Name: #1 mom Title: shaving legs?

My 13 yr old daughter started shaving without my consent. It's not the worst thing in the world, I just felt kind of sad that my baby girl didnt ask me about it. I think she thinks that i dont know, and she trys to hide it.

should i tell her i know? should i punish her for hiding it? shes never mentioned wanting to shave, and to tell u the truth, she didnt even have hairy legs (although she would tell u a different story)

please help  ?

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Name: kayla • Date: 12/05/2005 13:24:43

hmm . i shaved my left leg at my friends house, but i had asked my mom if i could shave and she said wait till ur older. but we did truth or dare, and i had to shave my left leg

i dont know if my mom noticed, but if she did, i would hope that she didnt punish me . she could ask me about it...why i did it.

i think u should just wait and see if she tells u . and if she doesnt... confront her

good luck

and ps . its not that big a deal ! relax  =

Name: kelly • Date: 12/11/2005 18:07:39

I didn't ask my mom about it when I started, and I was around 13. she's just doing what she feels like doing, and she probably thinks that if you notice it, you'll make a big deal about it. that's why she might be trying to hide it. if you want her to be more open, tell her you know, but that you don't mind, and that whenever she wants to start something new, she can ask you at any time. DON'T punish her. that's ridiculous, she's not doing any harm to herself or anyone else, or making things at home difficult. those are the things that could require some form of punishment, not shaving her leg. jeez.  =

Name: Brittany • Date: 12/28/2005 21:07:47

thats about the age when every girl starts shaving, she was probably feeling a little self concious about her "hairy legs" and as long as she doesn't stop unexpectedly then I'd say ots ok.  =

Name: grace • Date: 12/31/2005 13:37:58

i thnk u should  =

Name: Katie • Date: 01/03/2006 22:58:22

Hey Im almost 15 and its a pretty big deal, I think you should talk to her but it doesn't deserve punishment. Don't you shave your legs? She has obviously just became a teen and it can be very hard to fit in at first. Friends start doing it, And all of a sudden, shes the only one that hasn't. She is probably worried that you will tell her off or punish her. Don't just support her maybe confront her and tell her tips and advice so she doesnt severly cut herself.  =

Name: Makel Lang • Date: 01/06/2006 14:33:20

I have been shaving my legs since i was 8 and my mom still hasn't noticed why does it even matter! please anwser me back i wanna know why it is so important to not shave ur legs until your old and hairy i do not get it HEELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!  =

Name: denise • Date: 01/09/2006 00:38:52

I have an 11 yr old sister and im the one in charged since our mom passed away and shes begged to get her legs saved.so i tell her what for , that she doesn't have other bussiness but to go to school, why shave her legs i think shes to young for boys to start noticing at least if she does'nt shave she will be emberrassed for someone to touch her legs or anything like that. she will be allowed to shave at 15 i feel bad cuz but gt to take care of her.  =

Name: Raina • Date: 01/09/2006 16:51:01

Hi #1 Mom. I started shaving my legs and armpits around 12. I shaved in private, without my parents knowledge or consent, as I felt somewhat embarrassed about the need to shave (boys at school were teasing me about leg and underarm hair). When she noticed, she simply asked me to show her how I do it, then gave me pointers on how to do a better job. She also took this opportunity to tell me that there would come a time when I would need to shave my bikini line before swimming and to let her know if I ever found hair growing outside of my swimsuit line and she'd show me how to deal with it. I felt relieved and appreciative of her response to something I felt was a delicate topic. Because she opened the lines of communication the way she did (and continued to do with sensitive matters), she was always the first person I went to for advice or to talk to about embarrassing issues. Many years later, when I felt it time to go on the pill, she was the first person I talked to. I learned a great deal from her on being frank and open and respectful, and I use the same approach with my kids. The result is they talk to me about everything and everything. I hope this perspective helps.  =

Name: b • Date: 01/16/2006 08:03:11

my mom was like you too! i am the oldest, and girl. She didn't let me get my eyebrows waxed for my eighth grade pics, so i looked like a cross between groucho marx and a teenager with excessive hair disease. I was wearing dresses when all my friends were in call outfits. Well, she finally realized she couldn't hold on to me and if she did, man, i could get a rea complex! Show your daughter that you are open and then maybe she won't have to hide her shavers. Have mother daughter days with her- you'll see, you could still grow close, even if she's growing up!!!  =

Name: mocott • Date: 01/17/2006 14:40:35

I remember being that age, and not aloud to shave my legs. and I am 33. I took alot of teasing then, and I can imagine what she is going through now.. I think that you really need to talk to her, and let her know that your there, and tell her that she needs to talk to you. It could be a long and bumpy road without the open door of communication.  =

