| i agree i have 4 kids myself and 1 teenager she isnt happy that i pick and choose whatshe can do ifi think she isnt headding in the right direction. its our duty as mothers and as a parent to hepl guide them then hope they go the right way. i made mistakes when i was very young and i have made a point not to let it happen with any of my children. for this my children are gratefulfor what they have and do and they know to every action is a reaction so give good and you will recive good in return give bad and god knows what you will get back. ↑ |
Let your kids be kids. They will make mistakes I'm sure you were not perfect as a child. If you teach them well as a child, it will help them make better decisions as an adult.
But if you keep making their decisions for them during the teen years - they will rebel, they will lie just to keep you happy. It's part of being a kid. You set the foundation - they build the rest.
I have 6 children. I keep an eye on each one but I don't smother or spy on them. They have limits and consequences but they also have freedom. Because of this, I have an open and honest relationship with them.
Like when they were little. I chose 2 outfits for them to wear but they actually chose which one.
Give them the tools to grow. Set limits. Give choises. Make them aware of the outcome of their choises.
Your past is not their future - we have evolved in society. Some not for the good. Look at the cartoons now compared to before.
About 10 years ago, Bugs Bunny and Road Runner were blamed for the death of a child. It was believed that the Cartoon portraid Acme rope could hang someone but they would be ok the next day. Mr. Magoo was blamed for discriminating against people with bad eyesight. Now we have Teletubbies that don't speak (and 1 thought to be gay). Rugrats with Angelica who is a brat. As for older children Raven - who steals. Internet sites which are good for homework but also have perverts. Even with disney cartoons.
It is not all parents but I believe some are confusing freedom with control.
Not all children when given an inch will take a yard. It's how they were taught by their parents as young as 2-3 yrs old. ↑ |
| So right you are Ann!Usually though parents with yonger kids that also have a teenager put the responsibility of their little ones on their teenagers which I think is crap because those children are the parents responsibility NOT the teenagers.I also believe if a parent has done their job right in the first place then there shouldnt be any trouble going on in their kids lives.Kids should be loved,disciplined,taught to give respect and given responsibilities.But they should not be made to babysit mom and dads other kids just because theyre older,thats not fair.Occassionally,maybe but not on a daily basis.Mom or dad should be watching the younger ones. ↑ |
| im 21 and while i was growed up mom kept a close watch on me when i was a teen mom made me go to bed by 9:00 im 21 now i sill have a bedtime its a 11 when i don' have a date and 1 when i do if i desobey my bedtime or come in past my curfew i still get spanked just because you 21 does mean you can't be punished ↑ |
| i did not know a 21yr old woman could still be spanked i stoped getting spanking at 13 my sister got one at 16 hope your ass does not hurt for very long why don't you get out of the house my parents even stoped punishing me at 17 hope you don't get spanked any more ↑ |
| I'm a teacher and I see this every single day! Parents expect the TV and teachers to do their job. I say if you can't raise your kid, give 'em to someone who can! ↑ |
