I've been dating a wonderful man for nearly 18 months. We have a positive relationship with few disagreements and fights until it comes to anything related to his daughter. (I knew he had a daughter and that she had her own set of issues (as we all do) and that dating him is a package deal as he put it).
The issue I need suggestions on how to deal with is related to how "not to get upset" when the daughter has a melt down which then results in the boyfriend having a meltdown and becoming depressed due to the fact that his daughter is upset. He harbors much guilt that his daughters issues are his fault. When he tells me things and I respond by getting upset - he gets more upset and it basically is always my fault - ot at least that is how I feel. The other issue that I can't seem to overcome is related to his oversensitivity about anything being said that he can remotely relate to his daughter. He admits he is oversensitive about his kid. I just don't understand why he and I have to continually fight about stuff that shouldn't be an issue to begin with but becomes one when the topic of his daughter comes up.
If anyone outthere has suggestions on how to avoid these traps I would love to hear it - as the relationship is definitely worth working on however I am at a loss as to what to do.
Thanks ↓
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