Name: jenn Title: having my baby alone

hi im a single mom and i just cry and cry at the thought of the father not coming to see the baby be born. he lives in another country where i used to live and doesnt want to see, hear or know anything about the pregnancy or my baby girl. i let myself get pregnant because he talked nonstop about how much he wanted to have a baby with me. does anyone else feel like they are going to be sad when the father doesnt come to the delivery?  ?

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Name: Shauna • Date: 02/07/2006 18:30:57

I used to be that way.  =

Name: Shauna • Date: 02/07/2006 18:43:59

I AM NOT SAYING YOU ARE DEPRESSED :) :) But pregnancy increases the risk of depression and although it's hard...(I'm still struggling, trying to stay positive myself) one of the best things you can do for you and your baby whether it's in utero or not is STAY HAPPY do things that keep your mind off of things you know? Go to a library, check out a funny book or two. Go shopping for maternity clothes. Think of a workout routine for after you have your baby. In having this baby, it means that you are choosing to be self-less. And although it seems you were in love with this "man" you will have to tell yourself, that if he won't be there for you in a time so important as this, then who is he to influence your emotions this way?? You don't want someone like him around this irresponsible, imagine the kind of father he WOULDN'T be. You WILL find a real man who loves you and your child with his whole heart. But until then you're this baby's mommy and he/she needs you more than anyone else.

There's some information below about what can happen to baby's of depressed mothers. I don't mean to offend you in anyway if I have.

Some research suggests that depression in pregnant women can have direct effects on the fetus. Their babies are often irritable and lethargic, with irregular sleep habits. These newborns may grow into infants who are underweight, slow learners, and emotionally unresponsive, with behavior problems such as aggression.

A mother’s depression itself can make some of her worries about her child realistic. Infants are highly sensitive to a mother’s sadness, silence, and inattentiveness. In one study, mothers of 3-month-old infants were asked to simulate depression for three minutes. They spoke in a monotone, remained expressionless, and avoided touching the child. Even at that age infants could respond to fleeting changes in their mothers’ apparent mood. They looked away from their mothers and showed signs of distress, which continued for a time even after the women began to behave normally.  =

Name: Melissa • Date: 02/27/2006 15:34:19

Hi jenn,
Hi jenn my name is Melissa and I am 16 years old I had a baby all by myself it is not fun but I had my mom there that is the only one how can love and be there for you bad times and good times I am going to tell you something keep your chin up ok your mom is there for you Melissa  =

Name: To Jenn • Date: 02/27/2006 19:41:17

The last thing you need is someone at your birth thats not supportive, my exhusband was there but he might as well have not been, he didnt want our son either, I made sure to have my mother and my sister there for support. It turned out great because he was the one that was uncomfortable. Please have someone there that loves you and supports you. Best friend, sibling, mother, aunt.  =

Name: sonia • Date: 02/28/2006 04:45:23

You need support! I sugesst a home birth with a good midwife. After you have your baby fall in love him or her this will heal you. My second was born in a cold hospital by c-section alone. no daddy. I fell in love with her and my pain disappeared.
breastfeed  =

Name: janet • Date: 03/02/2006 10:51:32

i used to- but the father of my baby has 3 other kids, two older sons and a younger daughter (compared to my child)
after i found that out i decided he wasnt worth it- the person that comes with you to witness the birth of your child has to be special and worth it-its such an emotional issue-this guy doesnt sound like he deserves it.  =

Name: samantha • Date: 03/06/2006 21:37:30

my husband is still in the house but went emotionally numb when i got pregnant. what is crazy is it was through IVF. It was no surprise. now i feel he is going to leave and have nothing to do with the baby. sad? oh yes. i think anyone would be sad. it is the stregnth you get from what is growing inside you that must keep you going. dont worry about the father. you can do it on your own.  =

