Name: Lisa Ingram Title: New here aspergus syndrome

I found out yesterday that my son has aspergus syndrome. I feel very alone, everyone is saying to me thats great now you know what the problem is. But I don't feel thats great. My son is 14 years old and I really thought it was my parenting that was causing the problems. Now I can't change him, he has to deal with this for life. I don't know where to start. There is so much information out there. I need to help him but I don't know how to.  ?

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Name: CutsBruises • Date: 09/07/2007 17:32:01

well is this something that will effect his every day life and how serious it is and what happens to him does he pass out or w.e  =

Name: cherisalorraine • Date: 09/08/2007 00:06:04

aspergers syndrome is a problem that alot of children arent lucky enough to be diagnosed with most live their lives with the diagnosis of autism an dont get proper treatment because of it trileptal is a treatment that is used quite often your son can be a functional well educated adult now that you know the problem please be patient and help him to understand the problem and it will be easier to work on i wish you so much luck  =

Name: cherisalorraine • Date: 09/08/2007 00:09:18

try ParentingAspergers.com you might also want to try the other forums here some of them might come closer to meeting your needs  =

Name: BETH • Date: 10/08/2007 05:20:22

MY SON HAS ASPERGERS AND THESE KIDS HAVE SO MUCH TO OFFER AND ARE EXTREMELY INTELLIGENT. FIND OUT WHAT HE EXCELLS AT AND START WITH THAT. AFTER ALL THEY HAVE TO GO INTO THE WORLD AND SUCCEED.
IT IS HARD, I KNOW.
MAKE THE SCHOOLS WORK WITH YOU. THEY HAVE TO IF THEY ARENT ALREADY. GET A GOOD COUNSELOR FOR BOTH YOU AND HIM. HE WILL DO JUST FINE. (FAITH) AND LOTS OF IT!!!  =

Name: Adamsdad • Date: 10/30/2007 15:38:17

Get the school involved, talk to the special needs teacher, or assistant. Go to the local government offices and see what help you can get, both financially and possibly carer help aswell. It is a relief that they have finally told you what is wrong with your son, but if you are like me that quickly turns to annoyance that it took so long. I wish you well on the journey ahead.  =

Name: Matt • Date: 04/27/2008 11:38:11

Lisa,

Firstly, don't worry too much... all is not lost!!!

I'm 27 I live on my own, with my family on the opposite side of the globe, and I was diagnosed with Aspergers when I was about the same age as your son. There are many different variations of Aspergers, from mild through to severe. Whilst we all share a the same type of "brain wiring"(!), our problems and difficulties can be very varied. It would be helpful to know what issues your son has. If they are similar to mine, then I can tell you exactly what not to do, and maybe offer some better suggestions of things you can do.

Most of my issues stemmed from bullying at school. My parents thought that it was too late to move me to a different school, but my best friend did (also an Aspergers, and now a Doctor at a London Hospital!) move to a different school. He was no longer bullied, but I was. He got good grades, I didn't. Thus, find a school which suits your son's requirements.

Having said that, 13 years on, since my diagnosis, here is what I've accomplished with no external help.

1. Held a record contract (I play piano - Grade 8, but still can't quite get my fingers around Rachmaninoff's 2nd Piano Concerto!)
2. Qualified as a Sound Engineer
3. Managed hotels and pubs.
4. Spent 2 years as a Company Director
5. Got married
6. Got divourced
7. Should have my Commercial Pilot's Licence by the end of this month
8. Have toured both the UK and Australia, also parts of Canada, as a pianist with a well known BigBand.
9. I'm a member of the Australian Institute of Management, entitled to use the post-nominal "AIMM"
10. As a party piece, I will complete a Rubik's Cube in just under a minute.
11. As a result of all the above, I have been able to spend the last two years on holiday... (thinks: Must be time to do some work again!)

See? It's not all doom and gloom! If I am interested in something, I will see it through. Your son is probably the same. These are the things you need to encourage, some of which may eventually make him a very rich (not just financially) person.

Generally, a high IQ tends to come as part of the Asperger's "package" - at no added cost! There are so many possibilities for him. If it would help to be able to speak to someone who has Aspergers, I will furnish you with my contact details. I would be happy to give you any help I can with a view from the "inside".

Kindest Regards,

~Matt  =