I want to become a young mom.
I will be outta school.
I have a very stable relationship.
I/We will have enough money.
My mom has no probelm with it.
For me 18 or 19 would be the perfect time to have a baby...What do you think?
What would you do? I would like to hear all comments! ↓
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| Name: Ali | Date: Apr 8th, 2006 9:00 PM |
| If you are in a committed relationship and you have all your ducks in a row then I don't see why having a baby at 18 or 19 would be a bad thing. People are putting off having babies until they are in their late 30's or 40's and noone complains about all the "old" people have babies so why shouldn't you have one now at your young age if you would like to. You'll probably have a lot more energy to chase your kiddies around now rather then twenty or so years from now. I say go for it, but I do feel strongly that a baby needs a mommy and a daddy so only if your relationship is stable would I consider it if I were you. ↑ |
| Name: Lisa | Date: Apr 8th, 2006 10:04 PM |
| I had my son when I was 19 and the only thing I regret about it is our money situation. I am still with my sons father (my son will be 15 this summer)so Im glad about that part but it is really hard when you have to bring up a child with very little income because you cant buy all the things he wants and sometimes even needs. But despite our finances,we have raised a very descent young man who we are proud of. So....if you really feel you are ready and you have good income,I say go for it and good luck!!(I mean that sincerely!!) ↑ |
| Name: Melissa | Date: Apr 9th, 2006 4:05 PM |
Thanks for the replies!
I would lke to hear more! ↑ |
| Name: brandy | Date: Apr 10th, 2006 1:59 AM |
| i was 14 teen whan i had my first kid and now im 21 and have 3 i think if you want kids thats good i love being a mom i dont see my self doing anything but being a mom ↑ |
| Name: goth child | Date: Apr 10th, 2006 4:39 AM |
| my mum had me at 16 so no ↑ |
| Name: Melissa | Date: Apr 10th, 2006 8:24 PM |
Thanks for your replies!
After a long hard thought after talking to my boyfriend, friends, and my mom about having a baby, I think it will be a perfect time to have a baby! Next year I will be 18 and I plan on trying to have a baby after my birthday.
I want to live with mom because I don't think I could leave her by herself (she has deppression and anxiety) and she said she would help me take care of the baby while I save for college and go to work. We will have plenty of money in the mean time because we are selling our home in florida and getting a place in missouri so we can start a new life. Missouri places are a lot cheaper and offer more land. I am a farm girl....LOL
And yes "Ali" I want to be young so I can chase around the kids and still have energy at the end of the day...LOL
Thanks for your advice, and I don't mind if you still post. ↑ |
| Name: joe | Date: Apr 10th, 2006 8:37 PM |
| Name: Mary | Date: Apr 10th, 2006 8:38 PM |
| Name: Ali | Date: Apr 10th, 2006 8:44 PM |
| I hope you pay a little mind to the part of my post that says you need to be in a committed relationship. It's so important to have a two parent household not just for you and the support it will offer but it also give kids a better shot at life in general. Please if you aren't in a committed relationship wait until you are. Only if your relationship is stable would I ever suggest or ok it. ↑ |
| Name: Melissa | Date: Apr 10th, 2006 11:57 PM |
I don't believe marriage should come first.....but in other ways I do....But I know we are going to get married. I wouldn't want to have a baby unless they had a dad and would be there for them, my dad was never there for me thats why.
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now, never broke up, never cheated in our relationship. Our relationship is very stable and we are both committed to each other and what we like and our future. ↑ |
| Name: lesli jacknel | Date: Apr 11th, 2006 3:35 AM |
| i say get married first, or at least before the baby is born ↑ |
| Name: Lisa | Date: Apr 11th, 2006 11:17 PM |
| Melissa,it sounds like you have a rare relationship that will last. They are rare but they do happen occassionally. Im glad you are staying with your mom.I have anxiety,depression,and agoraphobia so I know a little about how she feels. It will be comforting for her to always have someone around and Im sure your baby when it finally arrives later will bring great joy to your mom as well as you and your guy. Good luck! ↑ |
| Name: Melissa | Date: Apr 12th, 2006 7:17 PM |
| Name: youngmum17 | Date: Apr 20th, 2006 12:58 PM |
i think thats fine, i see no problem with it, as long as you have enough money, enough love and are seriously willin to give up your social life.
