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hi,many people are telling me not to take my husbnd in the delivery room,because it will be discusting and he will loose his desire for me after he see me that way,but i dont have but him here,no mom,no sis,no friend.what did u do? when u r pushing the baby,there is no possibilty that u pie!?or have gaz? is this happen? i am in 29 week ↓
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| Name: Chris R | Date: May 16th, 2006 4:42 PM |
| I know everyone has advice, but really you want your husbnad there. Mine was with me for our first baby and we have had no problems, now we are expecting baby #2. I think he hhas even more respect for what I went through since he was there and saw it firsthand. If you are uncomfortable, have your husband stay up with you and hold your hand while you push, my husband did, plus there are so many people down there, the Dr. and nurses it gets crowded. My husbnad didn't think he wanted to see it but ran down and watched as our son came out and was just fine. He thought is was really cool to watch. If you do pass anything, nobody will say a word about it, so you may not evne know, and they won't say anything about it to your husband either. It will be so loud in there with everyone encouraging you, and it's not anything they haven't seen beofre. You will be fine. Chances are these people telling you not to take your husband have not had a baby yet, so just think about that when you get advice. My husbnad would have been so hurt if he had missed the birth, best day of our lives! ↑ |
| Name: Lori | Date: May 16th, 2006 6:45 PM |
| The dad has a right to be in there. I never had a problem with my man thinking I was gross, Only an immature man might think that. Its a precious moment the birth of a child and he should be included if that is what you want :) I had a bowel movement while pushing #1 and honestly it wasnt embarrasing I thought it would be but in the middle of pushing the baby out you really dont care :P ↑ |
| Name: Angela1 | Date: May 16th, 2006 6:50 PM |
| My husband thought it was the most amazing thing he has ever seen. He should be able to see his baby take his first breath. And its not gross. He dont have to stare if he dont want to. And my husband desires me even more. He dont look at me different. I dont know who is telling you not to have him in there but they are crazy. ↑ |
| Name: nora | Date: May 16th, 2006 7:18 PM |
You do what you think is best Lolo.. if you want your hubby to be in the delivery room, then by all means get him in there! You giving birth to his child is going to be the best experience in the world for him and there shouldnt be any reason why he should miss this wonderful opportunity.. I got to be there when my sister had her second child, and I was so filled with happiness and amazement.. I was even lucky enough to cut Celina's umbilical cord and "officially" introduce her to the world (although my sister did all the real work)
But as I said before. you do what you think is right and let your husband decide what he wants to do. if he wants to be in that delivery room then all i can say is GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATS!! ↑ |
| Name: Dear LOLO | Date: May 16th, 2006 7:25 PM |
| Sounds to me like you've never even farted around your husband. If you havent, I could see where the insecurity would come from. Who ever said giving birth was glamorous, sexy, or pretty. Its natural and its how most of us got here. Im sure your husband has an idea of how a baby is born. I highly doubt sexual attraction will disapear after birthing a child, but if it does, its very shallow and there is much more new experiences to follow, along with barf and poop. ↑ |
| Name: Sarah M | Date: May 17th, 2006 12:26 AM |
| I had my bf there with my first baby and he barely could handle im pregnant with our second child and if he feels he can handle it this time then I dont see why he wouldnt be in there. Just ask him and see if he really wants to. And my bf obviously didnt loose interest in me if i am pregnant a second time lol he couldnt wait til we were able to have sex again. ↑ |
| Name: Brandy | Date: May 17th, 2006 1:38 AM |
| I look at it this way... If he can do the deed in knocking you up then he can do the deed of watching you go threw what you have to. Of course all depends on each person but I will be damned if my husband leaves me when I need him the most!! ↑ |
| Name: ?? | Date: May 20th, 2006 6:35 PM |
I have in all my years never ever heard of such an opinion. What sort of crowd are you hanging around with that they are holding such an unusual opinion as to not let your spouse be there?
I have heard men regret not going in, but none regret going in.
The only thing I have heard was that someone knew someone who knew someone who's husband would faint at the side of blood. But then he felt horrible at missing the whole thing.
Besides, believe me, you will be too busy to give a dang WHAT his thoughts of you are! lol ↑ |
| Name: Amber | Date: May 21st, 2006 1:56 PM |
| You have to make your own decission on something like that,i know that my boyfriend is going to be right there by my side,he's already said he will be back there,and nobody is stopping him because he wants to be there to give me support and to watch our first child come into this world...so do what YOU want to do dont worry about what everyone else says! ↑ |
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