The most important thing is to be there for her right now. I wouldn't tell her straight away as she will need time to heal. It doesn't matter if it was her first pregnancy or 20th, this is a devastating loss. The last thing she will want to hear is her best friend is pregnant. Give her a few weeks to grieve and then share and explain why you waited. Since you're best friends, perhaps you can get her involved in your pregnancy somehow. She probably won't show you that she's upset but deep down she will be. Every milestone you have, will be one that she lost. Even when your baby is born, she will be there and be supportive, but in her mind she will be thinking........I should be holding a baby too. So it won't be easy, but it will get better.
How far along was she? The first 3 months, anything can happen at any time so you may only want to share with immediate family before telling friends and tell them to keep it a secret.
The decision is yours, but I speak from experience. Oh, and don't offer any words like, it was for the best or it was God's will. Just listen and be supportive, nobody knows why we miscarry so just say you are so sorry. Hug her, cry with her, just be there for her. That's the best thing you can do.
Congrats on your pregnancy and I wish you a happy and healthy 9 months!!!!!!!
I'm very sorry for your friends loss, my thoughts and prayers are with her. ↑ |
| Thanks mychild - that helps. We are only 6 weeks and are only telling immediate family and this couple at this point. Only now, obviously, we are waiting to tell them. She was just at three months, she had no complications or any indications previously or this time that there might be trouble on the way. My heart aches for her - I can't imagine the grief. Fortunately they are part of a very close knit family and church so she will have lots of support from everyone when she is ready for it. Thanks again. ↑ |
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