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hi im a 21 year single mom and i am 5 weeks pregnant with a one nite stands baby, i dont believe in abortions but i think thats the way i need to go as i cannot bring another child into this world without father. what do u guys think? ↓
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| Name: sweet tomorrow | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 4:04 PM |
| Do you know the father? ↑ |
| Name: Kyra | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 4:20 PM |
how old is your other child? I'm not against abortion by any means (had one when i was 16) but it definitly depends on your own feelings on having another baby. Father or no father it can be done but only if you want it. Good luck.
It might be wise to book an abortion so you're not paniciing when the deadline 12 wks aproaches and then you can see how you feel about things over the next few weeks.
Good Luck! ↑ |
| Name: lauramarsh | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 4:58 PM |
| yes i kno the father but the thing is he dont want kids he is only out for the shag ↑ |
| Name: lauramarsh | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 4:59 PM |
| my older child is 2 years old ↑ |
| Name: sweet tomorrow | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 5:00 PM |
| Well how do you feel about adoption? Or have the baby one day a man will love both you and your children ↑ |
| Name: lauramarsh | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 5:02 PM |
| thats the way i was gonna go as i dont believe in killin something, its just gonna be hard ↑ |
| Name: sweet tomorrow | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 5:03 PM |
| Well having the baby wouldn't be bad.. Nor giving it to a couple who wants a baby. The choice is yours.. Good luck ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 5:03 PM |
| just wondering, did you use protection? ↑ |
| Name: lauramarsh | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 6:06 PM |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 6:20 PM |
| during? and you noticed? ↑ |
| Name: mybabyboy | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 6:34 PM |
| If you think about an abortion look at the pictures and your mind will change quick. ↑ |
| Name: pamala | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 8:16 PM |
I think its a decision to where it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, its entirely up to you. Whatever decision you make will be the right one.
Good Luck. ↑ |
| Name: nicola87 | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 8:23 PM |
| laura i didn't no whether i wantd to keep my baby either because it was just a one night stand and wasn't how i wanted things, but i had a scare and i had to av 2 scans 1 at 5weeks and 1 at 7 weeks and it was just amazin at 7weeks i saw its head and heart beat and i just new der and den i couldnt have a termination. i got worrys goin through my mind thinkin no1 is gona want me with a kid but at the end of the day if someone does want me at least i no they really do coz dey would be expectin me and my baby. i hope your ok hun and if u ever want a chat heres my email [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: bmes | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 9:00 PM |
I'm not COMPLETELY against abortions, but I think that you should only have one under cerrtain circumstances....i think if you've been raped by someone or a member of your family, you should have the right to an abortion. If you were just plain irresponsible, I don't think you should have the right to end a human's right to live. Who made you god? that's the way i look at it....If you know you can't look after a baby then you should keep your legs closed. I think it's sick and unfair, that you can just go around sleeping with people, and wooops i got pregnant...well i'll just have an abortion!!
In your story, you say you don't want to bring another child into this world without a father. I don't think that's a good enough reason to have an abortion. He/she would still have a mother, grandparents, maybe aunts and uncles if you're not an only child.....they'd have a brother/sister (you said "another child, so i'm assuming you have one already)....what if you meet someone down the road and you guys fall in love and get married....that could be their dad...anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad.....they don't have to be blood related! i just think it's too easy of a way out. And if for some reason besides the fact you don't want to have a child without a father, at least think of adoption....there's thousands of couples out there who would love to be that baby's parents!!
Sorry this was so long....lol....I hope you make the right decision!! ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 9:05 PM |
| Name: daisyusa | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 9:09 PM |
You're 21, a full grown adult, you can do this. I was a single mother and then met the man of my dreams. He loves my child as his own and has never refered to him as a stepson. We have added to our family with a baby boy who is now 19 months old.
To me, abortion would never be an option. This baby is a gift! I have always felt that you need to dig deep when pregnant and going through these situations. Ask yourself, what if these 2 children are the only children I'll have? If you choose to have another baby later, how can you look into your children's eyes and think I chose to have you but not your baby brother, or big sister? I had a mc in Aug and I have had to ask myself that same question, maybe the children I have are the only ones. I'm happy with that and feel amazingly blessed!