Name: roxy • Date: 01/20/2006 02:42:08

hi im 12 and started wen i was bout 11 i was sooooooo embarrassed to tell my mum and i used to always hide da shavers and one day i just came out and said it and she said it is fine that u shave but make sure u dont cut ur self and she was really good bout it and 13 is way to old to not be shaving coz trust me u get teased alot if u dont shave  =

Name: Danni • Date: 01/20/2006 08:41:05

Ugh - my parents wouldn't let me shave until high school and they never ever let me pluck my eyebrows. I got teased and had terrible school pictures. Please, please, please just have a talk with her and show her how to shave properly. It will save your relationship and her self esteem.  =

Name: mama sue • Date: 01/24/2006 02:28:13

My 14 yr old didn't tell me. I didn't think nothing of it. Just say something casual like Oh I see you shaved your legs. I'm sure most of her friends are doing it. You don't want your daughter to be afraid to tell you things. So if you are kool about it she won't be afraid to tell you the next time she wants to do something. But don't punish her for that. Our baby do have to grow up even if we don't want them to.  =

Name: terri • Date: 01/26/2006 22:14:41

when i was 13 i started shaving my legs also, i didnt tell my mum because it was embarrasing! if you punish her for it in the future she wont tell you anything, like when she starts periods, boyfriends etc. talk to her about it in a positive light and let her know your always there for her  =

Name: katie • Date: 01/28/2006 16:21:09

i think you should belive it a alone because there could be worst things like cutting and eating disoreders and alot more  =

Name: Agnes • Date: 02/05/2006 20:07:11

My parents wouldn't give me permission and I was embarassed to be around other kids. I just started on my own. Don't punish her. Just buy her a nice pink girly kind of razor and some shaving supplies and put them in a pretty bag and give it for Valentine's Day when you two are alone. It'll mean a lot to her.  =

Name: huummm • Date: 02/11/2006 09:57:24

My mom told me years back now, when you are ready, I was a tomboyish kind of girl shaving my legs were the last thing on my mind. Living in a very rural town and all the girls were shaving early starting periods early and having kids early (kids and shaving was to have something to do) and well I was getting teased even tho I had such blondeish color hair on my legs it didn't matter if it showed or not because it was barly visable. I told her and I think I was 13 I can't really remember I think that is right though. I wanted to shave my legs because I was tired of getting teased about it because they said I was too old to not be, she said ok and went to get shaving cream and me a razor and let me shave and said becareful not to cut your self and let me go. I nicked my skin and it took me more time to get to shave my legs again because that hurt now I am 20 and shave all the time, well they get kind of wild sometimes because of a toddler I can't get to sit in a tub and relax my showers consist of hury my toddlers up and going to get in to something now a days  =

Name: Hannah • Date: 02/11/2006 16:13:55

your daughter was probaly feeling really left out b/c most girls that age shave. it a self consicous thing for her. you should porbably tell her you know and tell her why you didnt want her to shave in the first place and have a disccussion with her about it but dont get angry i think she needs to know your side of the story and teens dont really respond well to anger. also she already knows she did something wrong and thats why shes hidding it so theres no need for punishment  =

Name: Lisa • Date: 02/14/2006 19:45:08

Don't fell bad that your hunny didn't tell you about it. When I was younger I didn't tell my mom cuz I thought I would get into trouble and she would tell me that I'm too young. And I was determined to shave my legs! Remember that 13 year olds are trying to be more independent.  =

Name: Jlf • Date: 02/18/2006 11:38:01

i started to shave my legs when i was 12 i would sneak around and do it in private  =

Name: krystal valente • Date: 02/18/2006 17:30:09

TELL HER  =

Name: ema • Date: 02/19/2006 03:01:08

trust me this is not a big deal. i know your worried but it could be so much worse. she could be cutting or doing drugs or having sex, be thankful its only shaving. sometimes it can be kinda embarrising to ask your mum something like that speshily if people at school shave too. its just a part of growing up shaving dosent harm anyone so let it be. its just what happen when kids become teenagers.  =

Name: sam • Date: 02/20/2006 20:18:59

haha i started when I was 13, I told my mom but she didnt really approve. Dont make a big deal ou tof it!! it will just make the situaion more awckward. Just like wen you are at the store ask her if she wants to buy a razor and sum shaving cream.  =

Name: sarah • Date: 02/22/2006 12:49:52

hi  =

Name: hey • Date: 02/23/2006 16:26:52

dont tell her u know she will figure out that u know
i dont think u shood punish her it is hust her growing up  =

Name: Kelly • Date: 02/25/2006 02:57:02

TELL HER. coz if u so not one day she might cut herself and u will feel guilty. xxx  =