Name: Shawn • Date: 03/13/2006 19:46:08

I am pregnant right now. My baby is due May 25th. I am having my baby alone. There are two possibles on the father and I won't know who's until he is born. Father #1 wanted the baby, but he is in alcohol rehab. Father #2 is an eye surgeon and doesn't want the baby. The reality of my sitiuation is that I will have my child without a partner. Is it sad? Yes, but I have my mom and my three other children there for me. Try to get your focus off of the father not being there. Try to pull together all the support you DO have. I would also look into that other country's policy about child support (if they have one). It is a tough road having a baby without a partner, but there are a lot of government resources, programs, support groups, etc. I take advantage of them and it has been a big help.
In the end you will find out who your true friends are. You will find out who loves you. If the real father is as big of a stinker as he sounds then he doesn't deserve that precious child you have. Having a baby is the most wonderful event I have ever had besides raising them. Don't let that jerk take that away from you or your baby.
As far as feeling down: Women are challenged when it comes to Seratonin (the feel good chemical in the brain). When you are pregnant there are even more challenges with Seratonin because your hormones are all out of whack. Google natural ways of increasing your seratonin. I make sure I take walks with my dog and get plenty of excercise. Get natural sunlight and eat foods like turkey and cottage cheese that have seratonin. These little tips will help you feel good when your feeling down.  =

Name: To Samantha • Date: 03/13/2006 20:49:57

Hey Samantha - don't give up yet. My husband and I went through IVF (failed) and while we were in the process I read something at the Dr.'s office that said you should spend extra time tending to your husband, tell him you love him, include him in every aspect of the pregnancy, etc, because when you do IVF it is almost entirely about the woman and the woman gets all the attention that man can feel left out and useless, like there is no role for him in the relationship this really makes sense when you consider all he has to do is visit a room with a cup and a few magazines and the rest is you. So just try to let him know that you understand how he feels and that this is your baby together that you couldn't have done it without him. He just feels real left out right now and needs reassurance. I could be wrong but it's worth going over if you want to save your marriage. Good luck.  =

Name: katie • Date: 03/13/2006 21:02:00

hi jenn, im a 26 year old mother with six children, my first 4 were to my husband and he hasnt seen them for around a year. my other two was to a man who i found out had two familys, myself and another. he hasn't seen the littlest one at all. The docters delivered my last baby by sezerian and i was alone for the whole pregnancy and birth. as much as i was angry with his father, i still get very upset that he will never meet him, as i dont know where he is any more. u know what its healthy to get upset about things like this. some men are such pigs.  =

Name: nikki • Date: 03/14/2006 16:33:02

I have a different situation. My childs father got locked up before her birth. So he was not able to be there. I had my best friend and my mother there. It was still sad that he wasnt able to be there. It was hard to see all the other women there with the fathers of their children.  =

Name: Lily • Date: 07/16/2007 15:26:47

I got knocked up in high school by my boyfriend who left me. Then I married a jew who knocked me up and left me. I then moved in with a man so my two kids would be taken care of. He knocked me and let me stay for 5 years til he found a new gf (who was pregnant by her father!) I then married my now husband and am now due to deliver in 5 weeks. So far he is still around. Keep your fingers crossed for me. Finally I am not alone.  =

Name: jacqui • Date: 07/17/2007 05:20:40

My boyfriend of three years - who also wanted children- has rejected me because I am pregnant and wants me to have an abortion. I am 34 and fear I won't meet another suitable partner to have children with before I am getting too old. I am heartbroken and not even sure how I can face the pregnancy alone let alone the delivery. I think you are brave at having made the decision to keep the pregnancy - and you will be strong enough to face the delivery without him. Good luck.  =

Name: belen • Date: 07/18/2007 20:04:54

Dont let the depression takes palce in your live during this time I know it is hard to be a single mother, I am one but you will find your reward the first time you see your baby´s face
Be strong God is always with you  =

Name: dee • Date: 07/19/2007 01:50:33

I am a single mother of two and my second child's father and I split up when I was pregnant. He has never met my daughter but I thank god every day for the gift I was given. You and your daughter will be fine and if her father does not wish to share her life, don't feel sad, feel blessed with the greatest gift of all (your daughter). Enjoy her and remember that he is the one missing out, not you. One day he will feel sad but you and your daughter have no reason to feel that way.  =