sarah xx 6-3 ↑ |
| Name: Jasmine | Date: Apr 24th, 2006 4:49 PM |
| Yea 18 or 19 is too young. Your still a child yourself. Live a little and prepare yourself. Don't rush until adulthood. Having a baby is a great thing but the wrong timing could mess things up. Just wait a while. 18 IS TOO YOUNG. ↑ |
| Name: momat14 | Date: Jun 19th, 2006 10:45 PM |
| Name: sally | Date: Jun 19th, 2006 11:30 PM |
| I had my son at 19, not planned like you but everythings worked out perfect. I am now married to his father and we are still so in love and our son is now 12! We have a brand new house and update our cars every two years.Both our kids attend private schools and im lucky enough to work only 2 days a week while there at school.So Melissa do whats right for you and your partner, i wish you all the very best of luck! ↑ |
| Name: Tanya | Date: Jul 5th, 2006 2:03 AM |
| I Just turned 19 in april and i had my daughter in may i dont think there is anything wrong with it if you know that you want it and you are going to be there for you baby and treat it right and you have the money to suport it then your fine i think ↑ |
| Name: Tanya | Date: Jul 5th, 2006 2:07 AM |
| Sorri again if you wanna chat with some one more just let me know i will give you my email ↑ |
| Name: Flash | Date: Jul 9th, 2006 5:45 PM |
| Hey My mom had my brother at 14 and she said she wish you would have waited till 18 or 19 all of my friends want to wait until 18 or 19 for a 1st kid my sister had my nephew at 18 and she doesnt regret it now shes 26 in nov with 2 kids shes now married and very happy good luck and do what feel s right to you good luck and get back to me [email protected] I got the messenger or aol messenger my aim name is [email protected] u can also call me 347-880-2168 hope to hear from you soon good luck with bein a mom much luv Ayana Aka Flash ↑ |
| Name: Caiti | Date: Jul 10th, 2006 6:14 PM |
| I totally agree with you. I think if you believe you are ready, and you are ready financialy then you are ready. It is a big step, but if you have faith in yourself, then go for it. ↑ |
| Name: debs | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 1:50 PM |
| Name: Hi Melissa | Date: Jul 27th, 2006 5:02 PM |
| I don't think that 18 or 19 is too young,if you are responsible and mature.It would be best if you were married first but that is your choice.One little thought I would like to throw in for you is what if there was something wrong with your baby when it was born?My little girl is 11 months and severely disabled with a very rare disease.She will never walk,requires full time oxygen and will require many surgeries,not to count all the equipment we already use!She is the light of my life and I wouldn't give her up for any reason,however it is hard,she requires my ALL.total care and full time attention.If you would like to chat please email me at [email protected] please put baby crowd in subject ↑ |
| Name: Leanne | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 2:21 PM |
| i was 13 when i had my first child and ok i thought i was too young then but i was against abortion so i kept it now i have 2 kids and i am 19 and a single mum so i say if thats what you want go for it and don't listen to people who say your too young because it's whats in your heart that counts ↑ |
| Name: Rachel | Date: Jul 28th, 2006 2:25 PM |
If you feel that you are ready and have no doubts and are in a committed relatioship then I say go for it.
BUT let me inform you that having a baby is a LIFETIME commitment. It's not like after a month or 2 you can say "Nah I don't like it" and throw it away. It is time consuming, demanding, emotionally straining, physically challenging and it does change a relationship. Sometimes it brings people together, sometimes it breaks people up.
Whatever you choose, good luck. ↑ |
| Name: anakin_yadilloh | Date: Jul 11th, 2007 4:11 AM |
| dnt feel bad if ur in a stable realationship i find nothing wrong with it. i have the same prob. im 19 in a stable relationship and want a baby sooo much ↑ |
| Name: dmt | Date: Jul 12th, 2007 5:45 PM |
| Don't do it having a baby is not as easy as it sounds. Finish college first and if you are truely in a stable relationship he will still be there when your done. Good luck ↑ |
| Name: satansangel-89 | Date: Jul 16th, 2007 6:46 AM |
| Hi Melissa my name is crystal. im 18 yrs old and i just found out i am pregnant. i am in a loving relationship and my partner and i are so excited. i do not believe that i am too young to have a child. if u think u r ready and no u can support urself and ur child with ur partners help then go for it. ↑ |
| Name: ButterflyGurl13 | Date: Dec 3rd, 2007 9:16 AM |
| My mother was young! But she was married...She ended up to have 11 kids...all before the age of 46! yes she is 52 now & the youngest is 6..But i say get married first please...You never know who you are with... ↑ |
| Name: SUMEY | Date: Jan 10th, 2008 6:23 AM |
| i am 19 yrs and i want to have a baby,i am married for one year and five months,and we both are working and having a stable life,so Its know okay to have a baby ↑ |
| Name: lyping | Date: May 10th, 2008 7:18 AM |
| I do think having a child at 18 is pretty young but more importantly you should ask yourself are you ready for the responsibilities, the sacrifices, the devotion in every way. I had my 1st child at 19 and I did it with the help of my parents. They provided a home for us to stay in. However, I was responsible in raising him and If I could do it all over again, I would spend as much time as I can with him. I didn't because I had to work, go to school, and regretfully, I went out a lot and had babysitters watch him. I thought at that time that it was ok, I thought to myself that I don't ever want to think that having him prevented me from going out, but now I wish I had spent more time together. So, I hope you have done many things you've wanted to do and feel settled enough to commit to a child. ↑ |
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