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| Name: sweet tomorrow | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 7:29 PM |
| You don't have to be married to have a baby afterwards it should go back to being normal No Yes ↑ |
| Name: Kyra | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 7:48 PM |
| Haha--Sweet Tomorrow, very efficient in your answer!! You are a pro! Diamond, I don't think you need to worry about posting to much, its a great network to belong to and very informative! ↑ |
| Name: sweet tomorrow | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 7:50 PM |
| LoL.. Thanks Kyra :-D ↑ |
| Name: tubbybubble | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 7:56 PM |
| hi diamond, sweets is right, you don't HAVE to be married to have a baby, people do it all the time. after you have a baby, everything will go back to normal pain is pain...they say child birth is the most painful experience a woman will go through. they also say the closest a man could ever get to child birth is kidney stones. but there is pain relief if you need it...don't be scared. yes, you still can have sex while your pregnant. ↑ |
| Name: diamond | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 8:22 PM |
| thx krya and tubbybubble how long after my first baby should i wait to have a second one? does breast feeding hurt? this is from my fiance he wants to know what can he do to help me when im in labor ↑ |
| Name: jeffnjasharstad | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 8:30 PM |
| Diamond, I read your other post and I want to congratulate you on being pregnant! Me & my fiance are not married, have been engaged since last July but plan on marrying sometime after the baby is born. We first are doing a Justice of the Peace wedding in front of a judge until we can save up money and have the actual wedding ceremony & reception in a couple years. So no you don't have to be married before the baby comes, it's totally OKAY to wait. A lot of people say you should wait to be married to have kids and honestly I thought I'd be married for a year or two then have kids, well when you plan things, things usually don't go that way. Plus it's easier said that done. But I'm glad it happened the way it did and where I am at in my life now. After you have the baby (this is my first pregnancy so I am not speaking of experience) your body goes to the way it was, it does take time, so if you plan on breastfeeding it helps you lose weight a little faster I read & heard from my doctor. I'm glad I'm due in March because this way me and my fiance can take our dog and our baby on walks. My mom just bought us a stroller/carseat combo, so we cant wait to put the stroller to use!! I don't know about the pain, I watch those shows too and before I was pregnant I was horrified of becoming pregnant then i found out I was 2 months pregnant and then watching those shows it actually got me excited, yeah it'll be painful but there are pain relievers (epidurals, etc) which I plan on taking, but I know it'll be worth it after seeing your little miracle be born! Yes it is totally fine to have sex!!! To be honest I was more in the mood to do it more and I felt a little more daring, like "oh lets try this new move" haha sorry but then now I'm 34 weeks pregnant and we still do it but it's a little harder now since the belly gets in the way and it's more of a workout now and gets uncomfortable, but they say it's totally fine and healthy to have sex while pregnant unless you are at a high risk pregnancy which your doctor will let you know if you are or when you shouldnt anymore. As long as the doctor don't say no, you are fine to do so. Good luck in your pregnancy & hope all goes well!!!--Jasmin ↑ |
| Name: jeffnjasharstad | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 8:34 PM |
| to your second set of ?'s I can't answer since this is my first pregnancy. but I do recommend taking Prenatal classes (birthing prep classes, breastfeeding classes) they offer them at the hospital for free (well at least here). they give you all the info that you need. also buy "what to expect when expecting" GREAT book, answers A LOT of questions and goes month to month and what changes are happening in your body, size of baby, emotions you go through, what happens at that months doctors visit, etc...there are lots of things your fiance can do to help out, even little things, carrying the groceries, backrubs, feet rubs, staying positive when you are emotinoal and comforting you, he has gone to EVERY doctors appt with me, this month we are taking prenatal classes together and learning different breathing techniques and they teach him stuff there of how he can be supportive and what he can do when the woman is pregnant and what to do when i go into labor, etc.... ↑ |
| Name: diamond | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 8:36 PM |
| congratulations jasmine thats good beacause to be honest i to have been feeling more in the mood its just toni here is a lil scared to ↑ |
| Name: babey_g_311 | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 8:50 PM |
| the pain is not bad at all if you choose for it not to be....I had an epidural and it took the pain away completely for me. I was watching americas funniest home videos and laughing and joking while I wasn't pushing,lol. I actually thought labor was alot of fun, I told my husband I would do it again everyday but than we'd have too many kids! lol. ↑ |
| Name: diamond | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 8:56 PM |
| lol wow that's good news I've read a lot of things that says sometimes it just doesnt work for some people how can i find out if it wont work for me? ↑ |
| Name: tubbybubble | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 9:48 PM |
| diamond, you won't know what works for you until your actually in labor. when i had my epi, i was smooth sailing after that...i didn't feel NOTHING while i was pushing. my son tore me when he was coming out and i didn't feel that either....the dr. said i had one of the best epi's they had ever seen b/c they say that even with one you still feel a little pain and pressure. needless, to say that i really didn't get feeling into my legs until about 7 hours after i had him... : ) ↑ |
| Name: tylersmom06 | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 9:58 PM |
| Diamond... you might want to consider googling pregnancy.. there are lots of informative websites that can guide you through step by step... For Starters try www.babycenter.com www.pregnancy.org www.pr egnancy.com www.i-am-pregnant.com www.pregnan cy-info.net/ www.firsttimepregnancy.com/ Tr y some of those... lots of information, they will send you emails and some of them you can sign up for free stuff/samples! ↑ |
| Name: amberlyn | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 10:10 PM |
| If you had already planned a wedding and there is a date set deposits etc then do ahead with your wedding. On the other hand if you had not planned to be married wait and make sure this is what you both want. Don't get married just because there is a baby on the way. As far as body changes we had our son Nov 5th 06 and and I am having our second baby in late Sept '07. I did breastf eed and was almost back to pre preg wt I had our son at home with a midwife.Definetely will do it again. Take classes read and learn all you can. My Mother-in Law had all of her babies at home and she was a great support. If however after doing some research you decide on wanting meds go for it. They will work I have seen TLC and stopped watching it because it was scary to me I was 2 weeks late carrying a baby weighing around 8 pounds . I never screamed but during one really hard contraction hubby put his hand on my belly to time it and I said "That will be as close as you get for a long time" Obviously a lie on my part. LOL What I learned is if you let it your body knows what to do if you don't fight it. . It hurts but look at it this way. Think about the worst pain you have ever had. You can always remember it but never actually recreate it. My worst pain in natural childbirth happened when I broke focus. As far as I am concerned natural childbirth is the best for me and you need to talk to and research with midwives,doulas doctors nursepractioners and makethe best decision for both your baby and you. As far as intimacy.. Normally it is O.K. unless there is a problem Check with your care provider and they will guide you By the way congratulations ↑ |
