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I was wondering if there were any active duty moms or moms-to-be out there. ↓
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| Name: heather | Date: Aug 15th, 2005 3:34 PM |
| no. im not a military mom, but after our baby is born my bf is going to the military, have any clue how thats going to be? ↑ |
| Name: JessicaT | Date: Aug 16th, 2005 3:58 AM |
Hi Heather,
I have quite a few friends who are wives of active duty. Are you two planning on getting married? It all depends on what branch he chooses, and if you are getting married. The cold hard truth is, whether he is your boyfriend or fiance, the military doesn't recognize you and you don't have any say in anything unless you are married. I feel really bad for the women whose men are deployed and they didn't get a chance to exchange vows. If you have any other questions, don't hesitate to ask! By the way, I am active duty Air Force along with my husband. ↑ |
| Name: heather | Date: Aug 16th, 2005 5:27 PM |
| oh yea, were getting married but the thought came up because of our baby's sake. i mean, we love each other but i also want whats best for the baby. thats why he wants to join the military. i mean so our baby could have things that s/he couldnt have if we just worked jobs...we havent had a chance to go to college, that was supossed to be this year. he has wanted to go to the navy for the longest but now he doesnt know weather he wants to go there or to the army. i mean he has a while to think about it. but the navy is probably going to be the one, i just feel safer with him in the navy. my uncle is in the air force..thats neat, but how do you have a baby together, i mean how do you do that? ↑ |
| Name: NIKIRA | Date: Aug 16th, 2005 6:32 PM |
| YES I AM AN ACTIVE DUTY MOM TO BE ↑ |
| Name: JessicaT | Date: Aug 17th, 2005 8:23 PM |
| First, hello Nikira!! Nice to see a fellow active duty mom to be. I'm almost done with the pregnancy part...but it's been a long way coming. (And I'm still working 9 1/2 hrs a day) ↑ |
| Name: JessicaT | Date: Aug 17th, 2005 8:24 PM |
| Well Heather, let me say one thing. My husband and I both wanted to go Navy in the beginning. Which now I am glad I didn't. They can be gone on ship for 6+ months at a time! Air Force deployments are only 4 months. Don't get me wrong, I have friends in the Navy who love it, it's all about what the person wants. (By no means am I trying to push Air Force). Oh, what do you mean by how do you have a baby together? ↑ |
| Name: heather | Date: Aug 17th, 2005 8:30 PM |
| like..are yall stationed at the same place and if your on duty then how are yall gonna take care, i mean, im pretty suere yall can but dont yall both work the same "shifts" and do they give you time off for the baby? ↑ |
| Name: JessicaT | Date: Aug 18th, 2005 8:30 PM |
Heather,
Yes, we are both stationed at the same place. Right now, it's Japan. My shop already told me they would work with me, obviously being a dual military couple. If we are working the same shift we will have to find someone to watch her while we're working. If we're on different shift, we have to find someone to watch her during the couple hours that our shifts will overlap. I can't really speak for other services, but I know Air Force does their best to keep you together. ↑ |
| Name: Hope | Date: May 18th, 2006 1:35 PM |
| I am a mother of a 5 year old and a mother-to-be.My husband is away for his AIT's and won't be back for another 5 more months.If he comes back. ↑ |
| Name: Mrs. Finney | Date: May 18th, 2006 2:37 PM |
| I'm active duty.. don't know if I'm expecting or not, but had two kids so far while on active duty. ↑ |
| Name: Mary | Date: May 19th, 2006 1:24 AM |
| When your active duty do you take the kids along or someone has to wacth them all the time if your single military mom? I hope to join the military one day. I want to provide the best for my country and kids. Thanks ↑ |
| Name: Mrs. Finney | Date: May 19th, 2006 11:01 AM |
| Mary, I'm not sure what you mean... but I will try to answer as best as possible. If you are a single mom when you join, you will have to give guardianship up to someone while you are in boot camp and tech school. You can get them when you are done with initial training. While on active duty, you can have your kids with you anytime unless you go TDY or deploy. My kids live with me... they always have. I became a mom after joining the Air Force 13 years ago. ↑ |
| Name: crystal | Date: May 19th, 2006 2:08 PM |
| mary, in the army, you have to give up custody of your children as well. initially, it's for the first enlistment. that could be anywhere from 2-4 years. BUT, a lot of women give up the custody, and get it right back as soon as they are done with Basic training and AIT.....it depends. for a single mother though, you can't beat the mlitary. it is a stable way of life, with a stable paycheck, and the best part of it is your babies will always have health insurance. no matter where you go. your family's medical expenses are fully covered. medicines and all. my husband is actually a recruiter for the army, so if you have any other q's, let me know. we can exchange emails or numbers...... ↑ |
| Name: christen | Date: May 19th, 2006 2:16 PM |
| i am also a military mom to be. i can't wait but. with my job i was put to a desk because of chemicals and stuff. but they have been really great because they have me on 8 hour days. although before i got pregnant i was working 12 hour days so they really cut it down for me. i want to get out though because of having to deploy i don't want to leave my child for that long of a time. i just couldn't do it i don't think. but good luck with what you decide i'm in the air force by the way. ↑ |
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