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My boyfriend has a really good friend that is a girl. I didn't have a problem with it until all of us hung out this weekend. It seems like they have been together for a long time, they act like a couple in a way. He swears that they are just best friends, he's told me that since the day I met him. This woman makes me feel like I won't be with my boyfriend for a long time because she is going to step in. Also, I think I may be pregnant. ↓
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| Name: just me | Date: May 1st, 2006 2:49 PM |
| wow that sounds just like my boyfriend!! I heard that same line. So far he has been very faithful but i worry too. I think it is just instint to feel that way. My boyfriend has a very good friend that is a girl and she calls often wanting him to go out and so far he hasn't but he does want the 3 of us to hang out...I am pregnant as well :) ↑ |
| Name: Angela | Date: May 1st, 2006 2:51 PM |
Jess, talk to him about how it makes you feel when the two of them act that way. Let him know that you want him to have his friends and aren't asking him to ditch her but that now he is with you, he should act a bit more appropriately.
I had the same thing happen when I started dating my man. He has a good g/f and they still are...but one day I mentioned that I didn't appreciate how 'close' they were now that we were a couple. I'm lucky and he realized that he was stepping out of line a bit and he started pulling away from her a bit more. She used to call and msg him all the time and he just stopped responding as much and she finally started laying off. Turns out, we hooked her up with his best friend and now we barely hear from either of them except to invite us out to the bar and stuff...but that's not really the place for a pregnant lady so we haven't taken them up on the offer yet.
Anyway, my point is, just let him know that you don't want to cut his friends out but that things can't always stay the same if he wants to have a healthy relationship where you don't feel like the third wheel. ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: May 1st, 2006 2:54 PM |
| My boyfriend has been faithful to me too. They go out drinking sometimes, but that doesn't bother me. Ever since the day I met him he has said that he has a lot of friends that are girls. I hope that I am feeling this way because I fear getting cheated on because it has happened to me a lot in the past. I hope I'm not pregnant because we are not ready for a baby. ↑ |
| Name: Chris R | Date: May 1st, 2006 3:00 PM |
| Jess, I haven't been where you are, but my sister's husband has many friends that are girls, in fact at their wedding it was all female, yep, the "best man" was a lady. I wasn't so excited to walk down the aisle with a big (tall) red head, but they haven't had any problems. Trust your gut though and it seems like you are getting great advice here anyway, good luck. ↑ |
| Name: OK | Date: May 1st, 2006 3:00 PM |
| YA THIS SOUNDS LIKE ME ONLY MY BEST FRIEND WAS A GUY FOR 7 YRS WE WHERE BEST FRIENDS AND THEN ONE DAY ME AND MY BOYFRIEND WHERE INVITED TO HIS HOUSE FOR A PARTY AND MY FRIEND TELLS ME COME HERE FOR A SEC AND HE TELLS ME HOW HES BEEN IN LOVE WITH ME FOR AS LONG AS WE HAD BEEN FRIENDS BUT I JUST WANTED TO BE HIS FRIEND SO WE REALY HAVENT HUNG OUT SINCE THEN AND ITS BEEN 3 YRS SINCE THAT BUT HE WAS COOL WITH ALL MY BOYFRIENDS BUT HE REALY JUST WANTED TO BE WITH ME AND WE IN R 24 AND 26 SOME TIMES AGE HAS A FACTOR IN THAT ↑ |
| Name: tara | Date: May 1st, 2006 6:22 PM |
| Jess do u and your boyfriend have yall's OWN place?? how long have yall been togather? how long has he known them?? let me know so i can try to help u! Iv been friends with a guy for 18 years!!! so i run in to this every time he gets a new girl..lol ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: May 2nd, 2006 1:24 PM |
Thanks guys for the advice.
