| I have recently noticed that I have focused much more on my autistic sons needs; he is 4yrs. old, rather than my little ones needs who is 2yrs old and "typical." I think as parents we just deal with what is priority at the moment. Obviously, your daughter has some more immediate needs. Although, I understand the stress and/or guilt over maybe not doing as much for your other child. I think recognizing that maybe we have put our other child on the back burner for a moment is the first and most improtant step. I take extra time with my little one now during the day and read to him, play with him, sing with him, ect. I think as parents we just do what we need to do to get through the day. I would say probably just set aside some mommy and son time a few times a week or once a night. Where you spend time with just him and focus on his needs. I understand the struggle to keep a balance, but, I think we all do the best we can and be proud of yourself for that. You have more struggles than most parents and i'm sure you are doing a great job! Good luck! ↑ |
| yes, i used to have that in the back of my mind every time I was pulled away from my daughter due to her brother's (autistic) needs but i would explain to her as it happened that he needed extra help from both me and his big sister (her) trying to give her a role in it all and begin to foster protective instincts for her little brother and make her aware over time of little matters we can take for granted like her wonderful ability to speak, play with other children, etc; we would also do things just the two of us of course; it is years later, she is 21 and he is 19- she is a balanced, happy college student and has never complained of having felt left out and she loves her brother very much. Kids are smart, its never to early to instill in them their unique role in the family and responsibility for one another. ↑ |
Thanks for the comments. It really helps. I sometimes don't give myself credit for what I'm trying to do. We are pretty much trying to do it all on our own. Because my daughter is improving, she doesn't qualify for any services except a few hours a week of preschool which is while my son is also at school. We have been on a waiting list for years, but don't have the right answers when asked if she is making any progress at all. But we are grateful that she is making some progress although she is not off bottles at 5 or even close to potty training. But she is sleeping more than she used to (still not enough) and is talking some.
We had a long talk with my son and found some time in our schedule to work on school work and other things as well. Sometimes it is just so impossible as you know. But thanks for the words of encouragement! ↑ |
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