Name: Rosie JH • Date: 02/25/2006 02:58:35

well, i shaved my legs at 15 and told my mum. she helped me get it right, and wen she could do it right i left her on her on her own.  =

Name: Jaida • Date: 02/25/2006 07:42:07

can you get diseses form using your mums razor? i dont shave my legs, but i do under my arms. ahve any of you got an answer?  =

Name: jen • Date: 02/26/2006 02:27:11

your daughter doesnt need you sheeltering her her whole life  =

Name: opi • Date: 02/26/2006 10:01:02

Yes, i am the kid. I am tweleve and i just started shaving. It is all the rage at this age, for shaaving u r legs. Maybe ur daughter feels that she needs to be with the in crowd. DO confront her though, and tell her that it is ok, but tell her to ask you before you do anything  =

Name: Jesse • Date: 02/26/2006 16:47:30

I was about 13 when I started shaving. I didn't tell my mom until later, she wasn't mad nor she didn't care. As long as I din't cut my self to badly...LOL  =

Name: Sarah • Date: 03/06/2006 20:08:20

personally, i dont think parents should have a say in when their kids shave their legs. after all it is their own body so why should parents decide. most young girls shave their legs when they hit puberty so 12+ even younger sometimes and its them discovering their body. i started shaving my legs at 13.... tell me truthfully how many of you shave your legs and feel grosed out about having really hairy legs? .... so.. how would you feel if someone said to you NO your not allowed to shave your legs because i said so. you wouldnt like it would ya.  =

Name: Jessica M. • Date: 03/08/2006 18:43:56

I think you sould tell her nicly don't do those things behind my back. But she sould start shaving at the age 12.  =

Name: leanne • Date: 03/11/2006 08:38:58

shaving legs??
u parents dont know how much we are shy of mentioning shaving our legs OR doing our eyebrows...!!
it is Very important to me though..!!
my mom doz not let me shave that often and it drives me crazy but i just dont let see that it bothers me but it really does!!
so shavin it behind her back is the only choice i should have but i'm just a lil afraid..!!!!! i dunno wut to do.. i am very shy of mentioning it to her..!!! so do not tell ur daughter off coz of that thing..!!! it will really hurt her feelings!!!! like it did to my feelings..!! just tell her that u should know if u want her to shave or not!  =

Name: snappyt • Date: 03/11/2006 10:02:47

I say just let her be....i have 4 daughters 5-16 and the older ones shaved by 11...I think you shouldn't be hurt....its really no big deal compared to the REAL things in life.  =

Name: Andrew 40 • Date: 03/12/2006 07:35:30

Wow, Stop the presses!
Realy she is just tring to be older.
Let her know you noticed, ( no use acting clueless) that it's not a big deal. Remind her that most people wish they didn't have to shave. Its like mowing the lawn. Every one wants to do at first, but soon inough you realy wish you didn't have to.  =

Name: Rachael • Date: 03/16/2006 01:37:55

I am almost thirteen and even though nobody will ever tell me I know I have pretty hairy legs. I think this chatroom is helping me more then you actually. I really want to shave my legs because I am embarrased but I don't know how to tell my mom. Now that I know how other parents feel I think that it will be ok to ask her now. I think that you should tell her that you know. Tell her that it is fine and that other people feel the same way. Don't punish her. If shaving helps her feel better then there should be nothing wrong with it.  =

Name: Aaron • Date: 03/16/2006 14:21:35

Tell her,
and shes proborbly embarassed about telling you  =

Name: Kathleen :) • Date: 03/18/2006 19:25:19

Hi ! I started shaving when I was 13 without my mom knowing. I was trying to hide it from my mom, too. When she found out, she didn't talk to me, or punish me. She bought me my own shaving cream and razor and to this day we don't talk about it!!  =

Name: Danu • Date: 03/22/2006 07:23:45

well, i say that i would HATE to tell my mom because i am SO incredibly shy about this sorta stuff. i havent yet but i wanna...oh well i say you dont punish her becuase she might feel it to uncomfortable to talk about(i know i do) and by the way what is hairy legs to you might be a WHOLE lot diffrent to teens i mean cmon i and this one girl in my class are the ONLY ones in the class who are girls and dont shave. they all started either in 5ht grade or in 6th. if any1 has any tips on how to confront your mom in this sortov situacion plz plz plz PLZ post it on here!!  =

Name: Mrs.Advice • Date: 03/22/2006 20:01:12

well my mom told me to wait and that noone willnotice and it wasnt a big thing...but i was embarrassed and it was awkward to talk about so i did it anyways...my mom did notice because i could just tell but she didnt say anythign so i kept doing it and it turned out okay...so truth is she might be embarrassed so dont say anything and 13 is the perfect age to start so if i were you i wouldnt make it a big deal and let it slide  =

Name: Violet • Date: 03/23/2006 00:16:29

If you are worried, take her out and buy her the proper stuff to help her do it safely. and i would suggest using a one blade disposable if she doesnt have a lot of hair on her legs.
it may be because her friends are doing it as well, or it may be a late copying mommy thing
when i started shaving my mom said as long as I did it right and didnt do my thighs yet she was ok with it.
I hate shaving my legs now lol. she will grow out of it!!!  =

Name: Amy • Date: 03/23/2006 10:40:56

Why would you punish her for it? If you want her to have any respect for you and if you want her to confide in you then I should warn you that punishing her would have the opposite effect! There is no reason to punish her.

