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I found out i was pregnant January first! yes happy new year. everything was great until my b/f started putting his hands on me while being pregnant. i grew up with a family like that so i left him. I know i will be a great mother. i just want the father to be ther for his child ya know? but afraid of the hpysical/mental abuse he may bring along. not really sure what to do, ive never been pregnant so i dont even know how i should feel pregnancy wise right now. could i have lost the baby and not know it? will my doc give me an ultra sound if i ask just to be at peace with everything. i fear for my unborn childs life! please help any advice is great advice :D ↓
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| Name: nicole miller | Date: Jan 30th, 2007 2:52 AM |
I was in just about the same position 7 months ago. I'm 18 and I got married very very young (just after I turned 16). After lots of ups and downs with my ex-husband I agreed to try to get pregnant... but right after realized that it hadn't changed a thing. I may not have left him the first time he put his hands on me.... but I sure as hell left him the first time he put his hands on me after I found out I was pregnant (which was just days before).
It's one thing to try to work out a marriage (or relationship) when it's just you - but it's quite another to bring a baby into that. I'd say you made the right choice. At least it was the right choice for me.
I met my current fiance just days later (I know that's really quick... but it was sort of a 'love at first site' type of thing) and my ex gave up all rights to the baby to him. MUCH better situation entirely. Even if I hadn't met my fiance - anything would have been better than living with a man that could possibly pass on that type of evil behavior to my child, or worse.
And as for the miscarriage question - it is very unlikely that you could miscarry and not know it. There is almost always clear symptoms (bleeding, cramping, fever, etc.) that something is wrong. If you haven't had those then I wouldn't worry, and if you have then get to the ER quickly and they will do an emergency scan for you. ↑ |
| Name: sarah_renee18 | Date: Feb 5th, 2007 7:34 PM |
| thank you for that information... i did go to the doctor and i have TWINS still not with the father. he wants them to have his last name and i said no because he has threatened to take them. so until i get that trust i will grant him that but not until he grows up!!! again thank you its awesome that i can find ppl in the same situation,. ↑ |
| Name: oh_so_excites | Date: Feb 5th, 2007 7:37 PM |
| Name: sweet tomorrow | Date: Feb 5th, 2007 10:18 PM |
| Name: sarah_renee18 | Date: Feb 7th, 2007 3:51 PM |
| Yeah, its really exciting but kind of scary. today i am 11 weeks and 1 day! almost 3 months tomorrow i go to have some blood work done for my nutritional visit, then the following week i get another ultra sound and all that neat stuff! :) ↑ |
| Name: monique_allen | Date: Feb 8th, 2007 4:48 AM |
wow, thats crazy! I've never been in that situation personally, but my mother and sister both went through it. MY advise to you would be that if you have ANY doubts or fears concerning your childs well being, then get out. Stay away from thee father even if it takes moving and getting a R.O! I know it seems extreme,. but you can't take any chances when it comes to abusive men. Especially when children are involved. And as far as being concerned about your children "having a father." Why would you want them to have a father that has the mindset he has? What if you are having boys? Abuse runs in families, and children mock what they see. Trust me honey, they can apologize all day and night, but at the end of the day, an abuser is an abuser, and it's very likely that he'll do it again is prompted.
But on a lighter note, CONGRATS! Twins, that is amazing! You must be soo excited! I wish you the best of luck and if you ever need to talk about anything, don't hesitate to look me up. My yahoo ID is [email protected].
And don't worry, everything will work out for you. who knows, maybe you'll turn out like nicole miller and find someone perfect for you. There is someone for everyone, you just haven't found your yet! ↑ |
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