I feel I reached a dead end pls HELP ME
father of my baby lives in another country, my baby is almost 4yrs old, during this time its been back and forth his dad lived here 4 months we separated 4 months i lived in his country 6 months we broke up 2 months he came here and so on
But last year he only came 2 weeks in may and 2 weeks in oct and he hasnt come since then (oct 2006) thats 10 MONTHS!!!!! , im sick and tired of giving him opportunities, I felt I didnt want to take his son away from him by blocking international calls etc because i wanted to be my son the one to reject him as he got older and realize that he sucks being a father for him not be be able to blame me in the future for taking away his dad
so one more time i gave him a chance i said 3 weeks ago , u can call him, as long as you do 3 things, one to call him regulary, to send me money every month, and to come to see him soon, guess what i said this he called him the next day and that was it he hasnt called my son in 3 weeks AFTER I OPENED THE DOORS, he told me he was gonna send me money on monday its been 2 weeks and he didnt send money, so has it been enough for me to say you know what its a wrap i gave you a chance and you are just not doing your job and block int calls and dont let him see him if he comes here, my son is not a toy, either he is in his life or he isnt
what do you think plsssssssssss reply
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| Name: Lory | Date: Jul 31st, 2007 3:34 PM |
Apparently you have done your best to have your x be a part of your child's life....very admirable on your part. Your situation is obviously very hard at this point...I'm very sorry. Don't worry about taking the blame in the future...your son will know in the future what the real deal was/is. And..how great his mom is!
Have you checked into having a an order for child support from the courts... so dad HAS to help? He has a responsibilty to his child...no matter what! Many times 1st consultations with an attorney are free. Check into it.
As far as putting dad out of his life...I can only say...you have to do what you think is best for your son....b/c it seems dad isn't helping...or wanting to be a steady part of his son's life. Your right...your son is not a toy...and your x shouldn't be able to come and go in his life as he pleases. Sometimes I think that is harder on the child. I'm sorry for your situation again. I hope things work out soon... for you and your son...best wishes. ↑ |
| Name: irish Amy | Date: Aug 1st, 2007 1:17 AM |
| hi gaiamom, you are in a predicament, you are damned if you do and damned if you dont, you are going to be full of guilt for a while but that fades so dont worry, i went through that and my daughter is ok with it now, but im sure we'll get it when they are teens!! but for now you are right, they are not toys to be picked up and dropped again, you be strong and it may backfire on him so he may play ball, good luck. ↑ |
| Name: GAIAMOM | Date: Aug 6th, 2007 11:36 PM |
| thanks for the advice, i think im cutting their relationship, he hasnt called he is no longer interested ive been telling him i will take him away from him for good if he doesnt change the behavior and he is not moving one finger is like talking to the walls so, its me and my baby and i know we are going to be ok ↑ |
| Name: irish Amy | Date: Aug 6th, 2007 11:54 PM |
| Name: gaiamom | Date: Aug 7th, 2007 4:44 AM |
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