Name: nicole76108 Title: Should I throw my own baby shower?

No one has asked to do a baby shower for me. Im damn near ready to have this baby and I still need a few things. Would it be rude of me to throw my own baby shower?
Alberts family doesnt like me so I know why their not offering and my family lives to far away. A friend threw one for me for Ryan but I dont have any real "friends" now to do it.
I dont want to seem rude by throwing my own but it would really help. What are your thoughts on this?  ?

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Name: LindsayK • Date: 05/03/2008 16:48:12

Here, we don't have baby showers for second or consecutive children. Only for a person's first baby.  =

Name: zoey9810 • Date: 05/03/2008 17:03:54

Im not sure about that, Maybe your mom should do one, i know that if i lived far away my mom would throw one for me even if i wasnt present.

My MIL did that for her daughter when they lived in separate states and then she just mailed the opened packages to her daughter  =

Name: nicole76108 • Date: 05/03/2008 17:41:28

I thought it might be to much to which is why I havent done it yet. Just dont want to be a pushy person and ask people "ok so who is gonna throw me a shower."  =

Name: 04nidak • Date: 05/03/2008 17:54:51

I never had a baby shower for either pregnancy. WIth my first I was living in North Carolina and had no family around so I didn't have one and my mom asked me if I wanted one this time, but I said no because I thought it would be odd to have one after the first baby, just didn't seem right so I just went out and have bought stuff that I need.  =

Name: nicole76108 • Date: 05/03/2008 18:44:21

I know this post wasn't tasteful so thank you guys for not being rude. :) It was just a thought that came in my head a few months back. Thanks for your input. :)  =

Name: chicksy • Date: 05/03/2008 23:24:57

I wouldn't do it either. It would just seems as if you are doing it for the gifts. I have no family or friends here where I live either, but was blessed to have two baby showers last year for my son. One was a surprise from my family when I went to visit them 1000 miles away and one was from my husband's co-workers. My friend threw her own shower in 2006 and 1 person showed up. Just don't seem right to me.  =

Name: nicole76108 • Date: 05/03/2008 23:32:03

Ya that is kinda what I was thinking to.  =

Name: cjsims • Date: 05/04/2008 00:04:27

If this next baby is a boy, we will literally need NOTHING except diapers, wipes, and some pacifiers. We kept EVERYTHING, and that is not a joke. Our attic is a boy factory, I swear. But, if it is a girl, we will need obviously girl clothes, girl room decor, some diapers, wipes and some pacifiers of course, plus last but not least, some girl toys. You know like stuffed dolls, and diffierent things of that nature. I've had some people just tell me that if this next one is a girl, then that is just tough, because it isn't "proper" to have a baby shower after the first time around. and since we would need so few things, it would be pointless to have a baby shower except for some people who have told us they would give us some girl outfits to get started, along with the generous ones who will help out with some diapers and wipes. And then of course, because of our status with the boy things, I"ve been told I wouldn't get a baby shower at all, but friends and family would just give me a few gift cards to help out with diapers and wipes.  =

Name: lacirrom • Date: 05/04/2008 01:05:28

i've had two baby showers. one with my first and one with my third. it's not really odd around here to have more than one baby shower. i know several people who have had more than one. on the other hand though, i don't really think it's a good idea to give you self a shower.  =

Name: Loritolay • Date: 05/04/2008 14:36:57

I didn't intend on having a shower with this one since I had one with my first, but I did tell everyone that I was going to have a party to celebrate the upcoming event. All I wanted was to have a big cookout with family and friends and have a good time but a few family members decided that everyone needs to bring a gift for the baby or diapers. Not that I am disagreeing with that, (i am always down for some gifts!!!) so maybe if you suggest just having a get together to celebrate the baby coming, others will take the iniative to find out what you need for the baby. And if not, you still get to have a party!  =

Name: zoey9810 • Date: 05/04/2008 21:15:57

Thats a good idea, a cook out!!  =

Name: KarenM • Date: 05/04/2008 22:15:05

I like the idea of that cook out too!

We moved to Hawaii about 10 months ago, so we don't actually have too many friends here either. My brother and sil came over for a vist in March and my hubby decided in secret that it would be a nice time to throw a party then. He planned for it as a bbq lunch at work and told me it was just going to be a thank you to our workers for such good work so far..it turned out that he had planned a baby shower and that was a nice surprise!

In answer to your question, I probably wouldn't throw one for myself either but a bbq as a celebration before the little arrives sounds like a nice idea...  =