My future MAYBE husbands ex wife is so rude to me. She is constantly trying to say things to me that would and will make me run. What should I do?
Here is a blurb of the latest thing she e-mailed to me:Lee and I got "lost" a long time ago and just never found each other again.. But I will say, whether you can handle it or not- Lee was my ONE true love and this makes Breahna EVEN more special because she was created out of a love/bond so strong (back then) that she is truly a love child....
She text messages his phone all the time and calls him all the time.
I told him this bothers me. He siad he needs to keep peace with her and be nice or else she will not let him see their child together.
What should I do?? Today she sent the family email addresss an e-mail with flight plans and prices for one person- as she recently moved several states away with their daughter but that didn't make things better.
Please help. ↓
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| Name: Serina | Date: Apr 28th, 2006 3:05 PM |
Change your email address, she does not need it, change your phone & cell phone she does not need it Change everthing & he should too. You could even put a block for jut her number...Have a # just for her so you do not have to deal with her.
If you feel like you have to reply to her comment I would just say That is funny Lee alway says I am his 1 true love.
As For Breahna I am glad she was born out of love & Now with us she is cerounded in love. I hope some day you wiil find another to love. Lee & I will always be soul mates and eachothers one and only true loves forever more...Hope she can move on...
Dear Christy I hope this helps. I am not sure what you meean about the fight plans ??
By the way if the court says he can havethe kids she cannot stop him unless she wants to go to court again. ↑ |
| Name: jovan | Date: May 2nd, 2006 6:45 PM |
| Gurl? are you serious? DO NOT change nothin in your house. that is ur man and family. dont let anybody run you away from what's yours, especially some stupid woman who obivously have problems findin a man so she has to try and take yours. you need to really curse her out or at least tell the cops what she's been doing. but dont run from nobody. you are stronger than that and if you really wanna be with your man then you need to let that woman know straight up about how you feel. let her know that she can keep tryin but she aint gettin no where. ↑ |
| Name: Serina | Date: May 3rd, 2006 4:26 PM |
The only reason I suggested that you change your contact info with his ex is so you will not have to deal with her as much.You should not let anyone run you out of your house sooo 1 contact # should be sufficant. You will not have to listen or read her emails.You do not need her to up set your life. I think the more she knows she is getting to you the more she will do it.
God bless you and may you have peace. ↑ |
| Name: sara | Date: May 4th, 2006 3:34 PM |
| sounds like your man needs to decide who his girlfriend is ↑ |
| Name: Christy | Date: May 5th, 2006 8:28 PM |
| Yes she does try to get to me through him. He told me she is crazy and he will deal with her and the farther away she lives, the better! (We live in Minnesota, she lives in Texas) ↑ |
| Name: Serina To Christy | Date: May 19th, 2006 5:50 AM |
Have thing gotten any better now that she has moved away?
My hubbies ex is a nut job too see "Battle over wedding photos "and "Need good advise about child support." Well that is her. I wish you luck and I need it too.Know that you are in no way alone!!!