I know it's hard watching your baby girl grow up. But you've got to let her. I started shaving my legs when I was 12. I didn't tell my mum about it but she just casually mentioned it when we were shopping. Let her know casually, but don't make it so she thinks you disaprove (even if you do). She's probably self conscious and possibly slightly embarassed at the prospect of talking to you about it.  =

Name: stella • Date: 03/23/2006 21:54:42

I think 13 is an okay age to start shaving because they are going to high school soon and everyone there shaves unless you want to look like a nerd (lol sorry). Plus, I always felt uncomfortable talking about stuff involving puberty with my parents so I just stared shaving my armpits first and then gradually legs when it was gym class.  =

Name: Amy • Date: 03/23/2006 22:24:18

I wish my mom would have told me to shave my legs because I didn't notice until my friends were talking about saving. And to tell you the truth, I can slightly see my hairy legs on picture from when I was 12,13,14. Now I look back at some photos and wish my mother had taken me to get a bra and told me what do, because even thought it wasn't too bad I would have felt better since going through puberty was hard for me. I was mad that my body was changing and I didn't even know my new body, plus my new body should have came with a "how to" mannual. My mom did do one good thing though, she bought me a book that was very nice (christian, no bad things etc) that is for girls and dealing with emotions and fun facts about women and first ladies (wives of presidents) and meanings of girls names. I really liked that book :)  =

Name: taylor • Date: 03/24/2006 16:20:51

I am 10 years old and i shave my legs and armpits. My parents don't know that I do because I didn't tell them. Now that I didn't tell them, I'm scared to tell them about when i get puberty!!!  =

Name: Destiny • Date: 03/30/2006 17:40:20

Yes.How old shoul i be when i start to shave
i am 11  =

Name: Cassy • Date: 04/02/2006 16:23:41

I'm ten and i shaved behind my moms back. When I finally told her she just said "it is a good thing that you are making your own choices but if anything like shaving needs to happen you can just tell me and i'l buy you some supplies." thats what you should do!  =

Name: Anon • Date: 04/02/2006 20:33:17

You could just say that you noticed and that you were a little disappointed that she did not come and talk with you in the first place. Ask her if she has any questions or concerns and answer them.

Then take her out and go on a beauty shopping spree so that she will be all set for grooming and feel she can come to you to talk about other things.  =

Name: Cardisa • Date: 04/04/2006 19:34:03

I have 2 girl that had to start shaving early. It all depends really on their maturity!! I had a 9 year old that had hair longer than my husbands under her arm. Girls can start going through puberty as young as 7 that means the hair starts to grow. You need to sit down and talk with her! Be open and honest! and keep in mind if she goes to school h hair under her arms she probably will be teased!  =

Name: Random S • Date: 04/05/2006 06:07:49

Well im 12, and i want to shave. I asked my mum and she said i didnt need to, but lots of other people are and i feel really self concious. What should i do?  =

Name: amber • Date: 04/09/2006 05:59:40

your daughter is probably feeling embarrased about the hair on her legs. she may have been one of thr only girls who didnt shave and was too scared to ask! tell her casually that u no, but DONT punish her. she deserves to be able to shave her legs without getting into trouble. tell her that she can always come to you with any questions, or problems.  =

Name: Lisa • Date: 04/09/2006 18:28:57

No,dont punish her for that! Its not like she was smoking! Just tell her you know and ask her why she didnt say anything to you.Tell her you just thought she might come to you about things like that and when she didnt your feelings were kinda hurt because you thought the 2 of you were really close! Maybe you should start spending more 1on1 time with your daughter. Go shopping buy make-up and a new shaving kit especially for her! It will make you feel more a part of her life. Have lunch out and a few laughs,listen to her favorite CD. It will be o.k.,youll see!  =

Name: Christine • Date: 04/17/2006 16:23:08

I think you should just tell her that you know and tell her it is ok to start shaving. Just go out and buy her a rzor and some shvaing cream. I am 13 and just startinig shaving my legs and underarms. I was embarrasses and even if she ddnt have a lot of hair it is still embarassing and she was proably the only one in school who didnt shave. I reccomen the remington 5500 electric razor, its a really good one to start with and i use it, but not for underarms! trust me! disposable razers are good for the underarms.

