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sorry if this is going to be long but please bear with me. I'm a bigger girl starting out pre-pregnancy due to medications i was taking. This last doctors appointment i went in and stepped onto their scale and it registered me as gaining 20lbs in 1 week. NOT humanly possible and the doctor comes in and was like what did you do toyourself to gain 20lbs this week. not even people that are body builders and take steriods can gain that much.then she was suppose to give me an ultrasound to measure the baby one more final time to make sure what the weight was because i might be at risk for needing a c-section. she failed to do this as well. Then to top things off she was like let me check your cervix and if your dialiated at all we are going to strip your membranes,little did i knwo this woman had about 1/2inch fake finger nails that she was about to use to strip my membranes then when i had my contraction brought on by her i was holding my husbands hand and i started to squeeze hard and she told me to chalk it up because that was only one contraction adn i would have 100's more before it was over. i was like it wasn't even the contraction that hurt it was you with your finger nails. i don't know what to do becaus ei'm not in a position to do anything. i'm in the military and unforunately don't have a choice over who i get for a doctor. what do you all think about this or what would you have done. i left there crying because she wanted me to get weighed again with no shoes on and in my 20 min appointment minus my shoes the scale said i gained three lbs once again i don't think that is possible. i'm looking to see what you would have done in my situation because all i could do was cry. ↓
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| Name: Marlene | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 6:05 PM |
| Christen i am sorry. I too am a bigger girl pre-preg also. i had gained 10lbs in 3wks and then 7 more the next time i went back after that i stoped asking or even looking at the scale when i get weighed my doc don't say anything to me but try to eat as healthy as i can. i know how you are feeling. Now the nail thing and her telling you to pretty much suck it up not nice. you should have ask if she had kids.Not sure what i would have done but i wouldn't not have been nice. ↑ |
| Name: christen | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 6:08 PM |
| the thing i think that was worse is she wasn't answering my questions about my baby and thats what i'm there for not to hear a lecture about my weight and 20lbs in one week there is no way to even eat enough food to gain that much thats physically impossbile and my clothes wouldn't fit me if It were true. i don't know i just wnat this to be over witha nd i'm not stepping on ascale next time and if they tell me they can't see me unless i do then i will bel ike well you will see me in the delivery room then. that is just to much stress on me that i don't need. they can find something else to harp on. ↑ |
| Name: daisyusa | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 6:10 PM |
| Christen, as hard as it is, you know why you are gaining weight and that is all that matters. You go to the doc like you're supposed to and your baby is being taken care of. You don't have to deal with her much longer. I can understand where you are coming from. These docs see so many people they seem to lose the meaning behind why they became a doctor. I had gone through most of my first pregnancy not knowing, very irregular. I was young with no insurance and the treatment at the clinic was horrible. I just cried and I wanted to run out of there as fast as I could. But I didn't, I knew my baby and I needed the care, I didnt' have a choice of docs either. So, I just held my head up high and ignored any rude remarks they had to say. My baby ended up fine, he is 12 now and I never went back to that place. I had my family for support and they were compassionate and understanding of my feelings and that helped. Just look at it as though they must lead a sad life to treat people that way, and you are happy, ready to have a beautiful baby. I know it's easier said than done. Sorry so long. God bless. ↑ |
| Name: Kristy84 | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 6:12 PM |
| I really feel fo you. My best friend had to deliver her 2nd baby in a military hospital and the care was horrible!!! It's ridiculous that you don't have a choice in what dr.s you are able to see. I was thin pre-pg, but I still don't look at the scale. If the dr. thinks there is something wrong, then I trust she'll say something, but otherwise I choose not to know the exact numbers. You're right, there is no possible way to gain 20lbs. in one week, and this doctor is a stupid b**ch if she doesn't know that. It's almost humanly impossible for a person to gain 1 lb. in a day let alone almost 3lbs. in one day. I would speak up next time...just b/c you have to see her doesn't mean you can't speak your mind. I'm sooo sorry CHristen!!! Your little one will be here soon!!! ↑ |
| Name: christen | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 6:15 PM |
| i just hate her looking down on me like i'm doing something terrible when i'm not. i have a lot of self worth but when someone puts you down like that in front of your support system and everything just makes you feel like you don't matter you don't mean anything and because you were bigger to begin with that you don't deserve to have a good pregnancy and to be happy. i really hate people that are that way because i'm like a sponge and with pregnancy hormones on top of that i don't know what to do. i have eaten healthy i actually had the nutrionalist tell me that i don't eat enough and this crazy bitch is telling me that i did something wrong to gain 20lbs in one week. ahhhhhhhhhh, i cried for like 4 hours last night and there was nothing i could do about it. it was like a faucet that wouldnt' turn off. and the thing about it is when i do go there they never answer my questions about my baby its always YOU GAINED TO MUCH WEIGHT! i can weigh myself on a scale at home i just go to the doctors time and time again for my baby no other reason i'm healthy i dont' smoke i don't drink i have low Blood pressure and low blood sugars i just don't understand! ↑ |
| Name: a.philo_3ks | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 6:39 PM |
| I GAINED 9 IN A WEEK AND 19 IN A MONTH AND 1/2 EVERYONE GAINS DIFFERENT ↑ |
| Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 6:54 PM |
Christen-
Do not allow this women to make you feel as if you do not matter because you do. She is the one with the problem obviously. I do not care if this lady was having a bad day she had no right to take it out on you. And I do not even care if she think you gaining weight with this pregnancy is terrible because you are over weight to begin with because this is none of her business. Regardless of what anyone says your going to gain weight. And it doesn't matter what you eat because your body is going to continue to gain weight that is approprate for your pregnancy. You know what you put in your mouth, if you choose to have a slice of cake then have that slice of cake and who cares what someone else says. You doctor knows that it isn't humanly possible for you to have gain what she said you had gained and for personal reasons of her own she made it about your weight. If you have questions about your baby you don't leave until you get your answer. This is her job as your doctor. Maybe if you start treating her the way that she has been treating you maybe you'll get the answers that you want.
When I was pregnant with my son I had lost 28 pounds in the first trimester so every time I went to the doctor the nurse would give me a lecture of how I need to start gaining weight. I looked at her and said, when I can start keeping things down I'll gain weight until then just deal with because I am. Then when I started gaining weight the nurses started commenting on how I was gaining to much to fast. I looked at her and said, make up you mind either I am to gain weight or I'm not but you can't have it both ways. With my currant pregnancy I started off at 208 lbs and have so far since my last appointment 2 weeks ago have gained 14 1/2 lbs. I haven't changed my eating habits and I am doing the same things that I did when I was pregnant with my son. So I truely feel you are going to gain whatever number of pounds that your body is going to gain based on your pregnancy.
Just hold your head up high. By what you had said you don't have much longer to deal with this woman. ↑ |
| Name: Kristy84 | Date: Oct 31st, 2006 9:56 PM |
Jen,
I'm so glad that you are posting on here again. Your words are always sooo encouraging. We definitely missed you!!!!! ↑ |
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