So thursday night, i had made plans to go linedancing at cowboys with my best friend, also the godmother of braden. i told her ill be there at 9 to pick you up, i get there, shes not there, i wait, and close to 10 she shows up. with her friend. okay whatever she can go too, so i wait as they eat, and get changed, b.c they had gone to islands of adventures earlier. cool whatever. 1030 rolls around, and we leave, we get there at about 1045, and i was like i plan on staying to at least 1230.. 1110 rolls around, "we want to go home" well thank you for ruining my night. so i beared a smile and was like okay. said bye to my friends i hadnt seen in a year b.c ive been pregnant and gone. well we leave i drop her off come home and sit home alone with braden and my mom.
so today, i needed to go buy clothes, and i called and asked hey you wanna go, one of uor mutual friends was there too, and i was like yeh sure she can go, but i need to run to subway for my mom real quick, okay cool. so i pick them up, i go to subway, i come out with the food and get into the right turning lane to go to my house, they wanted to see the baby anyways, well as im doing this, she was like take me home. her fiance, "supposedly" called. i was like you know whatever so i smiled and brought them back to her apt. once again. so now im sitting here, not even my sister wants to go clothes shopping with me, my mom is gonna be watching braden so i can get out, and none of my "friends" answer their cell phones.
so not only didnt i get food b.c i didnt want to be rude and eat in front of my friends, im now sitting here with braden asleep, clothesless, and in tears. yeh im probably over reacting, but dog damnit i just had a kid, my husband is in another fucking country, and my best friends dont even want to be around me when my mom gives me the opportunity to go out and have somewhat of a normal life. i wanna call her so bad and tell her THANK YOU FOR BEING A DUMB BITCH AND HURTING MY FEELINGS.. not once, but twice in a 4 day period. assholes. ↓
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| Name: momo | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 7:45 PM |
| you know people who don't have kids just dont know any better...you have chanded they haven't...you grew up .. ↑ |
| Name: Dina, | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 7:45 PM |
| you have a right to be upset and angry you should call your freind and talk with her bout how you feel after what all went on and maybe she dont realise what it was doing to you i bet she will feel crappy for acting like that ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 7:47 PM |
| doubt it, like i just said over in due date on this topic she is an over weight bitch so is her little fiance, he cries more than her, and bitches about being a lardass at like 400 lbs, and i love them both, but they just bitch about being fat. then all they do is go to work and sit around and smoke pot all night ↑ |
| Name: Dina, | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 7:48 PM |
| mabe you dont need freinds like that dont sound like she cares much about you unless she just wasent thinking straight ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 7:51 PM |
| well weve been friends for 8 yrs. and i wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt, she was tired the other night, okay whatever you know you were outside in the heat at the park all day. but now i just feel so worthless, its like i basically have to beg someone to go to the damn store so i can find pants that fit me b.c i got rid of all my pre prego clothes b.c of me moving overseas, and sold my maternity b.c i had grown out of them. i start work tuesday night and i cant wear basketball shorts and tank tops. i just hate it. my 12 yr old sister and my friends that i only know online from here, like karen, kristy , whittni and them, they're more of my real friends and care about me more than people in real life, it breaks my heart. i feel like im not even worth it. ↑ |
| Name: Dawn C. | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 7:53 PM |
Call her and ask if you have offended her in any way then tell her everything you just wrote. If she doesn't have children of her own...this is a whole new situation for her too. Maybe she is having a hard time reconnecting because she doesn't know what you are going through. And she probably doesn't realize how badly she is hurting you.
