Sorry it's so long!! But I really really need to get this off my chest!!
So my sister got back from Thailand last week. And I really missed her 'cause she's been gone 9 months and she's the only sister I ever really got on with.
He hates her [childish prick] because she damaged his ego by telling a friend that she doesn't really like him and he's a bit of a scumbag...Which he is. He hasn't been the best partner anyone could ask for!
So...she called early one morning asking to call around and give me baby clothes she brough back. I said yeah...we'll meet up in a while.
Paddy then said that it was him or her. She comes to the house, the he's leaving.
I told him he's going to have to grow up and get on with his life. Stop bearing grudges against people. Especially since she's the only family member I have contact with since my Dad died.
He said...fine he's leaving and see's how it is. He starts packing all his things ready to leave...then throws them back out of bags...saying he's gonna stay and won't let her step foot in this place!
I had to meet her outside!!
I wouldn't mind, but his mother physically pushed me out of her house one day because she didn't lke me, for changing her son! She was screaming and roaring at me...and Paddy's sister joined the charade!
They're from a violent part of this town and can be a bit thuggy. So I was shaking like a leaf.
I stayed well clear of both of them. He didn't. His brother, who was going out with my best friend at the time...then started spreading rumours about me whoring myself and still sleeping with my ex!! So...I totally avoided him. Paddy didn't....
Now...Ever since I've gotten pregnant...I've allowed his mother and sister to come into my home. I don't like them, because of the stress they caused me. But I welcome them in because I know they are going to be a part of my life like it or not for the next good few years. I am civil to them and act as if nothing went on.
So...last night I said we needed to talk...
We talked...I told him I wasn't happy with everything that he's been doing lately. I wasn't happy that he won't get a job. Spends all his time with his friends and mother. Constantly starts fights with me so he can 'barge out'. Totally ignores me on our anniversary...Ignores me when my Dad died. I was just really upset last night.
I told him...that for a while I've wanted out of the relationship...But had recently thought there might be hope for the both of us if we both worked our asses off at it! Put the past behind...everything we've done to each other...Not that I've ever hurt him.
I told him that because of his performance that morning with my sister...that I just didn't think there was any point in the relationship. I don't want to be bullied into staying away from my family...when she's done nothing to harm him!
In fact Paddy and I hung out with my sister and her boyfriend all the time before they went to Thailand!
So...he tells me it's best if he leaves the next morning. He'll be packed and gone before I wake up.
I just take it all...Thinkin'...this is my destiny...I've tried to work at it with him...But this is it. Finished.
This morning he woke me up to tell me he was foolish last night and he really wants to start again!
I was obviously delighted because I would love nothing more than a simple life with no drama!!
Today went fine, nothing unusual happened.
He went to his mother's house and 9am and went to town with her for two hours. [He's never done that before].
Later in the day he gave his sister a ride up to his mother's and stayed there a while.
Then he said he was going golfing with his friend at 7.
I was alright with it...Although he'd been ignoring his friend ALL last week so it didn't make much sense to me!
He gets home two hours later and starts gossiping about how my sister was out with his brother at the weekend. [He meets that very same brother for football every week!!] He also said that she was saying horrible things about me!
I told him I didn't want to hear any more gossip. I don't want to hear what people supposedly said about me, and I don't care much for what they think about me either.
He said okay...
So we forgot about that and I was messing around with him trying to see what was on his hand, I noticed earlier what I thought was a wart...But he wouldn't show me. So I was like...fine I'm not playing any more. Sulking like a two year old. He came over to get the T.V. remote but I swiped it before he got there and said...I WIN!!
I know it's childish...but we do things like that.
So he says...he's not playing any more and walks out of the sitting room.
I didn't follow him because I thought he was messing.
Half an hour passed.
I got up to see where he went and he'd locked himself into the bedroom!!
I knocked a few times and he just shouted that he was reading!!
So I went back into the sitting room. He stood at the doorway and I asked him why he locked himself away...
He just said he was reading, again!
So I said...we're supposed to be trying our best to work things out...you fuck off with your friend for the lat two hours...then come home gossiping about my sister and lock me outta the bedroom.
I said if he wasn't serious at making things work in the relationship...then he's best to leave!
He left...without his phone, without anything. I walked after him to ask what he was playing at. If he was leaving, he's gonna take his damn things and leave. Not come waltzing back in tomorrow and think everything's just forgotten.
I found him hidden behind stairs laughing!!
I asked him why he was being such a creep. He said he didn't want me following him. And started to walk away.
I told him if he's just going to walk out like that...he can think twice about coming back for his things!
He just kept ignoring me and kept walking.
I told him he he could fuck off and he's an ugly bastard.
And I'm SO annoyed I just wanna throw his phone down the toilet.
I know whoever replies [if anyone] that ye probably didn't read the whole thing because it's so damn long...But please!!!
I need advice...ANY ADVICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don't know what on....just the whole damn situation...Please
I'm SO frustrated right now................................ ↓
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