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Name: NoahsMama06

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Ever since I was pregnant with Noah, I made it perfectly clear to both my aunt and my dad that they would not be smoking around my son. At first they both did really well with it and went outside or just refrained from smoking while Noah was around. Now Noah is a year old and they are both getting more daring. I don't allow smoking at all in my house or car so that isn't a problem, but if we are at my mom's house my aunt will just stand by the door and smoke and my dad (who doesn't live there) will just go in another room such as the kitchen. My mom isn't the type to say anything but I told her it bothers me that they are smoking where the smoke is coming in by Noah (and now me since I'm pregnant) and she just tells me to tell them to go outside. I don't go to my aunts house with Noah because I don't want him around her smoking but also don't feel as though I have the right to ask her to stop smoking in her own home. And I just don't go to my dad's house at all. When I'm at my mom's and have to ask them to go outside I feel kind of like a witch but short of me leaving with him (in which case I would be called a witch) there isn't really anything else I can do. Am I being overprotective and inconsiderate about their feelings about this? ↓

Name: MyTwoBabies | Date: May 30th, 2007 7:00 PM

I think you are doing the right thing. Secondhand smoke is the worse. Even though it's their home they should be considerate enough to know that it is wrong. Not having a cig while you and your son are there isn't going to kill them the cig is. ↑

Name: Dana G | Date: May 30th, 2007 7:25 PM

Have t-shirts made for the kids that say if your smoking near me you better be on fire! Maybe they will get the hint...lol....all jokes aside though I hate people smoking around my kids and I will go out of my way to get away from them, I don't care what they think......but thats just me. So I say your not oo overprotective at all! ↑

Name: homemommichele | Date: May 30th, 2007 7:42 PM

No, they are being inconsiderate if they don't respect it. They are adults and it is their choice to suck on poisons and put it in their body. A child should never be "forced" to inhale that crap against their will. ↑

Name: Nicolaaa | Date: May 30th, 2007 7:44 PM

dont get me started on a rant about passive smoking. lol i hate it!!!!!! ↑

Name: momo | Date: May 30th, 2007 8:24 PM

no...yu need to not take your kids there...you need to not try to feel bad for other people and think about the health of your children ↑

Name: Atomic Snowflake | Date: May 30th, 2007 8:26 PM

Throw a bucket of cold water over anyone who smokes around your child - regardless of whether or not you're related to them.

People who smoke around children should be tortured to death. ↑

Name: marija | Date: May 30th, 2007 10:31 PM

its not your house...its your mothers....she should be the one telling them. They are after all visiting your mother ....not you and your baby, or are they?...if they are stopping in BECAUSE you are there then i would remind them that you dont like cigarette smoking around your baby or Just dont go if theyre there :-) Noone has to put up with cigarette smoking around their children....but you do have to respect other peoples homes...if your mother doesnt have a problem with smoking in her home, then you should respect her place and just leave when your aunt and dad are there....but on the other hand, if she wants to respect your wants...she SHOULD be telling her sister and husband NOT to smoke...not telling you to, puts you in an awkward position ↑

Name: Judge.Judy | Date: May 30th, 2007 10:44 PM

Just tell them that if they smoke around the children you will not visit them anymore. Then it is their choice as to what is more important to them. A cigarette or a visit. ↑

Name: Ludicrus | Date: May 30th, 2007 10:47 PM

It is your right to control the environments you expose your children to. You have every right to leave when someone lights up. Why should you worry about their reaction when they do not respect your wishes when it comes to the health of your children. ↑

Name: Ludicrus | Date: May 30th, 2007 10:48 PM

I agree with Judy! ↑

Name: winnmom | Date: May 31st, 2007 4:13 AM

I agree......
I do smoke.....but NEVER in my home, car etc. ↑

Name: Coartney | Date: May 31st, 2007 4:19 AM

i smoke outside so does my mother and i oly smoke in the car if braden isnt in there and i air it out evey day and vaccum it too ↑