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Name: Emma2

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i know that having a child can slow down your sex life, but i am wondering how long is too long.... i am just so exhausted so when my husband is in the mood, i'm usually not and it's been 3 weeks...this is the longest we've gone since our daughter was born 20 months ago when we could barely make it the 6 weeks my doctor recommended.... HELP -- ↓

Name: mother2five | Date: Mar 3rd, 2008 1:00 AM

wow thats long!!!!!!

i think less than 2 a week is to long in my opinion!! :) ↑

Name: cherisalorraine | Date: Mar 3rd, 2008 2:17 AM

I know what you mean about feeling tired! DO you think you could get a sitter so that you could set something up that would be romantic for you and your husband? That way you would be rested and you could get him into the mood? ↑

Name: zoey9810 | Date: Mar 4th, 2008 3:58 AM

3 weeks is along time, me and my hubby used to have sex about 8 times a week i would say so once every day and then sometimes twice, but then he got deployed and i got pregnant just before that, so it was 15 months with out it and now we have sex like 3 times a week, he works at night a i during the day so one of us is always tired, but we still try to be intimate with each other. He only has one day off a week and thats Tuesday, so we make that our movie day and then we light candles and have a nice night with each other, so sex is for sure so sex is gureented sp at least once a week lol ↑

Name: zoey9810 | Date: Mar 4th, 2008 4:00 AM

type o's sorry
so sex is for sure gureented sp at least once a week lol = ↑

Name: KimmyK | Date: Mar 4th, 2008 3:48 PM

Gosh I think I really need help.I have had sex one time since last June when my daughter was born.It probably doesn't help that we are not getting along.I just don't have any urges anymore.I do have a two and a half year old also.It just wears me down.I am very unappreciated by my husband who was excited about me staying at home with the kids.Now I think he regrets it. ↑

Name: mother2five | Date: Mar 4th, 2008 4:00 PM

awwww kimmy that stinks, how does your husband feel about the not having sex in that long of time?
It can be hard w/ children but you have to get creative and make time, I have 5 and we still have sex at least 2 times a week sometimes more! ↑

Name: Irene | Date: Mar 4th, 2008 10:43 PM

i think 3/4 times a week is healthy & enough if you ask me!!
anything less than that & in your case Emma, sit down with hubby & try work it out or maybe see your Doctor about it, it can happen where you just lose your interest, drive and so on,
but just try & relax & have a nice dinner with mother or mother inlaw watching your daughter & go out just the two of you & let it happen,
maybe go away together even if its just a weekend!!

all the best & Have Fun!! ↑