Name: melissa • Date: 07/23/2007 01:46:45

can i have a baby now  =

Name: sarah • Date: 08/26/2007 12:23:56

my partner split up with me a week ago even though im 36 weeks pregnant he decided he didnt love me anymore. He said it was from the first day i found out i was pregnant but he put this big act on that he was looking forward to it then bam he decides its not what he wants he said he wants full envolvement in this childs life. I cant work him out i hate what he has done to me. im so scared of not coping and being on my own with a baby. Why does things never plan out?  =

Name: Jaz • Date: 09/01/2007 09:08:42

I am a single mum. My son is almost 4 weeks old now. I admit, it is really hard, but I wouldn't trade him for the world. His father is from overseas. We met in Australia and I got pregnant. He was really angry at me for not having an abortion and was on the next plane to France. It makes me really sad too that my son won't have a father. He won't even talk to me. It's hard for me too because my life is on hold and I am looking after baby 24/7. Not only that but I am single and will be for a long time...there isn't time for romance. I think though that it is all worth it. I LOVE my son so much and I love him more and more each day. It feel good to share and know that I am not the only single parent in the world.  =

Name: Katie • Date: 09/07/2007 22:11:43

Im only 3 months pregnant and the father of my child left me.. he wont talk to me or see me... he wants nothing to do with me or my baby... all I can do is cry all the time now...  =

Name: cherisalorraine • Date: 09/07/2007 23:29:45

katie please look at the bright side of things at least he left before the baby became attached to him find a support group and let other people share your burden  =

Name: Trina • Date: 09/09/2007 11:21:48

Hi, I am in your same position, except I was seeing some guy and I got pregnant on birth control, when he found out he was ready to support me to get an abortion but as soon as I told him I was going to keep it he dissappeared telling me he was too young, couldn't support a baby financially, and wasn't ready to be a father so he left me to deliver and raise the baby alone. Its fine with me althought I never wished to be in these circumstances, I really would not want and guy there if he wasn't going to be 100% but it is going to be a very lonely process....I am due in April....  =

Name: NovemberD • Date: 09/16/2007 01:05:05

I amazed at how many women are in similar -- or even worse -- positions as myself. I found out I was pregnant after the father and I stopped dating. He's not bothered to see me or check in on me at all in the past couple months even though he had me believing he was going to be supportive. I've reached out ot him on occasion, but get lilttle to no response.

What is wrong with the men in this country? I find the level of accountability and integrity is apalling! I feel for all of the women who are left to go it alone while their boyfriends run away from their responsibilities... I am lucky to have a very supportive family and friends, but I cannot help but feel hurt by the rejection. And I often wonder how this abandonment-in-the-making will affect my child's psychological development.  =

Name: audrey • Date: 09/19/2007 01:54:54

hey  =

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Name: malu • Date: 10/18/2007 05:47:12

If u want to give ur baby to me i will be happy  =

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Name: lene • Date: 10/19/2007 21:55:51

I understand how you feel. The father of my baby does not want to participate either. It's a very lonely feeling. However, the best thing that we can do is to stay as positive and strong as we can while putting the focus on our beautiful, healthy babies.  =

Name: Tisha • Date: 11/08/2007 14:45:36

I am four months pregnant and I moved back to my hometown after leaving an unhealthy situation with my child's father. He is a complete (well, he at least holds a job) loser. We didn't talk for a month and then he pops up a week ago and nothing had changed. He asked that me and the baby come back but I called him and told him we WILL NOT come back and I didn't want to speak to his loser a** anymore. So I am afraid he will miss out purposely on the chance to see his second child (I also gave birth to his first son but he was stillborn) come into the world. I also fear that he will blame me or do it because he thinks it's going to hurt me. But I don't want to see his face ever again in life and it will put an ugly damper on the beautiful day if he chose to show up there. It's still scary though and I understand. I hurt, I cry sometimes, but hey, imagine how you would be if you had to stick around these losers. Imagine how you feel if someone who was truly unsupportive came to witness you in what should be one of the most life changing moments in anyone's life? Pray about it all the time and I'm certain God will turn this into a blessing.  =

