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Name: tracy
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my 6 year old daughter has adhd she is not coping at school very well infact her teacher hasnt got a clue about adhd ive asked to have her assessed but the school have got a bad attitude towards adhd children my daughters behavior has uncrontrolable at home it doesnt matter what i do NOTHING IS WORKING has any one else had these problems with the schools ? she needs help and i feel im fighting a losing battle i love her so much but i dont no how much more i can take its so hard everyday i feel constantly stressed i would be gratful if anyone could give me some advise about fighting the system has anyone else had the same problem?
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Name: tracy | Date: Nov 3rd, 2005 5:03 PM
i had the same problem, except they all know he has adhd, then he got worse, more depressed, i asked for more help and different testing they said, try different meds, of course that didnt work, so i put him on a youth diversion progamthrough the courts its a program for at risk kids, that havent got any trouble with law, but their behavior indcates that the will, anyways now the school is more than willing to do what it takes to try and help my son 

Name: tracy | Date: Nov 3rd, 2005 6:28 PM
thank you for your reply im glad you got your son the help he rightly deserves your system sounds completly different to the system weve got here in britain it sounds much better too .my daughters teacher was constantly telling her off until i complained to the school. now the teacher lets her do anything she wants to do. this is making life really stressful at home my daughter is very rude and agressive at home i cant even talk to her i think the schools can make things a lot harder for parents and then they have the cheek to turn things on us and call us bad parents i try all the time with my daughter and only want whats best for her 

Name: Ruth | Date: Nov 3rd, 2005 10:56 PM
Tracy Under the law they have to test your daughter when you ask if they give you a had time just tell them you know the law and they have 2 weeks to get it started or you will have to report them. here are 2 web sites has alot about the law protecting the disabled which is what are kids a classified at.
you need any more help please email me at [email protected] 

Name: tracy | Date: Nov 4th, 2005 10:05 AM
thank you ruth for your reply and your advice i much appriciate it .ive got your e mail address and i will e mail you . i dont know any one with an adhd child and feel very much alone with all the problems and stress. the education system is a joke and unfortunatly the school she attends the head teacher has got a bad attitude towards adhd he thinks they are "naughty children" and he told me there are people in wheel chairs waiting for assesments WHAT SORT OF ATTITUDE IS THAT . i cant move her from this school as she has attended nearly every school in the area. I am detemined to get my daughter the help she needs and deserves. THANKS AGAIN FOR YOUR REPLY 

Name: hopeful in florida | Date: Nov 7th, 2005 12:20 PM
structure, structure , structure, have you heard this word before I wanted to choke the next person who said it , I thought my little angle went to bed one night and was possed the next day, not really its just her adhd kicked in full affect and it seemed that way. set up charts, good behavior gets a little reward, like maybe her favorite show she likes to watch or her favorite song she can lisen to, bad behavior gets a concquience(sp) not doing her home work when asked then not tv or no song, talking back looses the right to her favorite toy for an hour or day. time out never worked for me but it does work for some. Teacher - go to the school board if the school is gibing you grief about adhd. Have her doctor asses her and give the paper to the teacher with a dead line. if the teacher does not return the paper within the dead line then remind her give her 2 additional days then do to the school board, if that does not work go public, writ to the paper about the treatment of childern an parents at that school. you would be surprised how fast they will change thier attitude and deal nicely with you after that. it worked for me. god bless and keep fighting. 

Name: tracy , england | Date: Nov 8th, 2005 12:12 PM
hopeful, thank you for your reply, ive asked the school for my daughter to be assessed, they have told me her behavioral problems arent severe enough, infact they are saying now she hasnt got any behavioral problems at school they just dont want her to have any extra help, They lie, twist and turn the truth all the time, they make us look like bad parents.We try so hard constantly her behavior has become worse latly and i believe its because shes having a hard time at school, i cant move her from this school as she has attended every school in the area i feel so sad that people refuse to understand the condition these children live with. i wont give up fighting for her , 

Name: lizz | Date: Nov 17th, 2005 12:00 AM
my sons teacher just told me today "he is off the wal and you need to stop giving him sugar" WOW.... I feel like the schools need to have a workshop on ADHD or something 

Name: Michelle | Date: Nov 17th, 2005 1:45 AM
well instead of fighting the system... take it into your own hands... maybe seek a child psychologist that specializes in adhd? Just an idea. 

