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Recently my parents passed away and I was given custody of my twelve year old brother and my sixteen year old sister. I'm finding it hard to be a good role model for them, because I don't if I am supposed to act like a mother or a sister! I feel like its my job to guide them, protect them, and discipline them, but they keep telling me that I'm just their sister so I should lay off. What should I do? ↓
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| Name: Lou | Date: Jun 16th, 2005 8:25 PM |
| I'm sorry to hear about your parents death. Like you, your siblings are probably going through a hard time of re-adjusting right now. Maybe what they need more than a parent is a friend. Rather than acting like a parent all the time, why not let them make their own decisions and offer "gentle guidance" when you see fit? At 12 and 16, they are probably pretty capable of making the right choices for themselves most of the time. ↑ |
| Name: emma turner | Date: Jul 3rd, 2005 8:14 AM |
| i got a 2 year old boy his name is franklin jon jnr turner . iam sorry for your parents death to . ↑ |
| Name: Shelly | Date: Jul 6th, 2005 5:19 PM |
| I am assuming that you are now your brother and sisters guardian?? You can be a sister to them and be there for them, but I know at 16 if you can push for somthing to be YOUR WAY, then you will do it! They must respect you, especially if they are under your roof. Nicely set them down and give them rules to follow. You will not be able to replace your parents, but you are now the adult and have to play both sides. Tell them your are not trying to be their mom, but they need to understand your position as well. ↑ |
| Name: heather | Date: Sep 2nd, 2005 5:51 PM |
| raise them like your parents would want you to. let them be stubborn and say things like that but they know that your all that they have. my brother and i had lived with my father for quite a while and he passed away. since then my brother moved away and got married. i moved in with him because we have never been seperated. i know that that was the best thing was to listen to him. you have to understand that the kids will talk back no matter who you are to them. my brother was my brother but it was also his house, his rules. your younger siblings are just going through alot. they will see later on. just ride it out. ↑ |
| Name: emj | Date: Dec 11th, 2005 3:20 PM |
mabe they are still upset.
dont be a sister or a mother at first be a friend or a guidian angel.
tell them that they choose do you want them to act like a cool mum or a cool but strict sister.
the sixteen year old is hormonale talk
from emily ↑ |
| Name: emj | Date: Dec 11th, 2005 3:24 PM |
| show them the film lilo and stich ↑ |
| Name: Tracy | Date: Jan 1st, 2006 3:49 PM |
| Tell them I might be sis but now I'm also your provider and derserve some respect! ↑ |
| Name: Mom | Date: Jan 3rd, 2006 5:10 AM |
| I would say they need to be reminded of the kind of life you saved them from. They could've ended up in foster care with people who don't love them and only see them as a pay check. I am not saying all foster parents are this way, but some are and who knows what other possible abuses they could've endured had you not stepped in? Sometimes kids need sympathy and sometimes a healthy heapin' of reality is good too. You are truly an amazing person to step into the role of parenthood for your siblings. Wish there were more like you. Best Wishes ↑ |
| Name: Lisa | Date: Apr 3rd, 2006 10:39 PM |
| Tough situation but I think what you should do is have a serious talk with them and tell them that if they arent going to treat you with respect and accept that you are their gaurdian then maybe they would like living with strangers in a foster home instead. Tell them the choice is theirs but if they dont like that idea then they better start respecting you as if you were their parent because if they keep giving you a hard time you can make that decision for them. Tell them this is hard for you too but you would like to ful-fill mom and dads wishes if theyll let you.(And they can still call you sis!!) Good Luck! ↑ |
| Name: p.c. | Date: Apr 17th, 2006 2:20 PM |
sis3,
Are you still around?
How are you doing? ↑ |
| Name: Rachel | Date: May 17th, 2006 4:15 AM |
Wow! I'm recently going through the same thing! I would love to talk to you about it more.
My hotmail, aim, and yahoo screen name is rmtsinclair. Please let me know if you'd like to talk.
