| if you would take things from her when she dont do as she should like her radio,tv , bed room door , cds/ cd player what im saying is when she lies take some when she does bad at school take something when she's smart mouth take something when she starts being good then start giving things back ↑ |
| She is probably pushing your buttons to see how far she can push you to your breaking point.Why was she with grandma and not you in the first place? Did she behave this way while grandma had her? Why do you suddenly have her back now? She may be unhappy about not being with grandma anymore and resenting you for it. But at any rate you have to put your foot down now and let her know who's boss. Tell her firmly her behavior will not be accepted and if she does'nt start showing improvement then you will be enrolling her in counseling,and do it if need be. She may just need more time though but dont wait too long or things could get worse. Try to be understanding of her feelings if you can get her to talk to you,thats the first step.She may be resenting the fact that you gave her to grandma and now you want her yourself and it's her life thats being jerked around. Maybe she misse friends she had when she lived with grandma. Or,did something happen to grandma? If so maybe she feels like she's lost her only true mom and you're only taking her because you had to. I'm just throwing out guesses here but maybe they are things you had'nt thought of. Of course I don't know the inside story but maybe I've left you with something to go on. Good luck with her. ↑ |
| Tell her also that if she doesnt start taking school seriously she's going to find herself sitting in summer school for every year she chooses not to pay attention and do what shes's been told. Tell her 7 years to 18 is a very long time so she just better straighten up and get used to the way things are going to be now! ↑ |
| Put either soap or tabasco sauce on her tongue each time she lies about anything,after awhile for sure she will knock it off. Maybe grandma let her get by with too much and she's set in her way's now meaning it will be that much harder for you to break her of her bad habits than it would have been if you just would have raised her yourself from the get go. ↑ |
| I was 17 when I had her and I had no support system and not finished highschool myself. Her grandma offered to take her so I could get my life on track. Adora (my daughter) Was doing well with her grandma, I thought. So I didnt want to up root her form there to come to where i am ( on the other side of the states) I told myself I wouldnt take her from her grandma till she said she wanted it. Thats what happened she didnt want to live with her grandma anymore. So Now she is here. Shes happy here. I find out now that her grandma wasnt so nice. (lots of yelling and screaming and no affection) Now when she lived with grandma she had NO rules at all. So alot of this is her testing her boundaries. Your advice is great and thanks you very much. ↑ |
| did you ever think about spanking one trip over your should do the trick i know it does it for me and im 16 ↑ |
