Love her and help her she is going to need your love and guidance, you dont have to be a built-in babysitter...lay down some ground rules if she is living with you but at the same time teach her some mothering skills...day to day stuff..cooking, cleaning up after herself and her baby, how to manage money and try and give her a picture of her future if she has a goal..further education, a career or just simply a home that is hers..try an show her what the alternative could be...homelessness, loneliness and insecurity or worst thing of all ...no baby.
Dont let your mothering instinct to... do what needs to be done..use it instead...to show HER what needs to be done.
Give her a helping hand and some lee-way you may find yourself pleasantly surprised....she may listen.
good luck and MERRY CHRISTMAS ↑ |
| be a mother and surport her ! ↑ |
| By now i would think that you would be used to the idea! Unless you just found out? Well either way you are about to become a GRANDMA!!!!! As soon as the child is born,you along with your daughter will fall in love and everything will work itself out,stop worrying so much,I mean there isn't anything you can do to prevent it now,so get prepared and enjoy whats to come!!!!! ↑ |
First you think it's the end of their lives...then you have to get a grip.
Give her hte options, adoption? Are you willing to let her live with you and keep the baby?
My son's fiance was 16, I cried. I wanted my son to go to college and I thought his life was done. Well, they both are doing great. I've got a 4 yr old granddaughter who I wouldn't trade for the world.
Fiance had the baby, continued school and graduated, now is going to College (son too) and both son and fiance live at their own homes. Granddaughter floats between houses, and we know if anything happned and they call it quits we've formed a bond that can't be broken.
They needed support and love. It wont' be easy, but if she keeps it then hopefully she will have enough drive to finish school , go to college and do something that will teach her to support her child. If she gives it up she'd make someone truly happy.
Hard decision, good luck ↑ |
| just think of it as your own give her guide lines in becoming a mom ↑ |
