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My daughter just ran away from home a week ago. She returned home, but now things are pretty messed up at home. I want to talk with her about why she ran away, why she's upset, etc...but she just won't talk. What are some things that i can do to encourage her? ↓
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| Name: gigi | Date: Jun 23rd, 2005 8:57 PM |
| Tell your daughter that you are there for her, and aren't angry with her. You just want to help her as much as you can, so you need to know what's going on. Spend time with her, but give her some space too. If she can't talk with you face to face, ask her if she'll write you a letter explaining how she feels. If she still won't talk, just remind her that you are always around to listening. Maybe she'll come around on her own. ↑ |
| Name: Kristy | Date: Jul 5th, 2005 5:02 AM |
| Maybe you can just give her a little time then maybe she will talk when she is ready. Try to get her some help like counsling. Maybe see if she will talk to some other familly member. tell her your just trying to help her. ↑ |
| Name: tara | Date: Jul 13th, 2005 2:05 PM |
| i use to run away nearly everyday im in care. if she does it again its the excitement of having freedom. you need to sit down and tell her you love her and shes putting herself at risk. you only want to protect her show her you care. tara 15 ↑ |
| Name: elizabeth | Date: Aug 26th, 2005 7:55 AM |
| Has there ever been a line of communication open, or is this an out of the blue thing? She will not talk if all of a sudden you are being too encouraging so to speak. Do you pay attention to her? Running away is sometimes a sign that she wants your attention, but now that she has it she knows not what to do with it, take your time but try not to get frustrated, it will only close her up more. ↑ |
| Name: slick | Date: Sep 27th, 2005 3:16 PM |
| look i want to run away because i hate whats happening at home and i cant talk to nobody about it because theres nobody there i am 14 and i a scared to do it but i want to my other option is sucide ↑ |
| Name: cp | Date: Oct 6th, 2005 8:55 PM |
Slick,
There are other options, talk with a school conselor, or a teacher that you feel comfortable with or even a parent of a friend of yours. You need to talk with someone so you can get out of the situation you are in. Suicide is not a choice, you are gone forever and it hurts everyone you leave behind. My neace committed suicide and it has torn her family up. There are other choices, please talk with someone! ↑ |
| Name: Carole | Date: Nov 4th, 2005 4:37 PM |
| this is for slick i hope you read this what our you thinking your 14 dont even be thinking about doing away with your self hon...thats not the way you know that take your own advice hon talk to a conselor...there people out there that will listen to you and that care im a totel stranger to you but i CARE ↑ |
| Name: Miccah Lewis | Date: Nov 4th, 2005 6:16 PM |
| i was once a run away, and my mom tryed to get me to talk about it also, i would just say dont agg her about it, because that might make her feel like no matter what she does, you'll always be there to question what she does, even if she's doing good. she'll open up to you when she's ready. and i'm pretty shure you gave her a harsh punishment! but go easy on her, the harsher the punishment, the more she will want to do it again to get out of it! ↑ |
| Name: Allison | Date: Nov 15th, 2005 6:41 PM |
| Hello, im 17 and I would just be nice and careful and slow to what you ask her if she wants to tell you she will.. and just tell her that you love her and be nice try to help her out and dont get mad if she doesnt tell you or if she is in a bad mood she is young and young girls are moody and changing all the time. good luck ↑ |
| Name: Krystal | Date: Dec 11th, 2005 4:27 AM |
| i use to runaway all the time and feel the same way. let her feel like you want to listen but dont push her she'll open up to u. i am 19 now been in and out of programs b cuz my mom wouldnt listen or care. now i am 19 3 months pregnant and already have a son that 18 months old. my mom hates me and kicks me out every week. please dont do to your dauhter what mine did to me. it takes time to open up b cuz we get scared our parents wont understand. try not to accuse her of anything. dont worry she will open up. do things with her have a mother and daughter day go get ya hair done and talk to her about every day things do it ever week and i garentee you she will trust you to let you know whats going on in her life. good luk and if u want to u can e mail me at [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Sister Nell | Date: Dec 31st, 2005 6:12 PM |
Let her know that you love her and that God loves her.
Pray and ask God for direction in how to talk to her.
Handle her with unconditonal love and give her example of how you got through problems simular to what she is going through now.