Name: KIM GERWICK • Date: 11/22/2007 22:31:45

I'M 6 MONTHS OREGNANT WITHM Y FIRST AND I STILL GET CONTRACTIONS BUT THEY SEEM TO LAST ONLY 5 MINUTES APART. IS IT SAFE TO HAVE SEX WHILE I'M PREGNANT?  =

Name: KIM GERWICK • Date: 11/22/2007 22:32:03

I'M 6 MONTHS PREGNANT WITHM Y FIRST AND I STILL GET CONTRACTIONS BUT THEY SEEM TO LAST ONLY 5 MINUTES APART. IS IT SAFE TO HAVE SEX WHILE I'M PREGNANT?  =

Name: lauren • Date: 12/03/2007 19:12:53

im 3 months pregnant and im due june 1st. I just moved out and left my boyfriend because hes an alcoholic and hes mentally abusive and treats me really bad he has one kid now and he gets behind the wheel and drives with his son w him. i dont want my child to be in danger like that and i need to find a way to keep my child away from him because it scares me and i have no idea what to do??? I need help!  =

Name: Jamie • Date: 12/26/2007 15:39:42

The daddy ran away...  =

Name: Josephine • Date: 01/17/2008 07:51:37

hi jenn! My names josie and im a 20yr old girl and i have just found out im pregnant!! im over the moon...but as for the father...he is not! i want to keep the baby and do it alone!! the father has got another girl pregnant to and doesnt want me to keep this one as basically he will get caught for the love rat he is!! im very upset thinking about the future ie me, him and the baby! but i know i will be doing this alone! and it is upsettin..knowing he wont be around for the birht..the 1st smile...walk...laugh...word! but i know its his loss and not ours!!! you need to think of it that way! your getting to see you beautifull daughter grow up!!
keep tyou chin up babes!!
xxxx  =

Name: meghan • Date: 01/21/2008 11:15:44

Iam going to die cus I am haveing my baby and I am alon at
home  =

Name: steph_ • Date: 01/21/2008 12:53:06

he will come around.
right now he might be in a little shock.
heck, i don't know.

i told the the father of my baby that i hoped he fell off the face of the earth and i don't want him to have anything at all to do with my baby girl.

but there are some good reasons behind that.  =

Name: nena • Date: 01/22/2008 14:46:12

im prgnant  =

Name: kelsey • Date: 01/26/2008 15:52:24

i feel the same, my situation a little different my partner wanted a baby and once i found out i was pregnant- he told me to get rid of it. He left when i was 12 weeks pregnant and went back to a previous girlfriend.Since then he has caused me so much upset and now says he wants to be at the birth- as much as i dont want to go it alone im not sure i can deal with him at the birth after how he has treated me through the pregnancy. So in answer to your question i feel sad but then i realise im going to be their having the baby and will give it as much love as i can without any upset or a father that hasnt shown any support  =

Name: lonely • Date: 01/27/2008 14:31:41

Thank you to all the women. I thought I was going threw all by myself. I'm 5 weeks pragant, this going be my second baby. My boyfriend does want any thing to do with me any more. I feel very lonely and rejected. Asking God why he's acting like this. And this is going to be his first baby. All I tell my self the Lord would make a way out of no way. Just trust him, he would be my provider and also be my helper.  =

Name: Tia • Date: 02/19/2008 21:04:36

I am a single mother of two and they have seperate fathers. My daughter is 12 and my son is 7. I definitely thought that I wanted another child if I ever got married but now I am pregnant by a third man. He wants the baby but he is kind of a deadbeat and I finally broke it off with him only to find out that I am pregnant. I am worried that people will reject me plus I have no family support and have only one friend who is also a single mother of 5 so I don't want to ask to much of her. this is really hard and depressing for me and I am so lost and confused. I am trying to figure out how I will do this again. I guess the bottom line is that it all rests on me. I am so disappointed in myself for letting this happen. And I work in an environment where people are not so forgiving or understanding and they are very opinionated. On top of all of that I am one of two african american women in a department of 60people. So I am almost ashamed because I know that people will be talking about me behind my back which is also something that I just do not want to go through. But still I do not know if I can go through an abortion it just doesn't quite feel right. My only words of advise would be to do what feels best for you and make the most of it. Try and look forward to the longterm and just know that the baby will love you no matter what. Plenty of women have babies alone everyday all over the world. And plenty of women and children are left by the men even after the child is born so that still is no better. If you ask me it is his loss, you have to focus on yourself and the child. Baby may be better off without him, my daughters is now 12 and her father was horrible to this day on her own she has no interest in him, but that is his loss because she is a beautiful girl whom I love with all of my heart.  =

