I got pregnant for this guy that I barely knew. I wanted to have a baby anyway so I am very excited. He hasn't been supportive since I got pregnant and I found out that the only reason that he wanted me to get pregnant was to take advange of me. (long story)
I found out that he was separated but legally married, when he told me that he was divorced and wanted to marry me.
had at least three children (one that he denies) and had tons of women when he made me feel like women didn't like him because he was such a sweet guy . LOL
That's not my problem anymore because I have broken up with him and decided to move on with my life. The problem now is the little prince who is about to come into this world in two months.
After breaking up with him I called him on a regular basis because 1. I was afraid that my son was going to be raised withougt a father and 2. I didn't want to let go.
Now that my mind is clear, I am not sure if I want this man around my son. By the way that he talks, and based on the way that he treats his current children, I know for sure he will not be there for my son financially. He's been asking me for money when im the one who should be asking him. I know that he will not be there for my son emotionally because he himself is emotionally imbalanded. He is a liar and a manipulator. and I don't want my son to be around someone like that.
The whole time I was pregnant he caused my nothing but problems. He never called me and told me I was a baby when I told him that I needed him to be there for me until I have the baby.
I respect that he is my baby's father but when I think of my son I see a little prince growing up to be a king. I don't want him to be anything like his father. I don't even know if he will stick around for my son and I know that he will dissapoint him a few times in his lifetime.
The only time that he made any decision for the baby's future was when we talked about his name. He won't even let the baby carry my last name along with his, when he hasn't been there since day one, so I decided that the baby will carry my name. :)
My parents have been very supportive. I can give my baby everything that he needs financially and emotionally. I know that the baby will be better off without him. I have plenty of male role models to teach him how to be a real man.
I feel like when it only depends on my family, tihs boy is a little prince that everyone is excited to spoil and treat like a gift from heaven, which he is. When it comes to his family my son is a secret that a lot of people are not supposed to know about. Why should I put my son, a little prince through that?
The good thing is that he is in a different country so he won't be able to see my son unless I take him there.
The baby is due in two months. Since the first month I have been the one calling him telling him the progress of the pregnancy. Like he cared.
I don't want to be selfish and use my own problems with him to make the baby suffer. so what do i do?
I decided to stop calling him. so what do I do after delivery day? Wait for him to call? Should I just wait and see. I would hate to make any decisions that would make my son suffer, or worse make him get mad at me when he is older. ↓
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