Good Luck! :)  =

Name: ????????? • Date: 04/20/2006 11:27:40

dont mention it to her and get her a bra  =

Name: chelsie • Date: 04/20/2006 22:33:56

when a gurl starts to shave her legs she feels more mature and boosts her self eestem aaallllooot
trustme it did for me  =

Name: Control Freaks • Date: 04/21/2006 07:01:58

Anyone who prevents their teenagers from shaving their legs is a control freak and should get a life. There's nothing wrong with it and it's part of growing up.  =

Name: kaylz • Date: 04/23/2006 11:28:52

dont punish her she obviolsy isnt very confident about her body and is trying her best to look better you should help her  =

Name: homo • Date: 04/23/2006 20:32:10

i think it is really sad that she cant shave her legs!!! sh will be going into high school soon and she WILL get laughed at and she WILL be imbarresed!!!!
PLEASE let her shave her legs
For the sake of all the people who ever have sex with her please let her shave her legs!!!!  =

Name: nat • Date: 04/27/2006 17:05:23

punish her?? for being a normal 13 year old?? I started at 12 and used a razor, i tried hiding it from my mum coz i thought she'd be angry but she just turnd round to me and said; why didnt you just use the cream I have in the bathroom?? At which I felt more comfortable talking to my mum about everyhting to do with growing up.  =

Name: melissa • Date: 05/05/2006 09:44:35

hey my family is known for hairyness rite.. i ws in yr 4 wen i first started ks i ws teased about it i dont see a problem but just for you to tell her that you know she is starting to do that and just ask her why she didnt tell you just say stuff like it doesnt really matter but u know ect ect ect...  =

Name: infamous • Date: 05/05/2006 16:33:45

My nick name is Tornado.  =

Name: Katie • Date: 05/06/2006 05:21:51

Hey. I'm 14. I started shaving at 10. I know its maybe hard for you to get through but this is a perfect situation for you to be a "cool mom" and still get closer to her. I think that if you tell her you know but open loving arms and tell her its okay just tell you next time she will feel so much better. You just have to take it into her perspective. Lets just say that "all "of the girls were shaving exept her and she felt like a child. She is a teenager. If you can get over it easily It would help her so much.  =

Name: taylor • Date: 05/13/2006 09:28:29

i shave my legs but my mom knows about that but she does not know about me shaving my armpits! i want a new razor cuz all i hav is reusable ones and they barely work but im scared to ask her to get a real one! i think i might tell my grandma and ask her! im just so scareed about puberty and tampons now!  =

Name: Riley • Date: 05/16/2006 21:08:09

Hi im 11 years old and mi mom passed. I want to shave but i dont know how to ask mi dad? What should i do?  =

Name: TK • Date: 05/16/2006 23:39:20

As a parent of a teenager, mine is a boy, but thankfully I remember being a teenage girl, my advice is to choose your battles wisely. There will be plenty to battle over in the upcoming years, shaving just doesn't seem worth it. Casually mention that you noticed, and then you will earn her trust. She will realize that mom won't "freak out" and she will come to you with other things. My hunch is that she was afraid to tell you, and if you make a big deal out of it, she won't come to you for bigger things in the future. This is one you'll just have to shush about.  =

Name: Rachel • Date: 05/17/2006 00:11:59

Maybe she was embarassed about coming to you.  =

Name: S to #1 Mom • Date: 05/17/2006 12:41:22

I would Just start talking to her about how youhave to sheve you r leg and how to do it so you wont get cut. You might ask her if she want you to show her? Try to keep it light.You could even say that you knotced that she shaved her legs and does she want to go out and get her own shaver?
I would end with something like ...I hope you know thatyoucan come to me about anything and I will listen and try and help.
I did this with mine and she now comes to me about a lot of things... like her period & boys and being teased in school.
Some kids just do not know that tey need to ask or can come to us.I made i clea along time ago but I guess she forgot ..So now I reminder to talk to me about whatevers on her mind and she is .It as beem Great.
Hope this helped some??Best of luck and let us know what happends.  =

Name: ok... • Date: 05/17/2006 19:23:30

well you should talk 2 her about it and tell her next time she should ask you about stuff like this..

hope i help  =

Name: mariana • Date: 06/03/2006 18:25:04

shes becoming a woman i guess.
if puberty hasnt come 4 her yet talk 2 her about talkin 2 u b4 that comes other wise u might nvr no anything bout her life  =

Name: christine • Date: 06/05/2006 16:36:59

i think you should deffinately let her start to shave...just talk to her and tell her she an always talk to you about this stuff....im 13 and just started shaving in february. tell her not to worry and then go and buy her a razor and some shaving cream...good luck :)  =

