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Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 4 years. Bascially our entire college career. Our families are really close and for the most part we have a good relationship. Now that Im pregnant and our baby is due in November, he just doesn't seem really excited. He said that he was happy about it but i feel like hes just sayin that to me not to hurt my feelings. He seems like lately he's just tried to go to frat parties and hang out with his buddies like he won't be able to when the baby comes?? im so confused, i know were only 21 but does this mean hes going to be a bad father? he just keeps sayin well the baby's not hear yet so it hasn't really hit me yet? the damn boy has heard the heart beat! how more real can it get for him?? any advice... i don't know what to do?? ↓
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| Name: A | Date: May 21st, 2006 7:36 PM |
| I'm 21 and my bf is 22. We've been together for 4 years and I just found out that I was pregnant and due in december. It's the exact opposite w/ us, I'm not excited and he's elated. To be honest w/ you, your bf probably isn't excited, but I'm sure that will change once the baby comes. You have to realize that y'all had a college relationship and now all of the sudden he's going to be a father and you guys are going to be connected for life. I'm sure he's not ready for this and questioning alot including your relationship. Did y'all talk about marriage and kids before you got pregnant. 21 year old guys and many girls don't want kids yet, and they're deinitely not ready for them. I've seen so many relationships fail from having kids to early, but who knows. If you guys break up down the road, that's what's going to happen. You have to worry about you and the baby now. ↑ |
| Name: Chris R | Date: May 22nd, 2006 1:32 PM |
| I know it's hard, my husband and I were married, just one month when our first baby surprised us, and a few years older, but my husbnad tried to get all of his partying done too. He headrd the heartbeat and that helped some, but what really hit him was the ultrasound. After that he really got excited, it's just hard for guys to realize they need to grow up, and they don't get to feel the pregnancy the same, so it does take a little longer. Just talk with him and let him know how you feel, see if he backs off a little from the partying, hopefully by the time the baby gets here he will be so excited, if not, worry about you and the baby. ↑ |
| Name: Chris R | Date: May 22nd, 2006 1:33 PM |
| Sorry Lacey, that ended all wrong, I meant to say if your boyfriend still seems uninterested after the baby arrives, you need to put your self and your baby first. ↑ |
| Name: jenn | Date: May 22nd, 2006 2:14 PM |
| well at least he stuck around, my "boyfriend" who loved me so much and wanted a family with me dropped me like a hot potato as soon as i told him i was preg! consider yourself lucky! ↑ |
| Name: christen | Date: May 22nd, 2006 2:28 PM |
| i was really excited when i found out i was pregnant and so was my hubby but then the excitement faded from his end. but it really came back when he saw the ultrasound and the heart beat. he said he finally knew it was "real". it made me feel good when he said that. just give him time you have a while before the baby is born. have as much fun with eachother as you can because once the baby comes its all about them and not about you or your b/f. ↑ |
| Name: Christina | Date: May 22nd, 2006 5:43 PM |
| I'm 24 and my bf is 25, and he is the same way. He doesn't act happy or seem happy about the pregnancy. It was totally unexpected when I found out we were pregnant we had only been dating for about 5 months..and i am now 19 weeks pregnant and he still shows no signs of enthusiasm..i know it was a shock to him, but still..it hurts. He has seen the ultrasound, but hasn't heard the heart beat yet..hopefully he will soon..but it is very hard to deal with. Sometimes he acts like i'm not pregnant at all and i mean he's more moody and irritable then I am. I can relate to everyone here..hopefully my bf will change once we go for our second ultrasound and hear the heart beat, and maybe it'll take my tummy to grow alot and for him to be able to feel the baby before it sinks in. ↑ |
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