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Name: chele999

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We are listed with an agency here in NJ for about 18 months now. Recently, we met a birthmom through in-laws (not through the agency) due in October who was interested in us...a week later, we met another BM who is due in August who is also interested in us. Both of the bm's are private...not through the agency. My agency has stated that they can only facilitate the first adoption but would not be able to facilitate the second before the first is finalized. Legally can my husband and I adopt both babies? I have ties to a second agency in PA that we network with, but was curious if this can even be done since I do not know that much about the laws of adoption when it comes to something out of the ordinary like this. The bm due in October will only place the child if it is us adoptiong because she knows us and is looking for an open adoption and we are related through in-laws...and we had already agreed to work with the August BM as an open situation as well...so we are hesitant to pass on either baby as both BM's have very few resources and are both hesitant to parent. Has anyone had an experience such as this or know someone who has? I am hoping to find someone to help answer some questions for us since our agency is not too keen on the idea. Thanks in advance for any advice! ↓

Name: cl1145 | Date: Jun 10th, 2007 10:47 PM

Hi- i wish I was in your situation. Unfortunately I am in another state, so I don't know your laws. My husband and I are lookin to adopt and would be interested if the Bmom wants to interview us. We even have an online profile she can look at. If you would like to email me [email protected] are homestudy ready. Thanks ↑

Name: jk_adoption | Date: Jun 11th, 2007 12:16 AM

First of all, CONGRATULATIONS!! You must be so excited! You should be able to adopt as many babies as you want to, as close together as you want them to be, no matter what state you are in. However, you may need to quickly get a home study update in between placements. It's the agencies who will try to limit you because of their own agency policies, etc. I would highly recommend that you find an excellent adoption attorney in your state (doesn't matter what city, as long as it is in your state), and explain the situation to him/her. He/she should be able to let you know the home study requirements, and help you with both adoptions, if that is what you wish to do. Best of luck to you!

Karol ↑

Name: deanna123 | Date: Jun 11th, 2007 12:39 AM

jk_adoption has the right ideal. Take it to an attorney. ↑

Name: christophersmommy | Date: Jun 11th, 2007 2:57 AM

We are in NY - you may have to do both through a private attorney if you can. If you do I dont think you will have any issue adopting both.

Good luck and congratulations!

We want to adopt! View our website - www.noreenandjohnadoption.com ↑

Name: kimbertz | Date: Jun 11th, 2007 4:58 AM

Hi we have friends that adopted 2 babies at the same time..but they used a private attorney..the babies were born 3 weeks apart. They had no trouble at all. and the attorney only charged for paperwork for the second adoption since they were paying billable hours for the first....good luck...... ↑

Name: Carolyn | Date: Jun 11th, 2007 5:19 AM

If you use an agency, some agencies won't allow moe than 1 adoption in a calendar year.

Just carefully interview the agencies and/or attorneys you are considering.

Good luck! ↑