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Name: Fred Flintstone

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I have met this wonderful girl with a 5yr old son last year who recently got divorced from an emotionally abusive husband. The ex now lives in a town a couple of hundred miles away. We got engaged early Dec, and we have discovered early Jan that shes pregnant.
My problem is that she has recently begun communicating with her ex again, and in a manner thats not befitting a divorced couple. Ive checked the phone bills and she calls him daily for 10min plus. They also started sending "cute" text messages to each other (like "a cup of love in the morning, and a basket of hugs and kisses..." etc etc) Two weeks ago she visited family in the town of her ex, and after having asked her if she had contact with him and denying it, I found out that they spent an evening together and dined at a very romantic restaurant. She has even begun to change her "version" of him since we met, and is now defending him with phrases like: "He is actually a very good person if you get to know him" I am at my wits end. Why doesnt she just tell me she has second thoughts about us? ↓

Name: John | Date: Jan 29th, 2008 4:41 PM

Fred all I can say is welcome to the club. These women come on here with all kinds of stories about us but never do they tell the truth and when confronted they have a.... As man get the hell out of the relationship because she does it now it will get real bad later. Run my friend. ↑

Name: Fred | Date: Jan 30th, 2008 5:41 AM

I know I should ,John, but she is 10 weeks pregnant with my baby... What to do? (sigh) ↑

Name: John | Date: Jan 31st, 2008 12:35 AM

Fred, I am sure that you read all the things that women are on here saying about us (men), so we men have to wake -up. I urge you to take care of your baby but leave the "b" alone. The bottom line is she will do it to you again so run now. Have you ever watch the TV She Cheaters? Wake-up man. ↑

Name: Celestine | Date: Jan 31st, 2008 1:00 PM

Fred did your girlfriend happen to run of with a guy on St. Thomas, USVI? If so, I beat I know who that guy is.... ↑

Name: Fred | Date: Jan 31st, 2008 4:15 PM

A mutual friend of us told me today that apparantly her ex-husband found out yesterday about the baby. They apparantly had a HUGE fight over the phone which ended with him telling her :"it is now finally over". Sorta explains why she came home yesterday evening all teary. When I asked her whats wrong, she told me its just her "hormones". Is it wrong of me to kinda enjoy her misery??? ↑

Name: Celestine | Date: Jan 31st, 2008 4:36 PM

Its not generally a good thing to happy over one's downfall - but in cases like this, is absolutely find to laugh at the "B" and mark you - don't fall for her excuses now - just move on. Of course, she will all of a sudden want you and love you now - but don't be fouled - just do like he did - tell her its over. As I said what comes around goes around and it did not take long her send her packing. LOL! I am a woman but hate when women do that to men and as I said I know of several men who have done that and more recently a bastard in St. Thomas by the name of Julien Henley. He really messed you a close relative of mines relationship while at the same time inteferring in a marriage in the ATL. He have no respect for folks relationship and the union of marriage - but we must also blame the women as well because the are "b". Good luck Fred you will find someone good out there - just take your time and keep your eyes open. If you need to talk privately I can provide my emial. ↑

Name: cjsims | Date: Feb 19th, 2008 2:40 AM

Sounds like Celestine is willing to help a brother out....... ↑

Name: celestine | Date: Feb 19th, 2008 3:35 PM

Sims why don't you too offer to help - I think that is what this world should be about. ↑