To Tara: No we don't have our own place. We have only been together for a little over a month. They have known each other for about a year, she is married but is soon going to get divorced. ↑ |
| Name: jenn | Date: May 2nd, 2006 1:38 PM |
ooooh jess it sounds like she is getting ready to make her move, if shes waiting on a divorce..... but getting possesive of him and ugly with her might drive them right into the arms of each other.... arrrgh situations suck.
well, i found out that the father of my baby had a g.f. and when i brought that up (before he knew i was preg) he told me she had had cancer and was in remission and he could not break up with her cause she needed him. and i was like, ooooh what a nice guy! well as soon as i told him i was preg he was like oh, well i love her, and i dont love you. c you later dont look for me again.... anyway, i dont know what the point of this story is except that almost all men are dogs and you can do it if it turns out he is not there for you. anyway, they can have their fun and will get tired of each other but you will always have his baby so hopefully he will always be there for you at least somewhat. ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: May 2nd, 2006 1:42 PM |
| Thanks Jenn. I don't know if I am pregnant, the situation is that my period was early last month so I don't know whether to go by when I got it last month or when I usually get it to know if I am late or not. What do you think? ↑ |
| Name: jenn | Date: May 2nd, 2006 3:14 PM |
| well i sure dont know if youre preg or not but i do think that that girl is going to give you trouble for sure. ↑ |
| Name: just me | Date: May 2nd, 2006 7:19 PM |
| do you mind me asking what your boyfriend's name is ↑ |
| Name: just me | Date: May 2nd, 2006 7:20 PM |
| do you mind me asking what your boyfriend's name is and where you guys are from ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: May 3rd, 2006 1:30 PM |
To Just me:
I live in north carolina. Where do you live? ↑ |
| Name: just me | Date: May 3rd, 2006 1:49 PM |
| PA. My boyfriend has two sisters that live in NC ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: May 3rd, 2006 1:57 PM |
| Name: just me | Date: May 3rd, 2006 2:00 PM |
| honestly I am not to sure where I know his cousin is getting married on the 13th but I can't remember exactly where they are. I have an uncle out in Durham NC ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: May 3rd, 2006 2:03 PM |
| I live in Angier, it is a small town that nobody really knows about ↑ |
| Name: just me | Date: May 3rd, 2006 2:17 PM |
| does your boyfriend live in NC too? I am pregnant now and due in Aug. My boyfriend does live with me here in PA and we now live together which makes it a little better ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: May 3rd, 2006 2:25 PM |
| Yes he lives in nc also, he lives in a town 10 min. away from my house. How old are u? I'm 16 ↑ |
| Name: just me | Date: May 3rd, 2006 2:27 PM |
| I am 27 just moved here to pa about 3 months ago. It is good that he lives near by ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: May 3rd, 2006 2:37 PM |
| Yeah, we see each other everyday. I met him at the place I work at, he is 6 years older than me, but to me age is just a number. I am very mature for my age and sometimes he is like a big kid (lol) so we get along great. Some people say he is way too old for me, when I first met him and asked him how old he was, when he told me the first thing I said was "God, you're old!" Just like that. But he doesn't care and neither do I. Are you and your bf getting married now that you are pregnant? ↑ |
| Name: jenn | Date: May 3rd, 2006 2:45 PM |
| i am in nc too but i dont know where the hell angier is, is that in the mountains or the east? ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: May 3rd, 2006 2:53 PM |
| It is about 45 min. from Raleigh. I thought u lived in PA ↑ |
| Name: Denise | Date: May 3rd, 2006 3:00 PM |
| To just me, I live in NC and a girlfriend of mine is getting married on the 13th (wonder if its just a concidence) ↑ |
| Name: just me | Date: May 3rd, 2006 3:01 PM |
| lol yeah? what is her name? ↑ |
| Name: just me | Date: May 3rd, 2006 3:01 PM |
| Jess I live in PA....that was someone else ↑ |
| Name: Stephanie | Date: May 3rd, 2006 4:57 PM |
| Jess you do seem to be mature for your age...I hope the best for you and maybe baby...I would go off of your last period to tell when you are suppose to start. Good Luck and let us know what happens! ↑ |
| Name: just me | Date: May 3rd, 2006 5:06 PM |
| denise....what is your friends name ↑ |
| Name: jenn | Date: May 3rd, 2006 8:10 PM |
| i live in nc at the beach. ↑ |
| Name: Jess | Date: May 4th, 2006 1:26 PM |
To Just Me: sorry for the misunderstanding (lol)
To Stephani: thanks! Of course I will keep you guys updated.
My bf and his friend went out last night but I have this feeling that they are just friends, I just hope he doesn't hurt me like I was hurt in my last relationship. ↑ |
| Name: just me | Date: May 4th, 2006 1:33 PM |
| Does your boyfriend's friend know all about you? Has he told her about you at all? That is one way to know if there is more there. If he is telling her about you then you shouldnt' worry...if he isn't mentioning that he has a girlfriend now then that could be trouble ↑ |
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