Hi There,
I just wanted to say congrats to all you expecting moms. If anyone out there is possibly thinking about adoption I just wanted to invite you to visit our website and learn a little more about us. My husband and I would love to adopt a baby. He is 34 and I will soon be 30. We are dreaming of having a family someday soon. So if you think adoption may be the right choice for you, please visit us. Thanks
Jess
www.achild2love.com ↓
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| Name: Leah | Date: Nov 30th, 2005 8:48 PM |
| Hey there jess i'm three months along and strongly considering adoption. I read your website and you and your husband sound like wonderful people. This is my first baby and i'm really young so i don't think i 'm ready to be amommy yet. ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Nov 30th, 2005 9:57 PM |
Hi Leah,
Thank you so much for your kind words. May I ask how old are you? Are your friends and family being supportive of you right now? If you need someone to talk to I would be glad to lend an ear. Hope you are feeling well :) ↑ |
| Name: Leah | Date: Nov 30th, 2005 10:03 PM |
| Hi jess i'm 18 and no i'm not getting a lot of surrort right now from friends and family. Also i've had quite a lot of morning sickness and really kind of stressed out. ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Nov 30th, 2005 10:17 PM |
| Does the morning sickness seem to be getting any better now that your are past the first trimester? Have you tried those preggie pops at all? Do you think you are you stressed out because you are not getting any support or is it more that you don't know what is going to be the best thing for you and your baby? You know I don't necessarily think there is such a thing as being too young to parent a child, it just depends where you feel you're at and if you feel you can take care of a baby and still be able to take care of yourself too. So while I think adoption is a wonderful option, obviously, you have to ask yourself if you are considering that as an option because everyone is saying you are too young or because you feel you wouldn't be able to parent right now. I hope that makes sense. ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Nov 30th, 2005 11:37 PM |
Leah,
If you want to talk you can always IM me too. AOL nomadjess 76 or MSN/Yahoo nomadjess. ↑ |
| Name: Kim | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 5:37 PM |
| Nice website, looks like you will be great parents! ↑ |
| Name: Leah | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 5:47 PM |
Hi jess i'm not feeling to hot right now. My stomach is a wreck
right now. I wonder if it's just that i'm pregnant or maybe i'm really sick. Well i hope to hear back from you soon. ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 6:20 PM |
Hi Leah!
The stomache bug is going around. Everyone I know has had it at least once. But unfortunately if that is what it is there is really not much you can do, but wait it out and just try to make yourself comfortable. How has your pregnancy been so far? Is the icky stomache the only pregnancy issues you are having? Or do you have the whole package? Do you go to school or work and are you still able to do that not feeling well? How has your family and the baby's father responded to the pregnancy? Have you been able to talk to anyone about all the options available to you? ↑ |
| Name: Leah | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 6:25 PM |
| Hi jess i've also had headaches and heartburn too. I hope that's all normal. I am currently working partime and no i haven't had a whole lot of support from my ex. Not really sure of all my options yet either. So any help from you would be helpful at this time. ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 6:32 PM |
| All normal as your body changes and your hormones change. If you got headaches before you got pregnant, they may get worse during pregnancy too. ( I know probably not what you wanted to hear :) There are lots of options out there for you. As you know you can keep your baby and there are programs out there that can help you if that is what you choose to do. But if you really feel you are too young and want another option, there is also adoption. Usually in adoption there are three types you can request. Closed, semi-open or open. Some women choose a closed adoption where they don't want the child to know who they are, they don't want pics or visits either. For some people I guess it is just too hard. All adoptions used to be closed, but not anymore. A semi-open adoption would let you get pictures and letters and an open adoption would do the same, but also you can do visits and phone calls too. So you can still watch your baby grow up and have him / her know who you are. There are so many options and you really have the freedom to say just what kind of relationship you want to have with your child and the adoptive family. You would just need to feel comfortable that the adoptive family you choose will really honor your wishes. ↑ |
| Name: Leah | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 6:36 PM |
Wow that's a lot of information. Yeah i do get migraines from time to time so that news is not what i wanted to hear. Right now i'm leaning towards a semi-open adoption. But not to sure.
