 19th, 2006 9:18 PM |
| I grew up without a father. I know I suffered from it, and my mom loved me enough for more then 2 people! There's more to being raised then love, tho it is an important part of it, there is more. I like waht "Use Logic" said when she said "When our marriages suffer, our children suffer, and eliminating either a daddy or a mommy from the picture is only going to hurt our problem more. Underestimating the role of father and mother can only harm us." and "Mom Nature knew best when she designed a child to have both a man and a woman to make a child. Screwing up the equation is not a good idea." I know I suffered and was 'harmed' (as she put it) because my father was an a##hole and not around, and other people have had the same kind of sufferings. But in my case it really couldn't be helped. I can't imagine anyone wanting to WILLINGLY put a child through that! How absolutely SELFISH! It really makes me mad! ↑ |
| Name: tay | Date: Mar 20th, 2006 5:06 AM |
| to fay its me tay hope u werent being gay in that hay! where abouts in australia not W.A? glad your off that clay its messy i say! yes it is fun i say this game we play! makes me lol hey! LOL your not going to believe this but im being serious im from australia too! ↑ |
| Name: Fay | Date: Mar 20th, 2006 10:18 AM |
| Get out of here lol Tay, are you serious Your Aussie YAY! unbelievable wouldnt you say, that were both from Aus world, farout hey tay, i cant wat to tel my hubby today, im in sydney, where are you tay, this is just too funny tay, how bizzare my crazy friend tay, i honestly look forward coming on too see you tay, so i can have a laugh and act so gay but i am glad that im not gay, we need to chat lol tay i say, what time is it there oh tay? ill catch up with u soon, ok oh tay! ↑ |
| Name: tay | Date: Mar 21st, 2006 8:44 AM |
| the time i say is 7.39 fay i look foward i say to reading your rhyming ay! bad that cyclone i say glad im not in a northern way i had a busy day today with some friends the kids had a play how old are you fay is this your first child to come your way what to hubby have to say about the funny game we play take care my friend fay from your friend tay ↑ |
