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Ok so I decided to have my tubes tied when I have my C-section (I signed the papers today) but when I told my family they were less than thrilled.. I guess they are just afraid I am going to regret it (which hey I might). But with that being said I am 25 I will have 2 children a boy and a girl, I feel I couldnt ask for more, not to mention I want us to be finacially secure to provide in every way for my children (cause trust me I would have like 12..lol)! I just feel that this baby will complete my family but I dont like the vibes I am getting that I maybe doing the wrong thing.. Is anyone else planning a tubal or have any insight? ↓
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| Name: connie | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 3:41 AM |
| Can you ever get it revised? I only want 2 kids too, finacially is very expenses to have lots of kids, school, cars, sports etc. I have 2 brothers and I always remember traveling, one had to sit in the front of the car, someone always slept on the cot not in a bed in hotels. But I think everyone is different. ↑ |
| Name: mommyagain | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 3:41 AM |
| Hey Karen... I am doing my Tubal in January with my C-section also. If it were up to me in my own little fairytale world I would have a dozen... but everything you are saying makes complete sence, who can afford it? Also I too feel complete. I think these are normal emotions to feel with such a decision. Dont let it be your families decision though it is up to you it is your life. ↑ |
| Name: koz | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 3:42 AM |
| I just had my 4th baby and had a tubal...but we knew for sure we were done(plus the doctor said i couldn't have another c section) if you have any doubts don't do it. i was torn when i had my 3rd baby and decided to wait cuz i just felt like it wasn't right...so now i have my perfect little girl!! Just go with your instinct and don't even worry about what eveyone thinks. do whats is right in your heart! Good luck..let us know what you decide! ↑ |
| Name: granny2be | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 3:49 AM |
| I had mine tied after my third (only because they refused after my second due to my age). I never regretted it...or the bonus baby for not getting them done before. If it is what you and your husband want then by all means do it, after all, you are the one's who know what ou can financially afford. Two is a good number anyway. Good luck with your decision. ↑ |
| Name: christiansmommy | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 3:53 AM |
| WELL, AT LEAST YOU CAN HAVE THEM UNTIED IF YOU CHANGE YOUR MIND! :) ↑ |
| Name: tylersmom06 | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 4:01 AM |
| Thanks girls! I just feel like my family would be all I wanted.. and like Tasha said in many years if I were to change my mind.. it can be reversed! But I think 2 is perfect for us! I had a brother and sister and like Connie said.. it was hard to fit 3 of us in a car and staying in hotels on vacation... I think my family is just thinking about ... wow that is a pretty permanant decision you are making, I think too because they are old fashioned might have a little to do with it! And why not have it done.. I am having a C-section anyway.. I mean why make myself have to go through another surgery when It can be done at once! ↑ |
| Name: koz | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 4:27 AM |
| just a tip...my doctor also cauterized the tubes, so he siad they are almost completely separated..so if down the road i were to ever change my mind, it would be really hard to reverse. so i think they have different ways of doing it... ↑ |
| Name: Thismakes2 | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 4:28 AM |
| I am 25 and pregnant with my 2nd as well. If we were having a boy then I think we would be considering the same thing but we are having daughter number 2. I know that one day my fiance is going to want to try for a boy so I might as well wait for baby number 3. :) But I know that no matter what 3 is all we could handle financially these days. I don't think you are doing the wrong thing if this is what you and your husband wants ((and like everyone else said, you can always reverse it)). ↑ |
| Name: christiansmommy | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 5:03 AM |
| oh, you want to hear something crazy? one of my aunts only wanted one child and after she got it, she had her tubes tied AND BURNED!!! that way, they could never "accidentally" become untied and result in another pregnancy. i guess she was really serious! ha! :) ↑ |
| Name: jennifer early | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 5:42 PM |
| just be careful. your mind and financial situation could change in 5 years. you will only be 30. just make sure you are 100% sure. if you have any doubt, maybe you should wait. ↑ |
| Name: Kristy84 | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 6:00 PM |
Karen,
yeah you just need to make sure as to how the procedure is done b/c I know that at my hospital it is permanent and many dr.s are performing the permmant procedures these days. Also, the reversal is costly and not covered by ins. If you really want this, then go for it. Like you said, if you could you'd have 12. I think oftentimes the decision to have another child is made brashly and spontaneously w/out regards as how the family is going to support them. I think your family should support you in whatever you want!!! ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 6:36 PM |
| My husband and I are think about the same thing right now, but only him getting the big V. I already have a son who is 9 and a step son who is 8. even though he lives with his mother we still pay for everything. so this will make our 3rd child. I think that from a fininical stand point that is enough for us. I know people who make less and have more children then that, but I do not want to struggle. ↑ |
| Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 6:58 PM |
I had thought about it and now I am undecided because I have been debating with myself the last couple of days about whether or not I want child #3. My husband really wants #3 but I am not 100% sure that I do. I fear morning sickness which I had with my son and with my currant so I know the chances of having morning sickness with #3 is likely. I think I'm with Koz on this one. If you are doubting whether or not this is the right thing to do at this time I wouldn't go through with it.
But speaking of bad vibes...The other day I told my mom that Marc and I were talking and we decided that when we are done with children that I am going to sell my eggs. I thought for sure she was going to fall over and die. She looked at me and said, "This is some kind of joke right." ↑ |
| Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 7:00 PM |
| My husband said that he would have it done because the recovery time is shorter for him. ↑ |
| Name: mommyagain | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 8:32 PM |
| That has been my theory Karen. I figure shoot they are already in there and i know I want it done so do it then. You will be ok. And if you are not sure dont do it but once again dont let anyone persuade you either way. ↑ |
| Name: tylersmom06 | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 8:55 PM |
I want to do it.. I think that what kinda weirded me out is the "requests sterilization" .. that sounds kinda bad! Oh well! My hospital uses the clips.. so they cut your tubes and just clips them off.. just in case! It'll be ok! It wasn't so much me doubting but the responses I was getting for making that decsion... like I was ending my womanhood.. so unexpected..lol!
Heather- We can do this!
Ethansmom- too funny.. I think I will tell that one tomy parents next.. they will die! Its your eggs though do what you want! ↑ |
| Name: mommyagain | Date: Oct 20th, 2006 9:22 PM |
| We will be just fine right!!??? ↑ |
| Name: jamcarant | Date: Oct 21st, 2006 5:30 AM |
| I had mine done when I had Anthony, but mine is a different situation than yours. I think if you want to do it, go ahead. Later in life, when we get everything straight, if we want more kids me and my boyfriend are going to adopt I think. ↑ |
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