I'd love to have someone who's been going through the same thing as me to talk to! ↑ |
| Name: lenn | Date: Jun 8th, 2006 7:20 AM |
| Name: johan | Date: Jun 22nd, 2006 6:55 AM |
| Name: samim | Date: Jun 29th, 2006 6:12 AM |
| i want a reall gril for making realations with her a nice and a good gril. ↑ |
| Name: angel | Date: Jul 2nd, 2006 3:02 PM |
| hey I wish you luck you just be there for them and watch them make their own decissions and also just give them time. ↑ |
| Name: Dunja | Date: Jul 24th, 2006 8:37 AM |
| I have been waithing my whole life fore my sister! ↑ |
| Name: priya | Date: Aug 10th, 2006 5:56 AM |
| jst try to make them ur frands and be close them dnt show that u r younger. take some decisions fm them bt do wish u feel its right. ↑ |
| Name: step dad | Date: Aug 15th, 2006 4:15 AM |
| i know its hard but you have to remember your there parent now try punishing them when they don't obey try grounding them or even spanking them i know it will be hard ↑ |
| Name: sis3 to stepdad | Date: Aug 15th, 2006 7:33 PM |
| I tried to follow yoyr advice I tried to tell my brother to clean up his room he told me to shut up I told him to lower his pants that I was going to spank him that what mom would of done to me if I said that to her he would not obey me so I did it myself and p;ut him over my knees and gave him a spanking now he says he hates me. I also gave my sister a curfew and told her she would get spanked if she did not obey I guess now I feel like a p;erent insted of just a sister ↑ |
| Name: dad to sis3 | Date: Aug 18th, 2006 10:23 PM |
| remember you are not only there sister now you are a parent all kids say they hate there parents when they get spanked so don't worry about it now for your sister and her curfew if she a little late besure you keep your word and spank her she will be testing you good lock ↑ |
| Name: to sis3 | Date: Aug 20th, 2006 12:35 PM |
don't worry about what your brother said when you spanked him I said that to my brother maney times my brother was 22 and I was 16 when our mouther died my brother had to raise me maney times I was put over his knee and spanked and I told him I hated him after h.s. when I was in collage I begain to learn what my bro did for me he made me a man so keep on punishing when they need it your brother ad sister will thank you when they grow up.
i was 16 when ↑ |
| Name: to sis3 | Date: Aug 21st, 2006 1:54 AM |
| as well as spanking them try telling them how good they been it may work wonders. I think you are a great sister they will remember that long after they forget the spankings ↑ |
| Name: Jesus | Date: Sep 8th, 2006 12:51 AM |
| Name: heather | Date: Sep 21st, 2006 11:09 PM |
| im sad because my cousin died ↑ |
| Name: jeff to sis3 | Date: Sep 29th, 2006 4:14 AM |
| when my dad die my sister had to become my parent my sister desided that like my dad that she would use spanking to punish me i was 14 and sis was 25 i got spanked a lot i did not like it but i gave my sister the respect she had a right to expect even tho she spanked me i love my sister ↑ |
| Name: to jeff | Date: Sep 29th, 2006 12:27 PM |
| tell me jeff did your sister spank you on the bare bottom if she did did your penis get an erection? ↑ |
| Name: jeff | Date: Sep 30th, 2006 11:53 AM |
| yes my sister spanked me on my barebottom and no i did not get an erection my spankings were punishments not sexual ↑ |
| Name: to jeff | Date: Oct 1st, 2006 7:49 PM |
| how old were you when your sister stoped spanking you ↑ |
| Name: jeff | Date: Oct 1st, 2006 8:43 PM |
| i was 17 when my sister stoped spanking me, i guess i was getting to big to be taken over knee, im 19 now i still live with her while im going to school she will still punish me by grounding me infact im beeing grounded this week for talking back to her so i can't go out this week i think i would rather have gotten a spanken ↑ |
| Name: to jeff | Date: Oct 2nd, 2006 3:17 AM |
| how at 19 can you let your sister still punish you im 17 and i have not been punished since i was 16 and then i was only sent to bed for talking back to mom i have not been spanked since i was 14 i hope your sister lets you grow up ↑ |
| Name: sally | Date: Oct 3rd, 2006 4:24 PM |
| I don't know why its so strange at 17 to still be punished im 17 and I still get punished I get grounded and sometimes I get spanked I don't like geting punished but I know I still live at home so my parente can still punish me ↑ |
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