i was looking through my fiancees email on yahoo and i stumbled across some emails he sent to his ex when they were together. from what i know is that he really didnt care about her and never loved her but told her he did to make her feel better. well after reading thoes emails he is all lovey with her and says he loves her and not to forget that and he misses her. i wouldnt feel so bad if he would have at least told me he did care about her at one point but he told me that he never cared or loved her.
gosh why did i have to snoop. he just walked in to work and i almost can not look at him because i feel like i was lied to. ↓
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| Name: homemommichele | Date: May 31st, 2007 8:25 PM |
| Hmmm you said these were written back when they were together? It may be just that he did care at one point, in some way, but did not want you to worry and be afraid. I would let it go unless you see letters like that dated After he committed to you!! ↑ |
| Name: mizzescalante | Date: May 31st, 2007 8:29 PM |
| no these were dated 2 months before we got together. dino is the type to not lie and he hates liers. i have never lied to him about anything and when i found these emails i didnt expect him to be all lovey dovey with her. i wanted to throw up. i know its his past and i am not getting mad it just makes my stomach hurt. ↑ |
| Name: Judge.Judy | Date: May 31st, 2007 8:49 PM |
| Just remember he choose you! ↑ |
| Name: Judge.Judy | Date: May 31st, 2007 8:53 PM |
| I would not confront him about this because it could cause a huge fight since you were looking in his personal stuff. Just remember he chose you. ↑ |
| Name: mizzescalante | Date: May 31st, 2007 8:58 PM |
| i know he chose me but he gave me the password to his email and told me i could look anytime just as well as i gave him mine. he probably didnt think about the messages that were sent out. ↑ |
| Name: Judge.Judy | Date: May 31st, 2007 8:59 PM |
| He must have forgotten about them. See that shows he has no feelings left for her. ↑ |
| Name: Judge.Judy | Date: May 31st, 2007 9:00 PM |
| Does he ever cross paths with this girl? ↑ |
| Name: Judge.Judy | Date: May 31st, 2007 9:01 PM |
| If she is completely out of his life I would not worry too much about it. You can tell him you saw them seen you weren't snopping if you want to talk to him about it. ↑ |
| Name: momo | Date: May 31st, 2007 9:02 PM |
| Well mabe at the time he said those things..but when it was over he realized he didn't feel that way...I have said i love you to many people, but when i truly fell in love, I realized that i didn't have those feelings that i said i did...Don't fel he lied to you, i am sure he wasn't doing it on purpose. I think he just had a change of heart after meeting and falling for you... ↑ |
| Name: mizzescalante | Date: May 31st, 2007 9:04 PM |
| we both ran into her when i went to the hospital for a ultrasound on my legs. she told him hi and he told her hi but that was it. ohhh and she was really suprised when she found out we were engaged. oh well the emails quit when we got together. i know he dosent care about her anymore. ↑ |
| Name: mizzescalante | Date: May 31st, 2007 9:08 PM |
thanks girls i feel alot better. i just hate hiding anything from him so i know i will let him know later because i feel bad for snooping.
but i couldnt help it.
who else would have read them if you were in my situation? ↑ |
| Name: Atomic Snowflake | Date: May 31st, 2007 9:14 PM |
| rusty fork + testicles = the truth ↑ |
| Name: mizzescalante | Date: May 31st, 2007 9:20 PM |
| heheheh and just to think i have one in the garage. lol . ↑ |
| Name: KarenM | Date: May 31st, 2007 9:21 PM |
| ROTFLOL Atomic!!! As for reading 'em, I prolly would have too... ↑ |
| Name: Judge.Judy | Date: May 31st, 2007 9:40 PM |
| I would have read them too! Don't feel bad. ↑ |
| Name: Hiddy | Date: May 31st, 2007 10:52 PM |
| You FEEL like you were lied to....because you WERE lied to ↑ |
| Name: mizzescalante | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 2:11 PM |
| i wrote him a loooong email so i will update yall when he writes back. ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 3:05 PM |
Ok just because some one write I love you and miss you does not mean they feel it. My husband told me he never loved is x ..I said why did you marry her thenHe said " cause I thought I did".
He said he now knows what klove is becuse of me.
Just talk to him about it with out judging or rudness. You do not know how he felt untill you ask him.
