| i have a 9yr old soon to be 10 next mth,a 4yr old, and preg. with #3. im not with the 2 oldest childrens dad. my question is this...i was 15 when i had my oldest daughter therefore i still lived with my parents. most of you know how that works, they think because you are young your not able to care for your child alone. because of this and living with my parents off and on for some time now my daughter doesnt want to live with me. i mean she knows how i feel about her and knows that i would take very well care of her. shes fine during the day but when its bed time she only wants to be at grannys.we've had alot of issues with her such as her attitude and my mother blames me, always telling me to take my kid before she throws her out.when i say that she was the one that caused this when she was a baby she throws a fit and says its not. i mean everytime i ever corrected her my mom would baby her and say its ok so she'd go back to what she was doing. now that she is so use to getting her way she doesnt care what anyone has to say yet i still get the blame. how can i get my little girl back and have her act like one?? theres nothing girly about her which is ok i guess but she wants to act like shes way older then she is yet at times is worse then my 4yr old. what am i suppose to do?? is anyone else or did anyone else go through this??? please help ↑ |
| i know this is a place for pregnancy but like i said, i posted in single parents and stay at home parents but got no response. figured even though most of us here are expecting that some of you already have children and that maybe someone had one young or who has experianced something similiar to this ↑ |
| thats a hard one! she's like in the so called "tween " years....rough. do you think she is getting into trouble? like, school, stealing, drugs...? ↑ |
| id say move, but i do not know if you have a support group somewhere else...family, friends. it seems like your mom has decided this is "her" daughter yet does not want to deal with the not so nice issues that go along with it. ↑ |
| hey... congrats on the "girl" ↑ |
| see thats my thought. my mom wants to except my daughter as hers and claims she raised her just because i was so young at the time and lived at home. everytime i corrected her i was told i was wrong. i spent as much time as possible with my daughter. yeah i took off here and there, i was in school which i ended up dropping out between school taking care of a baby and doing stuff around the house made me really tired. but because i didnt devote every second of my time she figured i couldnt take care of her. now that my mother raised her the way she did shes got it set in her mind that she das no boss and my mother is finally giving up on her, she tells me all the time to pick her up she dont want her at her house anymore but the next she says everything is ok. dont get me wrong my mother knows how to take care of children and i trust her fully but she didnt realize what she has done until now and its to late to correct my daughter, she blames it all on me. my daughter doesnt have a problem with me she just dont wanna move away from granny and has a very bad attitude like i said. she wants everything her way or no way because shes use to my mom letting her get away with it. i know for a fact she isnt having sex or doing drugs of any sort and her grades or ok but now im getting complaints for her behaviour. i dont know what i should do to get her back home and just end this. i was hoping maybe someone else who has experianced this would have suggestions.like i said my 4 year old watches everything she does and with the new baby on the way i dont want them to think its ok. i want to help my daughter before its way to late and she ends up resorting to trouble. ↑ |