Remember to pray first and let the Lord lead your conversation with her. ↑ |
| Name: bianca | Date: Jan 4th, 2006 3:55 AM |
| the last thing a depressed teen needs is a mothers advice. she needs a friend but a mother friends. so no matter how much it hurts to talk about somethings with her listen. dont correct her just listen. i use to be in her same shoes and tried to runaway once. believe me if your child runs away and comes she doesnt really want to runaway. she needs you but doesnt know how to come out yet. dont hound her but do show her that its open door and your there. when shes your not to busy for her shell slowly come around. ↑ |
| Name: sam.... | Date: Jan 8th, 2006 8:12 AM |
| since im a teen i would know. Give her time.....care....and dont bug her! if you do she'll think your overprotective. She probably ran away becuz she thought you didn't care about her.....so start trying to spend more time with her ↑ |
| Name: chelsea Graham | Date: Feb 4th, 2006 5:52 PM |
| My mom read something very personal 2 me and now were not speaking and yesterday she said she didnt want 2 see my face untill I was 14 or 15. Im 13 years old. Im thinking about what she said and I might make what she said come true by running away and im also a diabetic too! ↑ |
| Name: anon | Date: Feb 5th, 2006 9:53 PM |
| Don't wait....go to family counseling and get some good advice. ↑ |
| Name: Diana | Date: Feb 10th, 2006 6:45 AM |
This whole running away from home thing is something a parent never gets used to. I have an 18 yr. old daughter who has been running away off and on for over 2 yrs. now. She has an irresponsible, selfish boyfriend who has recently encouraged her to runaway to his mom's home. She looked like she was going to come home tonight but instead is trying to nickle and dime her way of getting her belongings. This time I have tried something different in terms of my reaction to her runaway behavior. I keep reminding myself that there are no victims, only volunteers. She needs to learn some of life's lessons no matter how hard it is on me. Yes, I agree that a parent should always remind the child how much he or she loves him or her. But, by the same token, I feel it is important to stand your ground, not enable and to pray continuously that you have given your child the best possible foundation for functioning on his or her own. Some things we have no control over, however, we do have control on how we react to our children. Asking your child why he or she is upset is fruitless as most of the time, they don't even know! However, validating
how frustrating it must be to be upset may get them to open up. Good luck and may prayer be part ofyour sanity. ↑ |
| Name: lisa | Date: Feb 19th, 2006 6:51 PM |
| my daughter is 16(almost 17) she wants to run away from home with her 20 year old boyfriend. ↑ |
| Name: carly ann andrew | Date: Mar 7th, 2006 2:49 PM |
| tell your daughter shes doing the right thing because i want to run away from my mom too ↑ |
| Name: just me | Date: Mar 13th, 2006 12:05 AM |
| Did she come home on her own or did you have to send for her? It's hard to say without knowing the child but most of the time when they run it's because they don't want to follow rules or they want to hang with someone that you don't approve of. If she came on her own and you don't get something going she will assume that it's ok to leave and come back when she wants. The age matters too............but if she just won't talk tell her that you guys need to get this out on the table and if she doesn't want to take care of it through family then you will have to have a 3rd party........counseling. Sometimes having that 3rd party that isn't a parent or friend helps. Then they hear pretty much what we tell our children from a complete stranger and don't think that we just make all of this stuff up. ↑ |
| Name: kelly | Date: Mar 14th, 2006 4:45 AM |
just leave her alone, or to put it in easier words.. give her time.. im 16
and i know what she feels like because ive ran away too.. all we want is a little room because its uncomfortable to talk with parents after we do something like this because we mostly are ashamed and the relationship between mother and daughter are tense.. ↑ |
| Name: stacey | Date: Mar 15th, 2006 4:20 PM |
| i ran away from my own kids ↑ |
| Name: sherry | Date: Mar 17th, 2006 1:47 PM |
| My son ran away on 8/27/04 because he was in trouble with the law. He boarded a bus to Atlanta and went to a homeless shelter shorty after he got off of the bus. He befriended a girl on this bus, and as soon as they arrived in atlanta, she and her two guy friends robbed my son. We hired a private detective to go get him, and this is how we found this out. However, he was never found and we haven't had a word from him since. I miss him and wish he would come home to get the help he needs for his drug addiction. ↑ |
| Name: Cris | Date: Mar 22nd, 2006 3:00 PM |
| why do teenagers run away?what causes runaways? ↑ |
| Name: Lisa | Date: Mar 25th, 2006 12:15 AM |
| If shes late teens you probably wont get anywhere but if shes younger keep trying,maybe she feels left out at home or doesnt like your new boyfriend or just feels lost or it could be any number of things but dont give up let her know you love her and even if shes in trouble you want to help her. Good luck! ↑ |
| Name: Lisa | Date: Mar 25th, 2006 12:21 AM |
| Cris,my guess is that they either arent happy at home or they just think life is better somewhere else.Sometimes an unknown molestation is going on and a teenfeels that running away is their only way out of the situation.Maybe they are afraid no one will believe them and the abuse will just continue or maybe they feel threatened by someone.Or maybe they have just been talked into running away with a friend not really wanting to go themselves.The reasons are endless. ↑ |
| Name: alex | Date: May 16th, 2006 6:00 PM |
| you tell you daughter that you love her and that your gonna give her space try listening to her for once insted of talking try giving her her fav snake and then say sorry i'm sure she loves you but she jest can't handle whats going on or you ↑ |
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