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I come from a very racist family(not immediate but grandparents,etc) and my baby will be half native american,half white.I never thought of how the rest of my familt will react,I know my parents will be fine but do you think it will grow on the others or do you think I am going to be in for all out family war when everyone finds out?Do I even tell them or wait until the baby is born and it is obviously Indian? ↓
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| Name: tubbybubble | Date: Apr 11th, 2007 7:53 PM |
| i'm sure you'll be able to tell somewhat. i think once everyone sees your baby for the first time they'll just fall in love and forget about everything else. i'm sure they wouldn't hold it against the baby...opinions yes...my grandma has opinions about everything...and half the time i pay attention and the other times i just have to ingore her..she's old and just set in her ways. she's full indian...and my mother is half..but boy you see my other two sisters and you know they have a little indian in them, but then you look at me. they all have jet black hair...dark features, and i have light brown hair and green eyes...haha ↑ |
| Name: NoahsMama06 | Date: Apr 11th, 2007 7:54 PM |
| I think you should tell them... it isn't going to get any easier the longer you wait. If you tell them now it will give them time to process the information. A baby is a wonderful miracle no matter what race it is and hopefully they will see that!!! Good Luck! ↑ |
| Name: Randi | Date: Apr 11th, 2007 7:54 PM |
| I would personally tell them now. If they don't accept it, they are going to miss out on a relationship with a baby (not the babys fault it's bi racial) and with the parents. I personally think it is stupid to get worked up over something so trivial as the colour of someones skin. You will love your baby no matter what and hopefully your family comes around. Good luck : D ↑ |
| Name: automansgirl | Date: Apr 11th, 2007 7:59 PM |
| I also have a very racist family, and unfortunately it's not just grandparents. Just tell them. Reguardless of how they feel they will love the baby. I have a cousin who's father is very racist and she got pregnant at 15 by a Puerta Rican. Some of my family made fun of her for it, but in the end they all love the baby very much. I have found that most people will change their view once there is an innocent child born in your own family. ↑ |
| Name: zoey9810 | Date: Apr 11th, 2007 8:49 PM |
| well first off white is a color, not a race, so what is your race?? ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Apr 11th, 2007 8:59 PM |
| Name: Brittany17 | Date: Apr 11th, 2007 10:02 PM |
| Name: question | Date: Apr 11th, 2007 10:10 PM |
| I suppose I will tell them,somehow...Hopefully it will end good. ↑ |
| Name: breemichelle | Date: Apr 11th, 2007 10:21 PM |
| So I'm guessing your family has never met the father or the father is not in the picture? Hopefully if your family loves you they will accept your baby no matter what. My husband is half black and while I wouldn't call anyone in my family racist they are probably a little sheltered and "old fashioned" and I personally didn't give a crap what they thought but my husband was worried and once they all met him they fell in love with him and any misgivings or stereotypes they had went out the door. I hope the same happens with your family but if you consider them to be very racist that may not be the case. I really don't think it's any of their business what race your baby is, but the girls here are right it's probably better to let them know ahead of time. ↑ |
| Name: question | Date: Apr 12th, 2007 4:58 PM |
| No the daddys not in the picture,actually he's in jail now.I don't know how long he will be put away.We never spent much time with my family,my immediate family has met him but that is it.We were only together for 7 months. ↑ |
| Name: zoey9810 | Date: Apr 12th, 2007 5:01 PM |
| Name: question | Date: Apr 12th, 2007 5:04 PM |
| Name: zoey9810 | Date: Apr 12th, 2007 5:06 PM |
| white is a color, what are you made up of?? im White, but im French Irish Cherokee and German!! ↑ |
| Name: question | Date: Apr 12th, 2007 5:07 PM |
| O sorry,my mind was elsewhere..... Im English and Scottish ↑ |
| Name: DaneseS | Date: Apr 12th, 2007 5:07 PM |
| im white and i am italian irish and german..woooo...my husband is puerto rican...my family had misgivings too ↑ |
| Name: question | Date: Apr 12th, 2007 5:10 PM |
| but I suppose your family got over it? I asked mom last night if she had told grandma (the biggest one I worried about) and she said yes.So I really didn't press the issue.I know Grandma will tell EVERYONE else for me...lol ↑ |
| Name: zoey9810 | Date: Apr 12th, 2007 5:14 PM |
| so in other words your mixed just like about every one else in this world, so they should not even think about saying racist comments unless they are full blood English, or full blood Scottish and still living in their original country!! i wouldn't worry about it too much and to think about it, hes Native to this country and they are not, so they are more different than he is lol, at least he didn't migrate out of his country lol ↑ |
| Name: DaneseS | Date: Apr 12th, 2007 5:14 PM |
| yeah theyre over it. My grandpa says as many racistthings he can about all the other hispanic groups but skips around puerto ricans...he isnt over it...but i dont care. Everyone else is either over it or just doesnt say anything ↑ |
| Name: question | Date: Apr 12th, 2007 5:23 PM |
| I guess I may have to bring up the fact that My grandma moved over here from England....And the rest from Scottland.... Don't think they will appreciate it but thats a good point! ↑ |
| Name: zoey9810 | Date: Apr 12th, 2007 5:40 PM |
| lol, i wouldn't point blankly say, Grandma your an immigrant, lol but if you guys do get into an argument then i would bring it up! ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Apr 12th, 2007 5:44 PM |
| I say that syou should tell them. Unless they are like "only white is right" sort of people then I am sure that htey will be fine with it. IF they are not then it is better for you to know before you expose you child to them. In my experience with white people who can be reviest, they tend to jsut not like the major minorities like ...blacks and mexicans etc.... I don't know vary many people (execept the people who believe that only white and white make perfect children) who don't like native americans and are raciest aganist them. ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Apr 12th, 2007 5:50 PM |
| also don't assume that people will jsut accept the child and if they choose to say ok we will like your baby but we are going to keep being raciest then you should still concider keeping your child away from them. My best friend is mexican and both her and her sister have a child with a black man. their father is very very raciest (but only aganist black people LOL) now my friend sister also has kids with her husband who is white. Her father treats them very different and the kids notice it. It is very sad. WHen he found otu that my friend roxanne was pregnant by a black guy he was pissed, but now tha tthe baby is here and looks "only mexican" (I guess becuase she has nice straight hair and her skin is not dark) he loves her and wants to hold her all the time. It is a sad situation and while they can not change their father and his beliefs they can choose to not expose their kids to it, becuase even though he likes rocannes baby because she doesn't "look black" he is still going to use racial slurs aroung her and that will hurt her self esteem in the end. ↑ |
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