| Is your son old enough to actually express his feelings? How long has he been with your family? If you just recently adopted him, he may still be adjusting and just needs some time. ↑ |
| I was just wandering how old he is??? ↑ |
How old is your son? We have 8 adopted children and 4 biological children. What we did with all of our children no matter the age, we had them draw their feelings. Sometimes it was just black crayon covered paper. Then we showed the drawing to a child counselor and he/she helped us and the child to understand what he/she was feeling.
We keep these in their Life Books and have been amazed by some of the kids when they tell us as they grow older and remember drawing the pics, of how this helped them to understand their feelings.
Bonding does take time. Continue to show the same love for this child as you do for your biological or other adopted children.
Life Books are a great way for any child to a connection from where he/she comes from (whether good or bad memories are put in there) it all plays an important role in your childs life.
I wish you success with your son......give him much love. ↑ |
| I was adopted as an infant, and just to throw something crazy out there; I had food allergies and they made me act crazy. My adoptive parents started to regret their decision. Eventually they found out that I Couldn't have milk or dairy products, plus other stuff. One of my daughters also had this problem; she was insufferable as an infant. Once we found out what the triggers were she was the most awesome kid... it took 3 years to figure out what made her tick. Look into some books. Peanut butter is another one. Good Luck! PS, DEBI, I think that is awesome that you have adopted 8 children with four of your own; I also want to adopt hard to place children. Just waiting for God's timing. ↑ |
Hi There,
Call these guys, they will talk to you for free and give you professional advice. They specialize in adoption attachment issues.
Attachment Treatment and Training Institute, PLLC
32065 Castle Court, Suite 325
Evergreen, CO 80439
Phone: (303) 674-4029
Toll Free: (866) 674-4029
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E-mail: [email protected] ↑ |