I always like to give some on a chance to explain beore I judge or Ass u Me.
Just my input on it .
Best of luck
Ps I would delet them messages too LOL ↑ |
| Name: mizzescalante | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 3:19 PM |
| i am not mad i am upset because he told me he never loved her and only told her to make her happy but seriously in the emails you could see the love he had for her. he told me he kept her around just to make her happy but i know when i stuck around to make someone happy i didnt express feelings like he did with her. i know now he dosent love her but sometimes i question if he even loves me because when things went wrong in there relationship he was quick to write her and say he dosent want things to end and beg her back and when we argue he is quick to tell me to leave back to my parents. i am just confused... ↑ |
| Name: Nicolaaa | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 3:23 PM |
Im a snoop mizz...I snooped on my mums emails when i was 14 and discovered some horrible things. I wish I'd never done it as it sent me a bit crazy.
I've snooped in Paul's emails...there wasnt really MUCH there, just how stressed etc he was and how he just wanted everyone to leave us alone (people arent nice to him as im younger than him, they take the mick at work) and its horrible to read...and youo feel so guilty.
I'm sorry tat you feel the way you do. But take consolation in the fact he loves YOU now, and you are his family. ↑ |
| Name: mizzescalante | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 3:26 PM |
| but it seems like he loved her more....he also told me that if he had a baby he would stay with the mother no matter if he loved her or not. he says he loves me but what if he is just saying that to make me stay? gosh i shouldnt have read them emails. ↑ |
| Name: Nicolaaa | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 3:31 PM |
Mizz....if you are really really concerned...you should confront him. I WISH so hard i did that with my mum. To this day i never have and I have so many unanswered q's. But i understand why you wouldnt want to.
You were together befroe you had xylea..he loved you...not because you had his child...but because of who you are. :o) ↑ |
| Name: mizzescalante | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 3:33 PM |
| we were only together for 3 months before i got preggers. it was still in the beginning of our relationship so it was new. mabye he didnt love me mabye it was infactuation then and then boom i get pregnant. ↑ |
| Name: Nicolaaa | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 3:35 PM |
| i dont think anyone could ever stay in a loveless realtionship. He may think he can...but he couldnt im sure. Think how moody you were when you were pregnant (im guessing you were!) and how stressful fatehrhood is. Things like that, no matter what he said in the past, would push him away if he didnt love you. ↑ |
| Name: mizzescalante | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 3:37 PM |
| i feel like i forced him to love me with xylea. even though we were trying i bet he thought it wouldnt really happen. i mean he really didnt believe me when i took the test and really was more in shock that happy. ↑ |
| Name: mizzescalante | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 3:39 PM |
| and i mean even when i was preggers we got into a argument he was quick to tell me to leave and when i left from anger he never even called to check up on me to see if i was alright. it seems like its getting clearer. ↑ |
| Name: Nicolaaa | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 3:42 PM |
Mizz...Im so crappy at saying the right stuff....
But i know how you feel to some extent. Paul and I have had alot of problems in the past couple of weeks...huge arguments and now things are "normal" again...and seem perfect again. BUT i cant help but think its because i am pregnant you know?
I think that maybe you should ask him one night...say "Do you really love me?" or something like that...see what happens.
Be positive chick...I dont know that much about you...but it could all be your imagination ↑ |
| Name: Nicolaaa | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 3:45 PM |
no imagination is the wrong word...maybe...your jumping to conclusions...making assumptions.
Think what they are based on...some OLD emails. Now because of a past relationship you are coubting your own relationship. I wish i knew the right things to say i really do ↑ |
| Name: mizzescalante | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 3:46 PM |
| i do ask him and he says yes. but what if he is lying? how will i be able to tell? ↑ |
| Name: Nicolaaa | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 3:48 PM |
the WAY he says it. No man can ever lie believably when they say it...if he's enthusiastic and looks you in the eye...if he smiles and really acts like he loves you and is devoted to you...thats love. Well...im young i suppose...thats what paulo is like hwne he says it to me. and when my mum and dad were in love...they said it like that too...
if he kisses you passionatley instead of as if it is a chore....stuff like that. ↑ |
| Name: mizzescalante | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 3:52 PM |
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