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Name: Layla

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I don't know what to do.... my boyfriends ex-wife is UNSTOPABLE!! She is everywhere we go.... we go to the lake - she's there - we go out to eat - she's there - she is literally everywhere we go. She writes about me BY NAME IN DETAIL about what she thinks about me on her "myspace". She tells her kids that she HATES me and that I am the reason that their family "fell apart". I have had 2 or 3 encounters with this woman and although I am 10 years younger than she is I always come out looking like the "more" mature of the 2. I have been nothing but respectful to her and have kept my mouth shut EVERYTIME a negative thought comes into my head. This became a little more difficult when she began to include my 2 year old son and her opinions of me as a MOTHER - however, I STILL kept my mouth shut and kept my composure. I have tried continually to stay posative and set a good example for the kids but I am just at the end of my rope....... I know that since they have kids together that she is going to be in the "big" picture long term.... I just don't want her RUNNING my life. Any advise would be GREATLY appreciated. I ↓

Name: patty | Date: Aug 8th, 2007 1:42 PM

Is she stalking you? You are doing a good job of rising above the lunatic. Sounds like she is obsessed with you, H and son. ↑

Name: Layla to patty | Date: Aug 8th, 2007 2:11 PM

It seems that way, doesn't it....? But to be honest I think it is more a case of her stalking her ex - my boyfriend. She always puts herself in situations and places that she knows he will be. I mean, they were together for 9 years so she can pretty much predict what he is going to do and how he is going to react before he even has a clue. But the thought of her being obsessed with me or "us" has crossed my mind. It doesn't help that we all (the 3 of us) work together at the same company.... we all work in different buildings and I NEVER see her HERE; but she is relentless and it is begining to take it's toll on me. ↑

Name: patty | Date: Aug 9th, 2007 1:23 AM

Its too bad that you can't pay people to date her or set her up with blind dates. Usually thats the only way to take their mind off of the X. ↑

Name: Laces3 | Date: Aug 12th, 2007 1:00 AM

Maybe she's hearing from co-workers what your plans are!!! Not that it should continue by no means but if you and he were involved while they were married she probably won't stop until she resolves the hurt she feels. The only thing you can do is keep your head up and remember she's just jealous that you are with who she wants! ↑