Name: lily • Date: 06/10/2006 00:15:27

um.. Well Dont punish her just say hey r u shaveing your legs because i can tell BUT dont be mad when u do this be nice  =

Name: mamatree55 • Date: 06/10/2006 07:11:21

I am the mother of two girls,11 and 14. The fourteen year old is shaving her underarms. The 11 year old has very hairy legs and in the fourth grade she was getting teased. I started shaving them for her. It made her feel so much more confident. I know that you are hurt and disappointed that your daughter didn't tell you but I am sure she probably thought you would say no. We all remember the scars that we got when we first started shaving and I know I don't want my daughters legs to look like that. She probably got teased at school and was too embarrassed to say anything. There is no need for punishment. It's already done. All you can do now is to give her a package of new razors and some shaving gel and say hey I thought you might be ready to try this out. Saves face on both sides and the last thing you want or need is an argument. You can always just leave it on her bed with I note that says I Love You, Mom. and just leave it at that. Good Luck.  =

Name: Toni • Date: 06/15/2006 10:44:31

Pretty much it depends on how you dress but when I was 12 I had to start shaving my legs. Blond girls can get away with it but I have almost black hair. I never asked but my mom saw it right away. She took me to get our nails done. I think it was cool for her.  =

Name: Lynne n • Date: 06/15/2006 13:35:53

Your little girl is growing up!Just go with the flow,tell her that you are their for her if she needs you!  =

Name: Gingy • Date: 06/16/2006 04:03:40

Its so normaland I dont think she should be punished for that she might notice that her friends do it and she is influenced because maybe someone told her she had hairy legs.....you should try asking her why she did it?  =

Name: me • Date: 06/18/2006 21:27:27

tell her she dosen't need to hide it, and don't punish her for doing it. She has to start some time.  =

Name: Melanie • Date: 06/21/2006 12:55:44

i started shaving my legs when i was around 10.. but my mom just came up to me one day and said here's is shaving cream and a razor and she showed me how... but she didn't let my sister start shaving until she was 13... now I am 16 and i have kind of bushy eyebrows and i really want to get them waxed. All of my friends get them waxed but I'm afraid to ask my mom because when i ask her to do stuff and she does not like the idea she will start screaming and yelling at me... what do you think I should do? too bad i can't go behind her back and get them waxed because she will notice.  =

Name: Daisy • Date: 06/21/2006 14:56:34

It´s normal that your daughter started shaving her legs. She is a teenager now and she wants to act like one. It´s not a big deal.  =

Name: angel of mine 2006 • Date: 06/22/2006 12:38:02

I was shaving my legs at age 9 (they were really blond) but my mom did help me with it, I would tell her that you know and see if she has any questions about it, I wouldnt punish her for hiding it!  =

Name: jayyaj • Date: 06/23/2006 14:09:56

i save my legs and i am 13 i think every kid woh saves should tell there mum or if there mum nos the mum should tell her that you no so yes you should tell her you no  =

Name: Rach • Date: 06/26/2006 02:50:48

Hey I think she was just scared or embarrassed to ask if she could shave.
Shes probably been thinking about it a long time.

Now one night when your alone with her just say that you know she does it, but don't tell her off just gently say that she should have asked you first because you would have said yes (even if you wern't going to).

But the deed has been done, don't make her stop else her hair will grow back darker.

Now you can go out and buy a good razor and a good cream, shes probably been using cheap stuff that can't be good for her legs.  =

Name: taylor • Date: 06/28/2006 17:01:01

i am 10 years old and i shave my legs and armpits! my mom knows i shave my legs but not my armpits. i started shaving witout askin when i was 8 and i just startin my armpits. i wanna know how to ask someone for a new razor cuz my r just reusable ones and stupid!!!!!  =

Name: emma • Date: 07/10/2006 04:14:09

i think she just following along with all of her friends at school just sit her down in a quite place and ask her straite "are you shaving" see what her responce is and if she lies then maby punish her in needs be. but not to harsh just remember when you were young. good luck X  =

Name: dddd • Date: 07/11/2006 14:03:42

hi  =

Name: someone • Date: 07/12/2006 18:27:00

i am not trying to be mean and im sorry in advanced if i am but OMG what is the big deal about shaving ur legs its not like the hair isnt going to grow back and DONT punish her for that and she was probley hiding it for a reason.i started shaving my legs at 11 and i didnt have to have permission,its her body let her shave her legs if SHE wants to,im not saying let her do whatever she wants to do to her body but shaving ur legs isnt that big of a deal  =

Name: mary • Date: 07/12/2006 20:26:35

well, you shoudn't punish her. but you should talk to her about doing something without your conscent in general. and 13 isnt young to shave. i started when i was 12  =

