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Name: Justine

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I need help. I am lost with this decision. My husband and are both 30 and had children from previous relationships. I have a 10 year old daughter and he has a 6 year old son. Our children are our children, we both love the other like they are own. We have both full time. My dilemma is that I want a third child, a child with my husband. My husband doesn't. For the two years we have had conversations off and on about it with no decision. How do we come up with the right choice. Does he automatically get his choice because he doesn't and I suffer. I know with everything in me that I want this baby. My husband is paralyzed and we will have to go through fertility treatments to get pregnant. I know that my husband will be happy and love the child more then anything, he is just afraid of change so much. Where do we go from here. How do we make this decision and move on either way. Any advice you may have will be greatly appreciated. ↓

Name: gr8mum2b | Date: Mar 6th, 2010 12:03 AM

Justine,
My first question to you is; Do you both have to go for fertility treatments or just one of you? If its only one of you then I would suggest that you get a sample of his sperm and inseminate yourself. Men do not get to make the decision as to when or how many children you can have. That decison is up to God. If the self insemination does not work then, you tried your best. But before you resort to that last step, talk to your husband again seriously and let him know how much this third child would mean to you and see if that works, if it doesn't at least you tried!! ↑

Name: nnoko | Date: Mar 11th, 2010 3:11 PM

Hi,justine,am sorry you are going through that,i just want you to be strong,God is incontrol,just do not know if you are consedering adoption,i am 7 months pregnant,i did lost my husband during a car accident,all i need is a God fearing,caring and loving family for my unborn baby,if you are intrested then do not hesitate to give me an email at [email protected] bless you ↑

Name: JESSICA | Date: May 29th, 2010 9:53 PM

my fiance is paralized too and we are trying to have a baby but having no luck what-so-ever. do you have any advice for me? ↑