| if he stays with you past your pregnancy, and he becomes your babies dad. then he wont just up and leave because a dad has nothing to do with blood. a dad is someone who tucks you in at night and chases away the monsters. but with all of your hormones i think dating would be hard. ↑ |
| I would not recommend dating while pregnant....way to many hormones reacting strangly......I suggest just hanging out, being friends and wait until baby is born and see what happens ↑ |
| take things very slowly. Just because you date someone does not mean that you will be together enough for him to be your childs father. Cross that bridge when you get there. I can give you one bit of advise though as a long time single mom. If your child's biofather is not in the picture and has no plans to be a part of the babies life then don't introduce you dates to your child. It will jsut confuse him/her. The only person that my son met was my husband and we had been dating for quite some time beofre I introduced them. For a long time I refered to my now husband as "my friend" Kids who do not have a father will overly bond with other men and it will be setting the child up for disapointment. Just MHO of course. Good luck and remember don't rush or hold your self back. let nature do it's thing. ↑ |
I don't think that there is any problem with dating while pregnant. I started dating my current fiance when I was 5-6 weeks along. As far as the concern of what that makes him to your baby.... I would really think about 2 things:
1. The decision to be a father to a child is an 18-year iron-clad commitment, and it should be entirely up the the guy. If you try to sway it either way or make it a condition of your relationship then you'll just be asking for trouble and resentment later. Let him know that you're okay with it if he just wants to be "the friend", and make sure he knows what he wants as well.
2. What are the chances that the biological father will end up being in the picture? If a few years from now he reappears and your child is calling someone else "Daddy" then it could be very confusing if he ends up getting visits and such.
When Paul and I decided that were were serious and committed, and he decided that he was going to be my baby's father 100% those are the things that we talked about. I wont go into boring detail - but I made sure that my ex was legally barred in every direction from changing his mind as well... so there is no chance he can attempt to take over later (although in our case that involved a little white light on some court documents on both of our parts). I would not want to leave any possibility open to confuse my son later in life.
But... all that being said... you may not even really get serious with this guy. Go out. Have fun. Don't force anything, and prepare for life with your new bundle of joy with or without anyone else. By the time you're nearing d-day you probably wont be much in the mood for going to dinner and a movie even, so there's no harm in doing that while you still can. Of course this is all my oppinion and experience. Sorry about how long winded it was. ↑ |
| I would go on the date just take things slow so you both can see if later on it will work. No reason while you should stop your social life ↑ |