You can do this!!! God bless. ↑ |
| Name: sweet tomorrow | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 9:14 PM |
| I agree with bmes.. You layed down (or maybe not but) you still allowed sex to happen you take the chance with a condom breaking of becoming pregnant. You should of gotten a Emergency Contraceptive to prevent it. (I'm sorry girls i do believe in those) You can't kill a child because you're too irresponsible to do something about it. I am against abortions.. There are kids who don't have families.. What gives you the right to be a murderer? ↑ |
| Name: want2adopt2006 | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 9:15 PM |
What about adoption? I know the facilitator we are working wtih has 123 couples looking to adopt a child right now.
If you want info - let me know: [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: sweet tomorrow | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 9:16 PM |
| think about it before you make such a big choice.. Even if it's adoption.. Which is excellent, but if you think that will be hard.. Then there is ways to raise a baby.. You did it once, you can do it again.. ↑ |
| Name: Kyra | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 9:24 PM |
Everyone makes mistakes and although it may be hard to see a preg. as a mistake, depending on your situation, it could be.
Its also unfair to raise a child that wasn't really 'wanted' or that can't be provided for--I have met many, many women who shouldn't be mothers and its only the kids that suffer. Of course adoption is an easy solution but thats asking alot of 'lauramarsh' if its not something that she could handle well. Its a great gift to someone but would it be infringing on the growing up of her older child?
Sorry, not preaching just trying to remind everyone to keep an open mind before throwing out nasty names!!! ↑ |
| Name: sweet tomorrow | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 9:32 PM |
| Well I know my babies weren't planned.. And at first i didn't want to be pregnant. BUT I AM.. And I'm 19 with twins. So why the hell would I be looked down upon, and you support her? ↑ |
| Name: sweet tomorrow | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 9:34 PM |
| I'm anti-abortion unless you're raped.. it's not my choice.. But w.e ↑ |
| Name: sweet tomorrow | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 9:36 PM |
| A baby(ies) are a gift and should be treated that way.. I know I regret now not being happy. My babies and my husband and daughter are my life now.. You learn to adjust to being pregnant and get a little less upset with time ↑ |
| Name: firsttimer | Date: Feb 4th, 2007 11:00 PM |
| i have to be honest and tell you i had an abortion. the man pressured me into it and i regret it. it was very very hard to go through. emotionally i am still not over it. i think it is a big decision and while i am not against abortion i think you should understand that it is very hard on a person mentally. ↑ |
| Name: lauramarsh | Date: Feb 5th, 2007 7:26 PM |
| hi ppl thank u for ur views, but still i am lost, my mother is my support where i live and she is totally againest me having this baby,she calls me a stupid irresponsible child. i am seriously starting to agree ↑ |
| Name: Marti | Date: Feb 5th, 2007 8:02 PM |
| I think it's your decision but there are many people in the world who would love a baby so if you don't want it, I would consider adoption. ↑ |
| Name: daisyusa | Date: Feb 5th, 2007 8:05 PM |
| You are 21! This isn't your mother's desicion. I can't believe how the lives of babies are just tossed around like nothing. ↑ |
| Name: lauramarsh | Date: Feb 5th, 2007 8:08 PM |
| my heart says have the baby,but my brain says abort it ↑ |
| Name: lauramarsh | Date: Feb 5th, 2007 8:10 PM |
| could i cope with another baby aswel as a 2 year old ↑ |
| Name: daisyusa | Date: Feb 5th, 2007 8:25 PM |
| You have to find the strength from within. I know we are all different and I absolutely hate abortion. These babies are gifts from God and who are we to judge what babies live and what babies die? I know this can't be easy on you, no matter what choice you make, but let it be all yours. There are so many resources for single parents including great child care rates. This is your baby, a breathing living thing that you are already nurturing in your womb. At least talk to a counsler that will help you look at things from all angles and not just one. I feel like I'm pushing the no abortion thing on you and that's not my place, just my feelings, and quite honestly, I know they are just that. ↑ |
| Name: lauramarsh | Date: Feb 5th, 2007 8:32 PM |
| i have thought things over in my head, but most people tell me to make the decision by myself ↑ |
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