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Name: ConcernedMom

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I need advice regarding my 7 year old boy. About a month ago he had a sleepover at his friend's. His friend's older brother has a computer in his room connected to the internet. Later it was found out that this boy downloads ch ild pornography from the internet and has shown it to his brothe r.

Long story short - my boys friend's mother caught the two of them touching each other. She did not tell me about it and im not going to go into the legal process im stuck in at the moment because then I probably will not be able to continue. Also this is not my greatest concern at the moment. The day after visiting I found my boy shamelessly musterbating in our living room by his lego blocks. I to ld him then and there that it is wrong and asked him if someone was touching him there. That is when he told me about the visit to his friend. After that I caught him again. He had locked the door to the bathroom room - which he has never done before. I had a long talk with him and told him I never wanted to catch him doing it again. I later realized that I probably won't catch him again since he would make sure of that and it is out of my control. I found my self crying in the bookstore as I looked for a sex-ed book for preteens. Since then I've had him to a docter and psychiatrist . The docter assured me from a physical view he didn't seem abused and it was probably nothing more than 'docter-docter' childs-play. The child psychiatrist told me that some boys just 'start early' and in most cases this is normal behaviour! He warned that invading my boys pravicy is not the right way. As far as my husband goes: I wouldn't be surprised if he started doing it together with him. When I told him about it when he got home that night he simply discarded it with a laugh and a pat on my shoulder saying "ah boys will be boys". I could see him thinking "ah that's my boy".

What I want to know from you is whether im over reacting with this. Please tell me im not crazy - this is wrong. Why does everyone keep telling me it isn't. I don't want my son to grow up a pervert. ↓

Name: amy | Date: May 13th, 2006 7:42 PM

well i think that going to the phychiatrist was a bit out of order but your a mum whats upset so i understand what you need to do is tell your sons friends mum that they are watching child porn and that its affecting your son when hes round there playing, dont get too upset some boys do masturbate at a young age there just exploring so keep your chin up hunn and have words with there parents ↑

Name: ConcernedMom | Date: May 13th, 2006 7:51 PM

I'm afraid to leave him alone with other kids because I'm afraid of what he might do. I'm afraid to leave him alone with his little sister or his baby brother because I'm afraid he will start touch him too. I don't know what to do. Should I really just let this be?

I have spoken to the friend's mother. I'm in the process of filing a lawsuit against her, but it doesn't seem like that's going to go through. ↑

Name: amy | Date: May 13th, 2006 7:59 PM

child porn is agaisnt the law, i think your worrying too much about it but one sign of him getting tooooo close with your other children then you seriously need to get it all sorted because its all a normal thing in life porn and that but it makes me sick the fact a teenager is downloading child porn and watching it infront of little children, it will be hard for you to leave your son with your other children but as i say dont keep him away from them because he doesnt no what hes doing to him this is somthing people do ↑

Name: ConcernedMom | Date: May 13th, 2006 8:20 PM

Thanks for your advice. I'm glad someone else agrees with me on that. I don't think any kid would start doing something like this unless he was learned how. I don't have any proof that the boy is downloading porn but from what my son has told me it's pretty obvious. And if their 13 year old boy is downloading porn off the internet it is their fault not his. They offcoarse deny that he does. ↑

Name: StupidBint | Date: May 13th, 2006 8:36 PM

OMG CHANTELLE !!
anyway...You aint really overacting its your little boy..
and that perosn who had childporn on the computer phone the police. but.. saying your scared hell touch his sister is a bit horrible but i understand where your coming from.. ↑

Name: Siddhant | Date: Jun 23rd, 2006 8:20 AM

u aint overreacting it is ur son controle him wht if he sleep with another boy and may get DISEASES ↑

Name: danan | Date: Jun 27th, 2006 12:10 AM

ITS EASY DONT LET YOUR CHILD GO OVER THERE ANYMORE AND GET HIM A ph DOCTER ↑