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I am just needing to share/vent with others who appear to have similar situations with their husbands ex-wifes. My husband and I have been married for 13 years, and have a 3 1/2 year old together. He has two children from his previous marriage, a 15 year old girl, and a 19 year old boy. I have a 20 year old daughter from a previous relationship. We have had numerous problems in the past with her, and after 15 plus years of them being divorced it still continues! I am committed to my marriage, my husband is a loving and caring father, and I would never leave him. But, his ex-wife with all of her demands, and the way she is raising the kids drives me (us) nuts. She is a nut case, and a control freak. My husband and her can't even have a civil conversation. When they talk, she does all the talking (yelling) and my husband cannot get a word in edge wise. We don't not live in the same state. She limits communication between the kids and my husband. The kids both have cell phones with the same company as we do, but because "it is not a convenience" for my husband, he cannot call the kids on their cell phones. If there is any communication with the kids and my husband it has to be initiated by him. So, needless to say my husband rarely talks with the kids. Plus, her answer to getting the kids to do what she wants is to hand them everything on a silver platter! We disagree. My husband, because of his papers, is still paying child support on the 19 year old. Plus, his ex-wife expects him to pay half of the college tuition. I am all for helping out, but to give the kid a full ride when all we ask for is communication and it doesn't happen. Why should we pay! However, the kid expects it! He says "everyone I know is getting a full ride!" I could go on forever, but basically it is all about the MONEY! The kids come to visit maybe twice a year for maybe 4-5 days. If we go visit, the kids are given a hard time! We can't win! I just don't know what to do! ↓
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