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My 17 yr old daughter has a boyfriend she has been with for a year now. He doesn't do drugs or drink he work but jump from one job to another. he graduated last year and has done nothing with himself. Our daughter is a straight A student with an amazing artist side she has won meny awards and has alot of potential. These thing have been told to her over and over again, however she is also a snot, she's mean to her younger siblings i mean lets just yell at them and push them away and petend they are not around. My last straw with her was Mothers Day. My husband asked her to tidy up while we were at the hospiatl visiting his mom, witch we have been for 2 weeks now. She did NOTHING, not a darn thing, the one day for me to feel special to this child and she couldn't even wash a dish, my 10 and 7 year old did for me when i got home. She is my stepdaughter and i have been in her life since she was 5. the only thing that matters to her is her boyfriend. She didn't even send her real mom a card let alone appriciate me in our own home. I am insulted and hurt. She told me she didn't do anything for me because she didn't anything for her mom who live an hour away. She lives ful time with us, she maintains honor roll and we pay her car insurence, she was given a excellent car,she has a decent job, but all she want to do is hang with her boyfriend. we watch on tv the tuesday night lineup if he isn't there she won't sit wth us. She won't help out, she ignor me and her siblings but will kiss her fathers butt to get her way, we are hurt and tired of talking to her but always get this deserving attitude from her. I'm tired of it all, and I am pretty sure next year when she turns 18 in the middle of her school year she will move in with this boyfriend.... HELP with any direction or advice, my husband and are are going in circle's with her. ↓
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| Name: me | Date: May 18th, 2006 6:01 PM |
| At this point,I don't think you can get anywhere with her. She's 17 and if you try to pull in the reigns now,most likely she will just rebel and things will get even worse. I would just stop trying so hard and even start living life like she is no longer a part of the family. If you set the table for dinner,don't set a place for her.When she says,"where's my place setting?" Tell her,"Oh!,I'm sorry!,I thought you were eating at your boyfriends house!!!"When you do laundry,don't include her things,let her do her own on her own time.Stop being so nice,that's part of the problem.If she is working,let her pay her own car insurance.If she complains,ask her how she thinks it's going to be when she moves out because she will be responsible for ALL of her own bills then and you are just helping her get ready for it by giving her the experience of paying her own bills.If she wants to be a little snot,let her take care of herself.Make her be responsible for herself,don't make things easy for her,maybe it will wake her up.You and her dad have made things too easy for her so she knows she can behave anyway she wants.Treat her now as if she's almost non-exsistent.If this doesn't change her any,kick her out when she turns 18 and let her see how (easy) it really is out there.And when she does move out ,don't be paying her bills and buying her groceries or else you will be doing it for life and also supporting anyone she may be living with and their baby when they have one. ↑ |
| Name: david | Date: Jul 17th, 2006 10:59 AM |
| i don't belive there not a way to control a 17yr old try punishing im 20 and i grt punished sometimes evan spanked when dad tell me to be home midnight i do or i get a spanking i don't always get a spanking but when i do it always over my dads knee with my pants down there nothing like a spanking to get your attenion ↑ |
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