Name: elvagreen • Date: 02/19/2008 21:19:18

Many single moms may meet this condition. The only advice I can get to you is to be strong. Forget about that man. You may meet other people and find a new one on singleparentloving.com.  =

Name: Zita • Date: 03/10/2008 15:14:09

i understand you very well,and sorry for that.Well,lots of men are like this:( Very sad,but true.If u need talk to someone,its can be me:)  =

Name: loana • Date: 03/13/2008 05:45:40

If you need help ,I think i can do you a favor, in "soloparentdate.com" .the people in there are very kind ,they will do you a favor as possible as they can  =

Name: stephanie • Date: 03/22/2008 14:16:28

yes  =

Name: stephanie • Date: 03/22/2008 14:19:43

ok at least u got preggo when u older i got preggo when i was 11 and i ran away form home when i found out and i never told my parents now i have a 3 year old child and i need help takin care of her and i havent seen my parents in 4 years beat that  =

Name: anga • Date: 03/25/2008 05:40:36

No, not at all. If he wants nothing to do with his child then f*** him.  =

Name: Lonely_mum • Date: 03/29/2008 03:29:09

I am on the same boat. Daddy dont want to know anything about my pregnancy, evolution, blocked all my emails, changed his phone number...well you name it! I am due on may 26, which is his birthday also and seems that nothing of my efforts are working....  =

Name: Kayla • Date: 03/30/2008 20:12:22

i have 2 kids to the same guy...my son is 21 months and my daughter is alomst 3 weeks old...my ex wasn't there for either delivery and yah not gonna lie it sucked so much because i love him and he was the only one i wanted there...but some guys are still just boys and aren't mature enough to take care of something they also had part in...honestly do u want him in the delivery room only to start an arguement or to stress u out which will only hurt the baby and even u and yah maybe he'll be in the delivery room but whos to say he'll stay in the childs life after that...guys just suck and i guess us girls just have to live with that and hope for the best...good luck  =

Name: Lyssa • Date: 03/31/2008 01:44:06

I am 25 wks pregnant with my 3rd son and am completely alone. I have no family support and right now the father maybe contacts me once every 2 mos and never mentions being there for his son. Unfortunately my ex took my 1st son from me b/c he was married and the court decided he was better at taking care of him and my 2nd son's father up and ran like he was on fire. So here I am with my 3rd on the way and left with no support system whatsoever not even friends. Because my ex kicked me and my 4yr old out we live in a hotel and my job isnt enough to get a place and make sure we have a roof til I can get a place. Then there is the fact that I cant buy a single thing for this baby. I'm at my wits end I want to just cry because there is nothing worse than being completely isolated. I don't know how I'm getting to the hospital, who will watch my 4yr old while I'm in the hospital and how we will get home from the hospital. Not to mention how we will live with 6wks off with no pay. I have to have a 3rd C section so then I have to do all of this take care of 2 kids and try to heal from major surgery. I just want to throw in the towel. The baby's father was supposed to be this good guy and when I started seeing the doubts and stuff appear in him I voiced my concerns and got kicked out. Now he's acting like the deadbeat his family swore up and down he wasn't. I don't know what to do.  =

Name: yrral • Date: 04/01/2008 14:11:59

well at leat evreyone on here man who they got preggo by isnt married with two kids already and the funny part is i still want him i knew he had a wife when i first met him i just thought he would leave after being with me . now iam 8 weeks preggo and alone i havent told him either i want to but iam scared so iam wondering if i should get a abortion and move on because i already have a three year old son by another man iam so confused i want the baby beacuse it by him though ..iam 21 and hes 34 i think he was just playing with my feelings now that i think about it ..  =

