| im 17 and a lil advise. The more you moan the more they'll do it just to spite you. Its about control and not being told what to do. Telling a teen what to do is interpreted in treating them like a 5 year old. ↑ |
| i dont consider my self as moaning.but how would you approach it.i mean how would you give advice. ↑ |
| what exactly is going on?' Like, what stuff are you argueing bout?? (im only askin coz then ill try and help and tell you how you could try and win them over) ↑ |
| Ok lets use the cloths example.First let me give you some background my son is 16yrs old he is very smart he maintains a 4.35 gpa he is also very artistic.if you looked at him in a crowd of people you would never know.He has long brown curly hair and he is about 6 ft tall. are you familiar with the cloths store Hot Topics?thats where we get 90% of his cloths.You really can't call him a goth because I guess he has his own style.thats were the conflict comes in we have to come to a compromise at times with what i will buy him.because he sometimes goes over board on ,what seems to me as trying to stand out to much.and believe me he does'nt have to try very hard in that area.he will always stand out in a crowd. he refuses to look like a cookie cutter teen as he puts it. I guess I just get tired of people judging him by the way he looks. so I try to teach him when certain things are not aproperate to wear like at a job interview or a prom. don't get me wrong I do appreciate his individualness but there is a time and place for it and thats what im trying to convey.so how should I approach this.I do want to add my son and I do have a good relationhip.I just don't want this to be a constant conflict. ↑ |
| no. we all are. its hormones. it will get better when they are grown and mmove out. Haha ↑ |
| Didn't you have to learn the hard way too?All you can do is keep trying to help as you are but if they don't want to listen and heed your advice then they will also learn the hard way.It's life I guess and very typical among many,many many teenagers.Don't give up but don't expect too much either.Kid's think they know it all despite anything we say,hang in there,I know it's hard,my son's 14 so I'm going through that too! ↑ |
| No I agree with you. I find it harder with my daughter than my son. If I say its black she says it white. Shes such a beautiful looking girl too and guys are always calling here for her so im very strict on her, its hard work being a mum of a teen! ↑ |
| Hey nat where are you? I thought you were going to give me some advice. I need to here from some mature teens on how to handle this Im not just venting I really want to know. ↑ |
