| i spaced my first 2 2 years apart they are actucally 26 month my next one and youngest will be 14 months appart but that was alittle un expected ↑ |
Wouldn't the spacing depend on your own individual situation.
- Financial status, your health and the health of your first child, your employment if you work, your partners views, how you cope over the first few months of your baby's life, how tired you are and so on. ONLY YOU AND YOUR PARTNER CAN MAKE THIS DECISION. If this is what you decide to do then it is the right decision, if you don't then this is also the right decision. Best wishes on whichever one you choose.
lilflower xoxoxoxoxoxo ↑ |
| I know lilflower... I was just meaning as far as the siblings themselves. The demands of having two in diapers vs. one in diapers one in pre-school... etc. The other things of course will be the main deciding factor (financially we're able, but health and how tired I am are unpredictable.) ↑ |
| I have a son that's 17 months old, and I am 5 months pregnant on #2... when my baby is born the two BOYS will be a little less then two years apart. ↑ |
| I know a lot of people with 2 under 2, the siblings themselves are very close and the best of friends. They have said to me that there will be lots of washing and diapers etc anyway so there is no big difference. And both get lots of attention. ↑ |
| I too wanted my children close together. However for me I had 2 things going for me. 1) I had to make sure that I had at least 18 months between my first c-section and my second because of the risks of uterine tears (they are higher chance if you have your c-section any closer then the 18 months) and 2) I was dignosed with secondary infertility which made getting pregnant the second time almost impossible without the use of fertility drugs. But my husband and I did start trying when my son was 6 months. ↑ |
EthansMom0213 is it hard with two so young? Do you think you will try and have anymore?
You are so lucky that you were told that you had to have kids then. Imagine all those women who dont know and leave it to 'sometime later'. ↑ |
I'm actually undecided right now as to whether or not I want anymore. I am between wanting another one and not wanting another one. I still have time to think about it since my second isn't sure to be here for another 10 weeks. My husband wants another one. I am more afraid of the morning sickness then I am of anything else and I can almost guarentee that I will have it with my third since I had it with both my son and my currant.
My husband and I actually discuss the possibilities of not being able to have children before we got married. Which we found out in one of our marriage classes isn't exactly a topic that is disgussed until much later into the marriage when they find out medically that they are unable to. But because of all the medical problems that I was having we didn't know. ↑ |
| EthansMom0213 I am pleased to hear that you and your hubby have great communication. In our premarriage class they said children and money are 2 of the big deal breakers when it comes to marriage if they arent spoken about before you say 'I do'... some people say 'I dont' want kids and then thats it. ↑ |
We had been together for 10 years before we got married so he was there when I was in and out of the doctors office because I was in so much pain. I think for us it was important that we disguise the possibility since the doctors didn't know. They couldn't even figure out what was wrong.
Money is something that I will not argue about...my husband know that I have no problem sitting down and talking about finances but if it starts getting heavy I end the conversation before it start into a fight. I tell him all the time, "I am not going to fight about money." ↑ |
My husband was actually one of those people who didn't want to have kids until his neice was born. I always knew that I wanted to have children I just didn't know if they were going to be mine. At 18 I actually wanted my doctor just to give me a hysterctomy. I had already come to deal with the possiblity of not being able to have my own children and I was so sick of being in pain all the time and no one being able to tell me what was wrong. I actually had two exploratory surgeries because I was dianose with having beginner stage of endometriosis (which could be the cause of all my fertility problems). But because I was only 18 they wouldn't because 1)I didn't have anything that would medically require them to do such a surgery,2) I was not married for at least 5 years and 3) I only 18 and 4) I did not have children already.
I am happy that they did not go through and give me what I had wanted at the time because I have a wonderful 2 1/2 year old boy who would not be here right now. And although she was hard to conceive without the help of fertility drugs I would not be expecting my second child. I did however pray to GOD that should he give me one biological child that he would give me a second. So for awhile I was actually angry with him and felt that he hated me for something. I wondered what I did to make him hate me like he did. ↑ |