Thanks for taking the time to talk to me. It's helped a lot. ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 6:47 PM |
| Sure anytime. And yes the migraines may get pretty bad I've heard, so hang in there!!!! Talking to a social worker or counselor might also be a good idea, so you really know all your options from a professional and they will help you at no charge. Also I am usually on-line in the evening too if you want to chat. You can instant message me. On AOL it is nomadjess76, or I also have MSN and Yahoo which is just nomadjess. ↑ |
| Name: Leah | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 6:52 PM |
| thanks for the ideas i will contact a social worker soon. Wow i can't believe everything going on in my body right now.Bad news about the migraines. Oh well i guess it could be worse. ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 7:00 PM |
| A couple more things, if you decide on adoption and find someone you might be interested in on the boards you may just also want to contact them. Most hopeful adoptive parents have a social worker or attorney you can also talk to and work with. But if you aren't sure or want more options a good place to start might be a local Planned Parenthood. They have lots of resources, even if you don't choose adoption. ↑ |
| Name: Leah | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 7:48 PM |
| what about you jess? you sound like you'd be a wonderful mommy. i read on your site so you know let me know. ↑ |
| Name: Leah | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 8:28 PM |
| Hi jess thanks again. I live in california. I'll probably call you tonight if i feel up to it. I have a headache now and i want to prevent a migraine if possible. ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 8:33 PM |
| Ok I hope you feel better, just try to turn off the lights and get some rest. I know how awful migraines can be! I should be home after 5 your time if you want to talk. ↑ |
| Name: Leah | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 8:34 PM |
| so jess do you get migraines too? ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 8:37 PM |
| Yes about once a month or so. I also get light sensitivity and sick to my stomache too. So I know how you must be feeling :( ↑ |
| Name: Leah | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 8:41 PM |
jess how long have you suffered from them. i've gotten since i was about 13. and get them about two or three times a month.
i've gone to the dr. as i'm sure you have and i haven't been helped much. have you? ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 8:45 PM |
| Mine started as a teen also. The dr has given me numerous prescriptions to try and sometimes they work, but mostly I just have to tough it out. My husband is 34 and just started getting them a few years ago. They are such a curse and can really disrupt your life until you can get it to go away. So I feel for you today! ↑ |
| Name: Leah | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 8:47 PM |
| thanks it does disrupt our lives. i have so much to do today and tonight and it'probably won't get done ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 8:49 PM |
| Well just try to relax for a while and hopefully it will go away and you can still salvage part of your day. Staring at the computer probably doesn't help either ! LOL :) ↑ |
| Name: Leah | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 8:53 PM |
| your right but i'm kind of lonely too. i called my friends but no one's home. but i guess i go lie down now. Praying the pain goes away. ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 8:54 PM |
| I'll cross my fingers for you. Feel free to call or IM me later if you need someone to talk to. Feel Better. ↑ |
| Name: Leah | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 9:47 PM |
| Hi jess i'm back i took a nap. and some advil i think i was able to stop it before it started. Thanks for your kind thoughts and prayers it helped. How are you? ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 9:50 PM |
| I am ok, just trying to get some work done, but my computer keeps breaking! You have to love technology :) I am glad to hear you are feeling better, maybe you can still get everything done you need to do tonight. They say advil is the miracle drug. How is your belly feeling now? ↑ |
| Name: Leah | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 9:55 PM |
| my belly's all right. i ate a little fruit. but i'm still a little nausous. ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 9:59 PM |
| Just try to keep eating a little bit, it should help a little. When did you find out you were having a baby? Have you been sick to your stomache the whole time? ↑ |
| Name: Leah | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 10:00 PM |
| i've known for about a month and yeah sick the whole time.When does it end? or does it? ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: Dec 1st, 2005 10:05 PM |
| Usually if it is going to go away it does around the end of the first trimester, but I know a lot of women are sick on and off the whole way through...sorry I know I keep telling you all these things you would rather not know. But pregnancy is hard on your body. Have you told your folks or the father that you might be considering adoption? What were their thoughts? ↑ |
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