hi my name is shauna,
im 23 weeks pregnant and my bf has started hitting me, i have no one too turn to.
He is on smack and is demanding money from me.
help me ↓
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| Name: lizshouse88 | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 1:50 AM |
My first suggestion would be to leave him, but I know if someone told me to leave my man I wouldnt pay attention to them. Therefore, I would say to get HIM help. I have been where he is, and I know his reaction will probably be no at first. Ask him to do it for your baby. I come from a family of drug addicts (lucky for me im the only smart one who doesnt do them). If you need options I can give you a few ideas. Hope it works out.
Elizabeth ↑ |
| Name: shauna | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 1:57 AM |
| thanks elizabeth, is nice to know that some1 knows what im going through, iv tried but he wont listen too me , i will try again but all he thinks about is his next fix is coming from. im worried more about this when my baby arrives. i will let you know how i get on, thanks for listening, i appreciate it. ↑ |
| Name: shauna | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 1:59 AM |
| thanks mom to be easy said than done tho ↑ |
| Name: lizshouse88 | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 2:04 AM |
| I know in a situation like yours sometimes its a lot harder to leave your man than everyone else thinks. I thought mine was cheating on me for a while, but then I realized that I was just being overly-jealous and thinking things that werent true. So I went through the whole thing where everyone told me to leave him. But it just isnt that simple for me, and I think you're probably in a similar situation. If he really cares about this baby, and you, he will try to quit. If he has absolutely no care in the world whether or not he hurts your or the baby then I think you should try to find another way out. A way to get away from him. There are places you can go until you get yourself back on your feet. ↑ |
| Name: shauna | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 2:07 AM |
| thanks liz for your advice you are right, i know i need to get away ↑ |
| Name: A Mom To Be | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 2:10 AM |
| Name: shauna | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 2:12 AM |
| typo wouldnt ask you for advice ↑ |
| Name: lizshouse88 | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 2:12 AM |
| I am just curious to know how you know if a post is fake or not. I am not by any means siding with shauna or jillw or A Mom To Be. I just see a lot of posts where it could be a real situation, but people post things that say they arent true. I know if I had posted this and I were telling the truth it would really piss me off to see someone post that. I just wanna know how you know if its fake? ↑ |
| Name: lizshouse88 | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 2:18 AM |
| Well im just going to leave this alone because people on here obviously dont like me already.. .I hardly get any answers to my questions. I dont want to give you all a reason not to answer them at all.. Sorry I pissed you off ↑ |
| Name: A Mom To Be | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 2:19 AM |
| I feel that why risk your baby and your life. It is retarded if you stay. ↑ |
| Name: A Mom To Be | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 2:20 AM |
| You know whats right and wrong so dont play the victim YOU CAN SURVIVE THIS AND GET OUT. ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 2:20 AM |
| you didn't piss me off at all. Infact I am giving you advise right now on your breast feeding topic. I don't know if you have been on here much today, but we had a chick fake are 23week premie birth and I am just feeling on edge form that. Lots of people were really upset for her and worried and it was all a scam to get a reaction out of people. The ladies on here are my friends and I jsut don't like to see them hurt over dumb crap like that. ↑ |
| Name: lizshouse88 | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 2:25 AM |
| Yeah that Lorna girl. I had some doubts in my mind about her too. I dont know I am just the kind of person who thinks on both sides of a conversation I guess. I know that those kinds of situations happen and that if it were true, it could really hurt the person who posted it. But then again its not right for the person to post it if its not true. Thats why im just staying out of this because in my opinion we will never know if shes telling the truth or not ↑ |
| Name: shauna | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 2:29 AM |
| well every ones post could be fake but in my opinion why would sick people come on this site and post lies dont they have a life/ ↑ |
| Name: shauna | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 2:42 AM |
| well your all right in what you all say i know that. i have to make big changes before my baby comes but worries me been on my own. thamk you all for your advice. ↑ |
| Name: A Mom To Be | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 2:42 AM |
I feel similar to jill. Why I was harsh is because sometimes people need to hear that. I am NOT going to ever validate an abusive relationship esp when you need to think of a baby. I am sorry what I said wasnt what you wanted to hear... but in my mind it is better that I said it, because you can think about the harshness of this situation, if no one did and then he hit you and you lost your baby I would kick myself for not telling you to get out of this relationship. I never said it would be easy, but to some degree I assume (this is not from experience thankfully), leaving would be better than you burying your baby, or you family burying both you and your child.
I am concerned about your safety. ↑ |
| Name: RhondaLovesMark | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 2:55 AM |
| Your solution is simple as apple pie! Leave him!! ↑ |
| Name: shauna | Date: Feb 10th, 2007 10:24 PM |
thankyou for the advice,
i have spoken to him,he has said he will get help.
he has said this before.
i am trying to make arrangments to stay elsewhere.
i want to do my best by my baby.
thank you for all your help. ↑ |
| Name: breemichelle | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 7:38 AM |
I'm still a little suspicious of this post because some of the phrasing of words Shauna used sounds a lot like the way "Lorna" or "Lorna's Mum" talked.
If this is indeed a real post, then get the heck away from this guy. He is never going to stop without some serious help which even then will take a long time to fix. Even if he does get better having him out of yours and the baby's life for a couple years until he does get better, in my opinion is better than having him be there from the start but continuing to be a junkie and a woman beater.
Get away and get away now. ↑ |
| Name: sweet tomorrow | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 3:27 PM |
breemichelle- I am feeling what you are too..
But if this is true, well then you need to leave him. Him hitting you hurts your baby.. Think of your baby.. Find relative or get a friend to help you. Good luck ↑ |
| Name: diamond | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 6:59 PM |
| there are other options i have a friend who was kinda in the same boat as u except i told her to leave him go into a safe home or something and she didnt listen and one day her bf got really pissed and beat her really bad kicking her stomach and everything ended up ambulance coming cops coming when she got to the hospital she was really bad so was the baby a few days later she lost it so for the sake of u and your baby u need to leave him go into safe home a shelter or something just leave him and i know u may not listen to me since u don't even know me but still if u really care about your baby u need to leave him ↑ |
| Name: seatrout | Date: Feb 12th, 2007 4:08 AM |
| I'ts better to be on your own than dead shauna - come on! And if you bring a baby into that situation, I just consider that child abuse! ↑ |
| Name: PiageM | Date: Feb 12th, 2007 5:20 PM |
| thats terrible, I think you need to get some help ASAP ↑ |
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