Next...get in the car and go shopping by yourself!! I can't shop with friends...I get too distracted and get more accomplished on my own lol. Then treat yourself to a wonderful lunch at the restaurant of your choice : )) ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 7:53 PM |
| sorry i just needed to let it out, ive been sittng here crying over it. ↑ |
| Name: Dina, | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 7:59 PM |
| it is fine for you to vent it out on here i am going through a seperation right now and i am having trouble with my heart and mind tugging in different derictions i vented in a different post on it ↑ |
| Name: Dina, | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 8:00 PM |
| i know what you mean cause i have noone to talk to i dont have any freinds or other family to talk with it can be aggravating ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 8:00 PM |
| Name: Dawn C. | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 8:01 PM |
| That's what we are here for Coartney...vent away!!! Can you get any meds for the PPD?? ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 8:02 PM |
| my doctor said he wouldnt put me back on any of my meds i was on before being prego, ie my blueberries ↑ |
| Name: homemommichele | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 8:03 PM |
| Awwwww I will go shopping with you!! I LOVE to shop!! Anyway I know how you feel. When you have a kid, your life is so much different from them, and they tend to grow apart from you. It's not right, but it's true. Soon you will be meeting other Moms around you...do you have a park or anywhere you can walk with the baby and maybe strike up a convo there? You will meet other moms, your kids will play together, you will all go shopping and to kid family restaraunts all together. It gets better I promise. ↑ |
| Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 8:16 PM |
| Coartney, why not take your baby out with you? You can take bottles with you and they sleep most of the time when they're young. They don't like being dragged around the shops too much, but once in a while is okay. ↑ |
| Name: homemommichele | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 8:17 PM |
| I understand hon, but people without kids just don't. Once you make friends that have kids, they will know where you are coming from and probably want a break too!! I love leaving the kids with the daddies and going off shopping with my other Mommy friends, going to lunch etc. We all need a break sometimes. ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 8:22 PM |
| as, i want a break from him, im with him almost 24/7 even if he is sleeping, sadly i want to be able to smoke a cigarette and i cant with him, i refuse to be around him at all with one, i put them in a different room so they're not even around. i change my clothes so i can hold him, whatever. anyways i guess im gonna go drive around and just think. ttyl ↑ |
| Name: Dawn C. | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 8:24 PM |
| That's one of the reasons I work...to save my sanity lol. God bless all the mothers that want to stay home and raise their kids!! There is NO WAY I could do it...I'm just not made that way. ↑ |
| Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 8:25 PM |
| Just pop outside for a cigarette hunny. That's all I do. It does get much easier as they get older. They can entertain themselves a bit more once they get older. ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 8:26 PM |
| oh i do pop outside, but i guess i just want to go out and be alone but not alone .. yanno i dono .. im gonna head out. ttyl ↑ |
| Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 8:28 PM |
| Yeah, I know how you feel. Kids are soooo intense! It does get to ya sometimes. Honestly, it does get easier. ↑ |
| Name: winnmom | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 9:11 PM |
Awe Coartney.....yes if they do not yet have kids...they do not understand what it is like:(
((((HUGS))))))to you ↑ |
| Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 9:12 PM |
God, I can't go to the toilet without my kids following me in there wanting food, toys, drinks etc.
I can't get a crap in peace!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: Emma2 | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 9:18 PM |
| coartney. my friends pretty much ditched me after my daughter was born. they don't understand that i can't just do whatever i want anymore and they have distanced themselves. my mom thinks they'll come around once they get married and start having kids, but that doesn't make it hurt any less. i'm sorry they made you feel bad. ↑ |
| Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 9:27 PM |
| You need some mother and baby clubs! They help you to see other people, but the mothers there are generally psychotic and obsessed!!!!!!!!!!!! ↑ |
| Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 9:27 PM |
All they talk about is.........WEANING!!!!!!!!!! ARghhhh
Still, it's a way out of the house! ↑ |
| Name: Dana G | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 10:03 PM |
When I had kids and my friends didn't I lost alot of them, but as they had kids we do keep in touch at least now....my sister is the one I usually go out and do things with......sorry your feeling bad...
: ) ↑ |
| Name: hdc_momof2 | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 10:06 PM |
| awww hon...come on over here and i'll go shopping with you! shawn doesn't want to take me and i don't have any friends to go with lol. so i'm screwed too :-( ↑ |
| Name: Coartney | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 11:39 PM |
| Name: marija | Date: Jun 3rd, 2007 11:51 PM |
hi coartney :-)
sorry to hear about your friend. I do want to say i think you should have it out with her...she is your long time friend :-) dont blow it off because of something that could be just not thinking on her part!!!....what she did, was not think of anyone but herself, it happens in the closest of relationships :-) TELL her how you feel, if it gets ugly...it gets ugly, let it all hang out. If she is a true friend, she will realize how hurtful she has been and apologize, if she thinks you are over-reacting, let the friendship slide to acquaintance, she is not worth your tears :-)
im not a mommy and me kinda girl...i liked working because of the adult time and big talk :-)
im more of a alone girl, i dont work well out with others, because i tend to do what they want and come home disappointed.
cheer up gal :-) hopefully she was just thoughtless and will bow down and kiss your feet in hope of forgiveness! ↑ |
| Name: Layne | Date: Jun 4th, 2007 3:38 AM |
| Im sorry...I would go with you....They just dont understand....buing new clothes after your PG is a huge deal and going out with adults is too...shame on them :( ↑ |
| Name: SLUSHIE | Date: Jun 4th, 2007 5:47 AM |
sounds like they really arnt friends to begin with..geez give her a verbal bashing
that is BS ↑ |
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