Be well and hope we both can find peace!!! ↑ |
| Name: n.n. | Date: May 28th, 2006 1:15 AM |
| Ah!,Your maybe future hubby needs to wisen up and make a choice here! First of all,he wouldn't need to keep the peace and make nice with her if he would go to court and get regular visitation! And second,if he would have had a court ordered visitation schedule,she would not have been able to move out of state at all.It almost sounds to me as if your man could still possibly be her man too and he's apparently not having too much of a problem with it. I'd give him an ultimatum to either get to court and have things set up how they should have been done in the first place or pick her and let you get on with your life.A judge may be able to order her to move back to your state in order to begin normal visitations.Either your man is afraid of court for some reason or he really doesn't mind the ridiculous communication with his ex flame. The next time she sends you a message,send her one back asking her why if they were so great together and soooo inlove with one another,she is now an ex!?Tell your man it's either you or footsies with her! That's ridiculous and I certainly wouldn't put up with it. You deserve better than that. ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: May 28th, 2006 2:04 AM |
| Name: Jenny | Date: May 30th, 2006 5:28 PM |
| I used to be in the same boat about the phone calls to him. She would ALWAYS call his cell phone just to tell him something little. I got sick of paying for those pittily calls that were not needed and I put my foot down!! He needs to tell her (the ex) that we have a home phone with caller ID and an answering machine, if she wants to talk to him about the lttle things i.e. plans for the upcoming weekend, when is she gonna get her money and so and so needs clothes or shoes.........Call me at home, if I am not there leave me a message about it and I will call you back, but quit calling my cell phone UNLESS it is an emergencey and the kids are hurt!! 4 years later it still works. I HATE Ex's. I love my step-children to pieces and I love him more than anything in this world, but if i knew then what I know now, I woldnt have married him ↑ |
| Name: ELAINE | Date: May 31st, 2006 9:19 PM |
| Girl as much as you may love him if he lets her get away with it maybe he's still in love with her and he just don't no how to let go i wouldn't marry him not till you 100% sure girl. ↑ |
| Name: hana | Date: Jun 24th, 2006 4:00 PM |
| mate... ive been there and i know its not nice... my bf'z ex has called him up in the middle of the night declairing her love, txt'd me and told me he's cheated when he went on a lads holiday, told me he hit her and he was abusive which makes me very wary when he does get mad... she's even tryed to get a asbo on me for posting a letter which i may add was for her daughters schol the next day along with the money to do it but anyway if you want my advise puish her of a cliff lol sounds good for my one ↑ |
| Name: pj754 | Date: Jun 25th, 2006 2:05 PM |
| This woman is trying desperately to get under your skin. She is working on breaking you and hubby apart. Kill her with kindness. Don't let her know, her little tactics are bothering you. Respond back to her that life is well and peachy and thankyou very much for any info she passes on to you. She is feeding on any negative response you may share. My ex calls up a lot to ask about the kids or their schedule but I keep the conversations brief. It bothers my fiance a bit when he does so but I keep the conversation focused on just the kids and nothing else. Also, maybe your hubby should only answer the extremely important phone calls or text messages from her. He shouldn't let her control him by using their daughter. Depending on their divorce decree and what state they divorced in, he has every right as a father to see is child. Phone calls should be reasonable not a nausiance. However, if she contacts with any futher comments, just respond in a up beat positive way. She won't know what to think. ↑ |
| Name: mike | Date: Jan 24th, 2011 3:20 PM |
| Name: mia | Date: Mar 1st, 2011 6:50 PM |
| Don't feel threatened. Your husband is partially right. It's risky. If she does get mad, he may have problems with visitation. That's true. But, she sounds like a nut. View her as that. ↑ |
| Name: clair | Date: Feb 9th, 2012 10:16 PM |
| Wow! You really have to tread lightly with these screwball types of people. He wants to see his child so, just ignore the crazy nut and she'll stop harrassing you. She's just insecure because deep down she knows she is sick. Don't stoop to her level. You have to treat a wierdo like a weirdo. That is keep your distance. These people are best ignored because the only interest they have in life is to try to get you to be upset to match the feeling they have inside. Some people are just born to be petty and jealous because they don't have innate common sense. Deal with a nut the way a nut should be dealt with. Leave it to the head shrinkers. Leave this troubled person far away from yourself. ↑ |
| Name: donna w | Date: Mar 16th, 2012 9:26 PM |
| Some epople never grow up. Don't worry. She's just insecure and unhappy inside. Sad, but, he does have to be nice to the woman for his child. But, don't you think it's kind of humorus that a person would go out of their way to cause nastiness in someone's life? It just shows their own insecurities and immaturity. I had a friend that caused lots of crap in my life because she was jealous that I got a job somewhere better than she was working. She stopped after I began ignoring her and after that she started doing the same thing when another friend went out on a date that she didn't approve of. It's unbelievable how some people are. ↑ |
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