Name: karen • Date: 07/13/2006 21:32:23

i could never understand why a parent cares when a girl shaves iwas 15 when my mother caught me shaving she had a fit and i got a sore bottom i do not think you should punish her im 21 and my parents still spank me pick your fights  =

Name: karen • Date: 07/13/2006 21:37:51

i got spanked at 14 for shaving mother told me the spanking was for lying about it all i can say is pick your fights, by the way im a sr. in collage im 21 and i still get spanked  =

Name: chocolate • Date: 07/14/2006 06:24:06

Wh ydont you buy your daughter some hair removal cream, its so much easier than shaving because you only have to use it like every 2 weeks, my daughter is 12 and thats what i get her. and im sure she just felt too shy to ask you.  =

Name: mummy 4eva • Date: 07/18/2006 03:46:50

my daughter started shaving when she was 11
your daughter is going to keep stuff from you that youll never find out about  =

Name: JenCarpeDiem • Date: 07/21/2006 15:13:33

Why not let her know that you're aware of it by buying her a brand new razor. It's a bit of an embarassing subject to bring up now that everyone seems hair-free (and it seems most people pretend they're naturally hairfree - it's not something that teens talk about anymore) and confronting her might just embarass her.

She probably notices the hairs a lot more than others do because she's seeing all her friends start shaving their legs for PE/Gym class. Just let her do it, it'll make her feel grown up, avoid the "werewoman" taunts in gym, and it isn't causing any harm. :)  =

Name: Georgia • Date: 07/24/2006 02:57:25

When i started i was a little embarrassed, i know how she feels. She might be feeling insecure about shwoing her legs off and all but face it your little girl can't be a little girl for ever. She is starting to grow up and she needs you to be understanding and on her side of the battle. I hope you do the right thing and don't punish her. Asking her might be a good idea but do not yell be nice and assuring.  =

Name: twostepsback • Date: 07/24/2006 10:17:07

I don't see it as a big deal, but it depends on a big deal.
if you don't think she knows you know, you should casually bring it up and ask her about it.  =

Name: Rachel • Date: 07/24/2006 11:11:56

I think that you should talk to her about it. Tell her that you thought you were close enough that she would tell you these things.
I don't think she has to ASK to shave her legs, and I most definitely don't think that you should punish her for doing so. She isn't a little girl anymore and you and she are in for some awkward trial times! Remember back when you were turning a teenager and hormones kicking in and please go easy on her and be understanding. You don't want to scare her and then she won't feel comfortable about talking to you about ANYTHING. I am quite sure you don't want that!!
Good luck!  =

Name: Ari • Date: 07/24/2006 11:20:00

I agree that you shouldn't punish her for it, but you should definitely sit down and have a discussion with her. Make sure she knows how to do it without hurting herself. My mom bought me an electric razor because she 'just knew I was going to tear my legs up' with a straight razor, but I'm going to second the person who said to use hair removal cream instead. :)  =

Name: ani • Date: 07/25/2006 00:27:19

just wanted to asy i am 24 and have never shaved my legs.i am blonde and there is no need otherwise i will have to keep up with it.I do shave my armpits but that's it.I really do not think little girls need to be shaving.period!  =

Name: Sharla • Date: 07/25/2006 07:31:44

ani, not everyone is blonde though......  =

Name: JenCarpeDiem • Date: 07/30/2006 01:36:47

Ani is right - little girls do not need to shave their legs - but a 13 year old is not a "little girl", she's coming into her sexual maturity and with that come the unsightly body hairs that western society tells us are ugly, so she wants to shave. It's hardly something worth all these mixed opinions. At least she's not going nuts and plucking her eyebrows right off..  =

Name: seeingstars • Date: 08/04/2006 23:22:31

I think you should tell her you know but wished you have asked you first. and punshing her for it wouldnt be such a good idea because it was gonna happen sooner or later do you know what i mean? my aunt made me start to shave my legs when i was 12 and didnt tell my mother or ask. my mom did get upset about it but she figuerd it was time. I know how you feel you must think next are boys and that lot. but again i just found im pregnant for the first time so i could be wrong in this case.  =

Name: loveguide • Date: 08/14/2006 15:16:59

if she felt she was ready to start shaving her legs then she was ready. dont punish he for it, and dont tell her you know. She would feel humiliated. Just keep acting like before, puberty is hard for girls when their parents are always talking about it. She probably didn't tell you because she didn't want to be embarassed. Don't be sad. Be happy that she is growing up and learning to act for herself.  =

