Haha here we go...this might get long so sorry in advance!!
Ok so I started dating my husband when my step daughter was 10 months old. By that time, he and his ex girlfriend were already broken up and done with. As soon as she found out that we were together, she kept trying to get back together with him but he didn't want to. He had tried to make it work and everything but it just wouldn't.
So we get married like 4 months later and we've had nothing but trouble with her. She keeps telling my husband that she needs more money and that he's a dead beat dad because he won't give her more money than what the courts ordered and blah blah blah.
So here we are, two years later in the same situation. We used to get Mekenzie every weekend...then it was just one night on the weekend. Now, we don't get to see her at all.
The reason we don't get to see her, is becasue my husband owes his ex's grandma like $250 from a loan from years ago (which we don't even think she wants it back because she said he didn't have to pay her back when she gave him the money)
I have tried and tried and tried to talk to his ex. I've even tried to be friends with her! Nope...she won't budge. She's keeping us from seeing Mekenzie over something that has NOTHING to do with her. We pay child support (it's a little behid right now because of financial issues) and we try to do everything so we can see her but we can't afford to just keep paying her mother extra money just because she wants it.
It drives me freaking nuts because she won't understand that it's not that we don't want to pay her grandma back or get all the way caught up on child support, we just can't! I've tried to explain to her that a relationship with her father is more important than money, especially when she knows that she'll get it, just not right now. She says that Mekenzie doesn't love her dad and that she already has a Father (her alcoholic bf) that's better than my husband and that we don't deserve to see her. No matter what we say to her, she always comes back with stupid immature comments like "1-800-go-f*** yourself" or "eat a d**k and die" and she's always harassing me on my Myspace (mature I know)
Like right now, she's threatening to change Mekenzie's last name. She can't do that right? Like, even though she's the custodial parent, my husband has to sign a paper saying it's ok to change her name right??
Another thing that gets to me is the fact that she always says "MY daughter" instead of "OUR daughter" and that hurts my husband. All he wants is the chance to be a good father to her and her mom won't let him. Her mom doesn't want to see how happy Mekenzie is when she comes to visit us. She didn't even let her daughter say goodbye to her father when he dropped her off last month when we had her. She just said "F**k you" (in front of Mekenzie too!!) and grabbed Kenzie as she was reaching up for her dad and slammed the door in his face.
I really want to go to court to get some kind of court ordered custody or visitation but we just can't afford it. In Arizona, it's really hard to get parental rights if you were never married in the first place. I hate seeing how hurt my husband is because of this, and the stress that it puts on me isn't good for me or the baby and I feel sooo bad for Mekenzie becasue she doesn't know what's going on and she doesn't deserved to be used this way.
Ok I'm done. If I write anymore I'll just get even more angry. If you made it through this kudos to you. I just need to vent. I got into an arguement with her lastnight and she said some horrible things and I spent the night in tears I just don't understand how people can be like this and hurt their children like this :0( ↓
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