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Name: molly

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how do I get over it and move on. I'm not going to go in to the details of the spllit because I've wrote it down in a journal and took up 7 pages basically we dated for a very short time he talked me into early marriage and then began arguing over birth control I took that as a sign that he wanted a baby now that the baby is here he doesn't want him and I think he's been cheating on me for quite awhile I can't sleep or eat and as I told him I could give a damn about him but i want him in my son's life and the fact that he hasn't been there for his son is making me sick i'm done loosing sleep over a man that doesn't want me but how do I get over the fact that he would create a child with me than change his mind. ↓

Name: Fiona | Date: Jan 24th, 2006 1:23 PM

He sounds stupid and immature. Dump him and find someone who's worthy of you and your son. I found a lovely man after my sons' father decided that he had better things to do than be a proper dad. My husband is a great step-father and my son really appreciates this.

Don't waste your time worrying over such a loser. ↑

Name: BILL | Date: Jan 30th, 2006 9:53 PM

IT'S HARD I AM WITH A WOMEN WHO HAS 3 KIDS AND ONE OF THEM IS AUTISTIC. AND THERE FATHER HARDLY EVER SEE'S THEM AND HAS MADE FUN OF THE AUTISTIC BOY BECAUSE HE IS OVER WEIGHT. YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE ONE DAY THAT WILL LOVE YOUR SON LIKE HE WAS HIS OWN. TELL THE ASS TO KISS OFF YOUR SON'S BETTER OFF,BECAUSE IT WOULD DEVISTATE HIM IF HE FOUND OUT HIS FATHER DID NOT WANT HIM. ↑

Name: cindy | Date: Aug 2nd, 2006 6:30 PM

So find some who will love u and your son... ↑

Name: Lizzi | Date: Aug 2nd, 2006 11:02 PM

Sadly it happens every day. All you can do is accept it and be more cautious about who you let into your life in the future. ↑

Name: mosh | Date: Aug 3rd, 2006 2:47 PM

Molly
The same thing happened to me, My husband left me and the baby, My son is now 10 today actually and he has never seen him. We have two children together a daughter who is 19 and our 10 yr old. He has never had anything to do with our son. no Birthdays no Christmas nothing. This is really hard to deal with as it hurts me everyday. However you can need to do whats best for your child if that is the road he has choosen forget him move on . Thats exactlly what I did a met a man 7 yrs ago who loves my son like his own. My son calls my partner dad and loves him. My son knows who his real father is. I would never lie to him. Your partner is the one who is going to miss out be strong. ↑

Name: pj754 | Date: Aug 4th, 2006 4:35 PM

Don't force him to be a part of your son's life. If he doesn't want to be a part of his life, then it's his loss. As long as you are there for your son, tell him how much you love him and give him the support he needs, he will respect you for it. He may get angry with his father and perhaps down the right, his father will change his mind. Focus on the positive things, your health, a healthy son, etc.... Like others have commented, you may find someone, who loves you and your son unconditionally, down the road. But for now, remember, your not at fault. Your husband it. He has lost sight of his priorities in life and it will come back around to bite him in the butt. If he wants to act this way, he isn't worth the breath he breathes. Stay strong and firm. ↑

Name: brianna | Date: Aug 7th, 2006 3:20 AM

Dump him and move along with life for the best of yalls child ↑

Name: Layne | Date: Aug 7th, 2006 3:32 AM

Find someone else my husband is a wonderful step father. dont worry about things you have no control over. This is his lose. I bet when you find someone else someday he'll come back then it will be to late. ↑