Name: kittiekat2994 • Date: 08/16/2006 11:53:24

I think u should just talk 2 her about it and then tell her she should never be afraid 2 talk 2 u about anything.If shes afraid to tell u about that then imagine if she did something really bad that she didnt know what 2 do and she was afraid 2 tell u. If u talk 2 her about the leg shaving thing and show her that its ok to talk 2 u about anything she will feel comfortable 2 come to u for anything, big or small. I m not saying she should never get in trouble for anything but just be careful how u handle situations like these so she will share everything w/u.  =

Name: Deborah66 • Date: 08/21/2006 16:04:27

Our daughter wanted to start shaving her legs when she was 11. She was on the girls soccer team at the time and said she said she would feel more comfortable without hair on her legs when she was wearing shorts for practice. I let her shave and I don't think it's a big deal.  =

Name: Miss.Punk • Date: 09/21/2006 18:59:58

hey i am 13 and i think I am in the same situation i would recomend not bringing it up o if you do do it casually like in the middle of an average conversation
good luck any questions my e-mail is apunkielove2yahoo.com and my name is Samantha  =

Name: CutsBruises • Date: 09/22/2006 11:13:21

Oh comon, its got to be embarasing asking you mum to shave your legs, its like a boy asking to shave his armpits... its gotta be embarassing for her, it might be not be the fact that she didnt want you to know but, not sure how to tell you.  =

Name: Nikola • Date: 10/07/2006 13:01:01

well I am 13... I asked my mom if I could shave my legs and she said no... maybe when Im..alot...older... I got really mad... and... and stressed out... in the seventh grade (now in the 8th)
my grades started falling because I was soooooo stressed out..I could barely think right... ever since I first talked to my mom about it she started yelling at me.. so now I've noticed I don't tell her anything about my life... I can't start shaving because my mom would notice... my 11 year old cousin just started shaving..she didn't ask eighter but now her mom is like sure you can... your big now... when I heared I said I had to go and ran home and broke into tears... it's really hard not being able to shave my legs or armpits! and Im not kidding...I've cried so many times... my mom doesn't know how hard it is... I don't want to shave for boys... I am 13 but not into boys really.... I just want to shave because I hate being teased by other girls and I hate it when people stare.. this summer I kept saying I was cold and wanted to wear pants alot to hide it... but my mom made me wear shotrs and studd which got me so stressed out and upset...

I'm just saying don't let you're daughter go through the pain I am going through right now... if you have nay advice for me please let me know... I'm sure your daughter is a great girl....  =

Name: Nikola • Date: 10/07/2006 13:02:42

shorts and stuff *** sorry typo  =

Name: Nikola • Date: 10/07/2006 13:03:16

my email is june.seven@hotmail.com  =

Name: paulus • Date: 10/10/2006 12:00:22

I don't think you should punish her for shaving her legs without your consent. The big question is, "Why didn't she tell you?" If she is uncomfortable sharing the little things with you, do you think she will come to you when she really needs your advice. If you punish her for this she most likely will not confide in you in the future for fear of judgement. Try opening the lines of communication by letting her know that no topic is off limits, including shaving her legs. Offer to get her a personal shaver and creme. Let her know it is okay. You understand that she is growing up.  =

Name: Steph • Date: 10/12/2006 10:41:18

i did it too as everyone was doing it .. no punishment is needed .. but if you are really concerned suggest waxing cause shaving will make it thick and black.. she will do it anyway.. and also explain that you are not angry but disappointed that she didn't tell you.. make her comfortable about asking you about these things it will benefit you in the long run  =

Name: jen-mac-tennis • Date: 03/25/2007 16:39:29

im 13 and i dont shave because im too embarsed to ask my mom about it maybe thats how she feels too. i think u should just say hey look i no u started to shave thats ok but show her the real way just incase she doesnt no how and give her her own shaving gel and coll razor  =

Name: jen-mac-tennis • Date: 03/25/2007 16:42:30

i really need help i want to shave my legs but i dont no how to ask my mom any suggestions?  =

Name: jen-mac-tennis • Date: 03/25/2007 16:54:07

im goin to a weading in the summer and im 13 im a brides made so i really want to look nice im kinda a girly girl so how do i ask my mom about shaving  =

Name: push • Date: 03/25/2007 18:09:42

well if yours daughter thought she was old enough to do it then maybe you should let her its all part of growing up and part of being a girl it just one of those things u should be glad that at thirteen that is all she is doing in this day and age isnt it  =

Name: jen-mac-tennis • Date: 03/27/2007 17:24:15

let her  =

Name: roseywosey • Date: 03/30/2007 22:17:17

its just hair.. no big deal =\  =

Name: caityNnecia • Date: 04/04/2007 03:15:33

well me and my friend are 14 we both started in year 6 it was a little gift for one of ours graduation lol don't worry about it shell come round and tell you sooner or later she probably just felt a little self concious coz all her friends do it and she doesnt.  =