Name: phillip evans • Date: 04/02/2008 07:24:21

well love i am very sorry to hear about what that man is doing to you and your baby. i no its not nice i am a single dad i think and i wish i can see her and the baby but now they have moved away i have none to be with and i realy want to be with some one that haves a baby already that i can be a step dad to proberly

xx  =

Name: lacy • Date: 04/03/2008 11:01:25

i was wondering if sonme one could send me some information on single teen mothers. im 15 and am writing a paper on this topic and am also pregnaunt myself. send it to me at Lady_hornet_2012@yahoo.com. thanks.  =

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Name: christydew • Date: 04/10/2008 21:12:20

I'm definitely going to be sad. Sad that my child will not know it's father and lack of support for me. However, I just keep telling myself that my child and I are better off without him and a world of opportunity awaits.  =

Name: mak's_mommy • Date: 04/17/2008 18:02:48

I am in the sabe boat as many of you girls. I am 34 weeks preggo and the father of my baby, an airforce soldier, decided not to have any contact with me and he simply ignored me and the fact I am pregnant. I sent him lots of u/s images, letters, I have contacted his mother and she said is better to have the ADn test which I am ok with that, but nothing about him...Sometimes I feel really depressed since I have to pay for everything and its hard, but my baby worth it......Thanks God I have lots of suportive friends who are always there for me....Chin up! We can!  =

Name: solo • Date: 04/18/2008 04:07:51

well.....you'd better make more friends in this period. I can not image what a terrible situation when you live alone ! As I know here is a great place for you . Singleparentloving.com******Maybe you may find a new father for you baby !  =

Name: Cassie • Date: 04/18/2008 15:33:19

Hiya Hun, I know exactly how you feel. I've got 2 children with my ex. He hasn't ever seen my youngest who is now nearly 11 months old, he buggered off when i was 10 weeks pregnant. My eldest is 3 and can't even remember his dad. It is hard, I've tried all sorts to get him to face up but he won't. It has been really tough I cried for what seemed like months. But now I realise that I am so much better off without him and so are my children. I throw myself into looking after my children and giving them the best start in life, I'm starting a degree course in Oct and I spend alot of time with friends and family too. What I'm trying to say is don't beat yourself up over this loser your daughter is better off with 1 very good parent than with 2 who argue or don't get on. He clearly isn't going to be a good influence on your daughter. Maybe in time he will want to know, but for now focus on the 2 of you. But something I will say is don't allow your daughter to grow up around people who will slag her father off no matter what he's done because it will only blow up in your face hun. Good Luck xxx  =

Name: mel • Date: 05/07/2008 04:02:55

Hi there,
my son is now 16 years old and a credit to me,
Ihad him on my own, without the father present same situation as you. When my son was born he had low sugar and had to go into special care, As i was wheeled back to my bed I had the biggest grin across my face that could not of been wiped off, look love I did not even have a friend with me when I gave birth I did it all By myself. So what I am trying to say is that noone can take that special momment from you. Also guess ehat the child fathe rdid want to know in the end. As I have said my son is now 16 and a credit to me he causes me no trouble or pain Though my son is in contact with his father he can not take any credit for the way he is grown up that is all mine. I wish you the best of luck be strong god bless  =

Name: shelese12 • Date: 05/07/2008 19:29:02

whatz up you guys well im 19 9y/o an I just found out that I am pregnat I am very confused right now cuz i just got accepted into a university an what not but I just wanted some1 to talk to some that can relate to me so if u wanna talk plz get @ me  =

Name: claire • Date: 05/08/2008 03:34:27

hi, im also looking at the aspect of being a sinle mum, im only 9 weeks pregnant so i guess i still have a long time to go, but it seems so scary, the dad is still kinda around but im sure it wont be for much longer,, he still wnats to enjoy his life , well thats what he says..
so i guess i will also be alone when im having the baby, the only thing im holding on to is my friends and the fact i need to be strong for my baby, you know you can do it, with the dad or not,, yeah it will be harder somedays but it will be ok in the end, their are days when i feel so sad i just dont wanna carry on anymore, but then i remember the baby, and how much joy it will bring you, its going to be the dad's loss in the end, we will both be blessed with beautiful babies .  =