Name: val | Date: Nov 17th, 2005 3:52 PM
get ahold of a lawyer, there are a whole set of rules for the educational system. ADHD is a learning disability. I know for one thing-in the state of IL they can not make ADHD kids take those timed tests. It is just a matter of MAKING them listen to you. If you bug them enough they see things your way. I go to the school once a week and have a conference with my daughters teacher. I have a teenage son with ADD and a 6 yo daughter with ADHD-talk about two ends of the spectrum. I am widowed-Dad commited suicide-what a coward!!! And every week I am at the school pulling my son out of homeroom to go through his locker and pull out his missing, but done, assignments to turn in. The principal[ I swear to you is so sick of hearing from me she just gives me what ever I want,. I have literally attended school with him, rode the bus and all. Is your daughter on meds? I have know since my girl was 2 she had a problem-i lost 30 lbs the month she started walking-no lie. Keep in mind when dealing with people that ADHD and ADD have been way over diagnosed in kids with Behavioral poblems and I myself had trouble admitting my kids had a problem. Did you realize there are specialists who do the neurological tests to determine that is what it is? Keep climbing the hill I am sure there is a rainbow on the other side. 

Name: Carly | Date: Nov 29th, 2005 11:56 PM
I am a special ed teacher at an elementary school. The first step you should take is put your request for assessment in writing, date and provide a copy to the school special ed director. It is also probably a good idea to register it received mail. Then from the date the school has received they have 50 working days to complete the assessment and hold a meeting to discuss results. In order to save time during this 50 day period you might want to contact your daughters pediatrician for a medical diagnosis of ADHD. This information along with the test results will tell you whether or not your daughter is eligible to receive special ed. services.
If she does not qualify do not give up. There is a program referred to as 504. This is not a special ed program. It does however provide a way for students to receive special modifications that are decided by a team of educators that must be carried out by the general ed. teacher. This document is a legal contract.
This being said, these are California laws. Other states may have the same or similar laws. It is important that you find out what your parent rights are.
Good Luck! 

Name: jane | Date: Dec 7th, 2005 1:36 PM
i had a similar problem just keep fighting dont give up good luck 

Name: DD | Date: Dec 11th, 2005 3:32 AM
You can do what we did. They wouldnt test our daughter until my husband threanted to talk to the school board about the sitution. Lets just say they tested her witin the week. 

Name: jo | Date: Feb 15th, 2006 6:30 AM
i have a 6 year old son with behaviour problems but all the school tells me is to try supplements. the beviour is getting bad to the point that he tried to cut his hair and fingers yesterday and with a pair if scissors. i guess if the school class were reduced it would be better or more staff as the child was obviously not bing supervised. the sholl seems to just want to bury its head in the sand and it is hard for a parent to hear others speeking bad of their child and call you a bad parent when you do all you can for you child, and are a better mum than a lot of children have 

Name: missyq | Date: Feb 18th, 2006 8:02 PM
Oy! schools and teachers. I wish that given that adhd is so common that all teachers now a days would have to have learning about adhd and what to realistically expect from a child be part of their education and training. Also, I really think that teachers have forgotten that they can mentor a child and be a guide. Now it seems that they come into the classroom and want a narcissitic feedback from a CHILD and when they don't get their egos fed they hate the child. SO wrong. 

Name: Lee | Date: Dec 21st, 2010 11:24 PM
I am just searching for answers..my son is 11 yrs old and knew something was not right for a while now. I have resorted to locking him outside and his defiance is worsening and nastiness is deeper. I have an appoint for a pediatrician but if I am not convicted and charged before then I wont be surprised.
I have reached a point where I feel little for him, it has been stripped bare by his behaviour...I want to hide from him and the world.

The sweet boy I knew flickers in every now and then but taken over by something satanic as I see it. 

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